So we got into an argument a few days ago because she has been acting weird and it doesn’t help that I overthink. Basically it was about what’s going on and why she is acting so differently. Like leaving me on read, not saying she loves me after I say it and just sending smile faces. Also just sending blank picture back and forth on snap and just not able to hold a conversation anymore. During the argument she told me to just block her and I kept saying no because I wanted to work it out but then it lead her to telling me to not message her all the next day. So I did what she asked and didn’t message her untill sometime the next day I messaged her like I’m sad about all this I need to removed you odd stuff because it makes me sad seeing you ignore me and what not but told her she can text me whenever on my phone. So she texted me about 30 mins later saying stuff like she’s sorry and how she was crying and what not and we worked it out but the it instantly went back to being left on re...

Just came across a cute girl in my neighborhood on a dating app (hinge). I’ve seen her on walks around and working out. We say hi, smile and wave whenever we see each other, and have had a brief conversation, but don’t really know each other. Thoughts on creative ways to message her in the match and how to approach this? Thanks friends! Submitted April 25, 2020 at 12:01AM Just came across a cute girl in my neighborhood on a dating app (hinge). I’ve seen her on walks around and working out. We say hi, smile and wave whenever we see each other, and have had a brief conversation, but don’t really know each other. Thoughts on creative ways to message her in the match and how to approach this? Thanks friends!

So as seen in the title I know this guy (17) who I kinda like (I really don't know what love feels like :/). He's helped me get through some... sad stuff (see my other posts but I'm getting off topic). Now I'd like to point out that I'm a 13F and he's a 17M. We met through my sister (15) on Xbox (I use my sister's account as I don't have one -.-) and chatted through Instagram. The reason I want to know if he likes me is because he is willing to talk at 3am with me about stuff that happened till 4am even though he's tired. When we've talked in dms he's also said he'll go up to his friends (squad we met through) and defend me. I also want to point out we have talked about them behind their backs (jerk move but them being 4-5 years older are huge jerks to me and have made me full on sob in my bathroom because I got so mad). He also says the only reason he's still friends with them is because he can't avoid them (friends of friends)....

So I’ve had this female friend for the last few years now . She’s 24 and I’m 26. She’s not back looking but we’ve only been just friends since we’ve known each other. However, last Friday we had some drinks at her house. Around the end of the night when everyone left, I went to use the washroom and she was in there. I asked her to hurry cause I have to pee. Around 2 minutes later she called to me and said that I could go now. So I went to use the washroom and when I turned on the light, I saw her hiding behind the door. She then told me to just go she doesnt want to move. I told her to leave but she kept insisting over and over she won’t look and just go. I felt weird having her literally 1foot away so I told her to keep her back to me so I could go pee. I then looked in the reflection of the mirror and I caught her staring at my d*ck. I then left and told her I couldn’t go with her right there. She then said “just come back inside and shut the door”. I told her it’s too weird having ...

So the guys who has no motivation to do better is slightly worse than the guy in the same position with a plan (me). When a woman finds out that the guy she likes is still in this situation of dependence then all other good characteristics don’t help out. Now, as someone who is motivated to lose weight and finally be physically appealing I’m wondering if there’s a point other than health reasons. Because I do see myself as a good looking guy now with chubbiness and believe I’d be great with a toned body. There’s chances I’ll be good enough as a hook up, to flirt with, get approached. As someone who doesn’t want meaningless things I don’t know how to tell a girl off. I’d love to be able to explain my life situation but also feel like I’ll be laughed at. Submitted April 25, 2020 at 12:10AM So the guys who has no motivation to do better is slightly worse than the guy in the same position with a plan (me).When a woman finds out that the guy she likes is still in this situation of...

TL;DR: I (24M) want to give a waitress (26F)a note asking for her number. I'm doing this because due to the pandemic she working behind the counter but not actually at the counter. I know it's rather juvenile to do something like this but given the circumstances of the pandemic and the current situation at the restaurant I feel like it's my best bet (Open to suggestions). So a bit of background. I've been wanting to ask this waitress out for awhile, just as I grew the confidence to do so. The pandemic hit and the restaurant closed down for a month, I thought to myself "That's it. I missed my chance." But miraculously the restaurant re-opened (with a strict schedule) and I went to restaurant twice and found her working on one of the days. However rather than normally waiting tables, she is behind the counter taking in order and passing them to the chef (not really interacting with patrons). However, whenever I visit, she always makes an attempt to tell me...

It's horrible. I've been ghosted for this girl today and I'm feeling like shit. It's the first person I was interested in for a long time and now she just did this to me. ALWAYS be honest. Just saying "Sorry, I'm not interested" as harsh as it may sound, is already a thousand times better than just ignoring all of a sudden. The person will be confused and forever wondering what they did wrong. Submitted April 25, 2020 at 12:16AM It's horrible. I've been ghosted for this girl today and I'm feeling like shit. It's the first person I was interested in for a long time and now she just did this to me. ALWAYS be honest. Just saying "Sorry, I'm not interested" as harsh as it may sound, is already a thousand times better than just ignoring all of a sudden. The person will be confused and forever wondering what they did wrong.

Hey all. So if you know my handle you already know most the stories behind this girl-they’re horror stories to make a long story short. She’s insane. I broke it off with her right before quarantine after i couldn’t handle her manipulation tactics, clinical depression, bipolar, mental and physical abuse. So, to give some backstory. I’m a (21M) and we were together for about 6 months in total, very rocky points where we would break up/get back together. It was a terrible relationship, no trust on either side (including me). Throughout the relationship, she made death threats, threatened to tell my mother certain things, popped my tires, sent hoodlums to my house, etc etc the list goes on. So today i get home after an extremely hard day landscaping, and i take a nice hot shower. When i exit the shower, i see a text from her, which i know isn’t a good sign. I check it, and it’s a picture of a tattoo of my name written in cursive, on her neck. Yes, after about 2 months of being broken up-...

So, as the title says, my husband doesn't like my mom and its making things hard. My mom and I live about 5 hours apart and I don't get to see her too often, but my husband has really strong opinions when she comes to visit. Some background: yes, my mom is a handful. She is loud, she can be whiney and complain a lot, she doesn't always clean up after herself, and she smokes like a chimney. Honestly, all of these things annoy me. On the other hand though, she is always really helpful and selfless and she is fun. And bottom line, she's my mom and I love and miss her. Another thing to note is that she doesn't have much money and we live in a resort town. For her to come visit is financially hard for her, so I often like to offer to split hotel costs or for her to sleep in the living room of our 1 bedroom apartment. Now for my husband, whenever I bring up my mom visiting he gets really on edge and it almost always ends in an argument. He does not support me helping m...

My girlfriend (20F) thinks that I (20M) say/mean misogynistic or sexist things when I don’t. For example, maybe 2 weeks ago, she said that the quarantine was gonna make her go crazy and buy new clothes. My response to her, who I believe is the most beautiful human being, was “Can’t wait to see you in them babe”. Now the meaning behind this response in my mind was that she is a beautiful girl whom I love and adore, and I enjoy seeing her beauty and admiring it, therefore I would obviously be excited to be able to admire that more. However, she is a feminist and full-on liberal (nothing wrong with that, I’m just giving context. You guys don’t know her and I do, ya know?). Anyways, she immediately replied upset, telling me that she doesn’t buy clothes for me to see her in, but for herself. Now I got upset because I felt like she accused me and assumed of me that I believed some misogynistic thing like “the only reason girls should buy nice clothes is to please their man,” which I don’t....

I joined this community for this post because I'm at a loss. Me (19F) and my boyfriend (18M) have been together for about 4 months (we were bestfriends for years) I'm about to go away to college which is 4 hours away from where my boyfriend is going. To give you all a little background I grew up very poor in and out of foster care and grew up in "the hood". The school I am going to attend is a big school, the best in the state actually. I only applied because my college advisor told me it couldn't hurt, I never imagined I would get accepted and furthermore get a scholarship to go there. I found out about the offer only a few days after me and my bestfriend who is now my boyfriend kissed for the first time. Of course I accepted because everyone tells me it would make me a success story. I told him that day knowing he would be upset because we were bestfriends. A month goes by we have gotten closer than we had ever been and he asked me to be his girlfriend and I sa...

I have only had 2 serious boyfriends. They both cheated in different ways. My first relationship was manipulative, toxic, and overall just horrible. I was happy and naive at the beginning so I let a lot of things slide. I trusted him whole heartedly so I wasn't a "crazy" girlfriend. But then he started becoming controlling and jealous for no reason. Long story short he would text other females whenever we argued, posted shirtless pictures on his instagram (when we're in a middle of a fight), and then do shady things behind my back till it led to actual cheating. I caught him with his co-worker. I mean I'm over that. We were young at the time (17/18). I was too naive to think my first was going to be my last. My second boyfriend (22M) was an angel. We've been together for almost a year and a half. I love him so much. He was perfect; total opposite of my first relationship. He was never jealous, supported and trusted me 100%, treated me like a princess, NEVER ...

Me and my boyfriend were snapping as we usually do and I see him snap me with a strange caption: “send me and I’ll send I promise”. When I confronted him, he kept saying that he forgot what he said until I kept asking him. Something was just not sitting right with me. Now our relationship has had its ups and downs having been together for about a year and half now. Anyway, he explained to me that his friend “Joe” kept egging him on about buying the nudes of a girl they used to know. He and “Joe” used to live together and there was a girl there who had basically had sex with everyone there but my bf because he said he wasn’t into it. Anyway, he said he was curious and was going buy her nudes because his friend needed the money. If you were good friends, wouldn’t you just have lent some money? I’m shocked because this is out of character for him. Maybe I’m just missing something here. Should I be concerned or is this just a guys thing? TL;DR my boyfriend was going to help his friend o...

Using a throwaway as I’m not looking to blast anything private or shame anyone, just want some genuine thoughts on communicating about my partners OCD with them and would like some insight: I (F 29) just moved in with my partner (NB 30) of 7 years just before all of this lockdown stuff occurred; we lived on opposite sides of the state beforehand. I love them dearly and we have been through a lot together but now that we’re in a shared environment in a high period of stress their OCD has gone from being something I was aware of to something that overshadows daily interactions. The thing is that they used to make really specific requests that I went with for a variety of reasons, from being respectful to being supportive but now they’ve escalated to a point where it feels really controlling. They’ve always asked more of me than other people, I have to wash my hands constantly going in and out of their space, I have to wash my clothes separately from theirs and can’t sit near their spo...

We're in college fyi. ​ One of the girls in the group, Erica, began a conversation about hookups. It was pretty shallow, but I was bored, so I figured, why not, right? I mentioned I had hooked up with this girl named Madison. A lot of people seemed surprised that I had hooked up with her, because she's known around campus as a girl who basically isn't smart enough to get into our school who only got in because she's a rich donor. My friend group knows that I don't exactly view her that favorably intellectually. ​ So they brought that up, and I shrugged and told them that I didn't care at all about her personality, as we were just hooking up and I just cared she was hot. This caused Erica to accuse me of 'objectifying' her down to her body, and said it was sexist. ​ I mean, she's technically right that I was objectifying Madison here, but I think given the context, it's totally fine and not sexist at all. We hooked up once, and hook-ups are...

For some time now, I have noticed that our love and flair has been dwindling. I’m not surprised, but still very hurt and distraught. The three years we spent together was probably the one the happiest things that happened in my life. It was my first serious relationship and the first that I felt genuine love, support and care from anybody. However, those happy moments did not outlast the sad ones. The past 2 years my boyfriend has been dealing with alcoholism and a good amount of that time was spent arguing and pleading with a man in denial. Our arguments increasingly got worse over time and each time ended with me giving him an ultimatum. “It’s me or the alcohol.” It was a cycle— him choosing me, both of us apologizing for the way we acted, he goes back to drinking more and more, etc. on constant repeat for the last two years. I cant explain to him what it’s like to love a sober man and not the piss drunk him. When in his eyes, he doesn’t abuse me. Last month, right before the who...

I already know this title is going to make me sound awful, but let me just start by saying this has been weighing on me for a while. I have lost my job (temporarily) due to the virus, and my partner is an essential grocery worker. We haven’t seen each other in about a month, other than a few walks, because we live separately and I don’t feel comfortable exposing myself to him right now and he respects this choice to keep me safe. Since we’ve effectively gone long distance, a lot of thoughts and emotions have come up for me that have been there for a while. Many of them we’ve discussed and then tabled because they can’t be resolved until we move or do something drastic.. so it just lingers. Now I’m feeling like I’m not sure I can see us being compatible long term. I feel like I’m in a holding period, waiting for something to become the “make it or break it” moment. My partner and I have been together for 3 years, and have otherwise been friends since middle school. Our foundation is s...

Okay guys. Throw-away account for obvious reasons. Me (F23) and my boyfriend (M22) were together for 7 years. We had a great relationship, were super close with each other’s families, had a future planned together after university... but we broke up in August 2019. There was some communication problems due to having different views about certain recreational activities. We talked through everything and got back together for a couple of months until October, we were communicating amazingly, however my boyfriend started to suffer with anxiety and depression during this time because of everything that happened. We broke up in October. It was a very mutual decision and was handled very maturely. We just wanted to give each other space so that we could both be happy. I felt that I was over my ex and I got a new boyfriend (M21) in December (in hindsight, I should have given myself more time alone). We are still together, we have fun, and I do love him. But I’ve just stared to think about m...

Hello everyone. Hope you are all taking care of yourselves. My gf's mum has died unexpectedly of a stroke. They lived in separate cities, but were very close. My gf on her way to her mum's city right now with her father and brother. Here, she lives with her father, who doesn't know she has a girlfriend. The death of a mother is horrible, but the fact we're going through a global pandemic makes it even harder. I tried to go visit her on the days prior to her death, while her mum was at the ICU, but my mother wouldn't let me because it's too much of a risk to get in a public transport. We live 45 minutes away, I don't have a car, she doesn't own one either, so I'm forced to either take a train/bus or ask someone to drive me. To make matters worse, my mother doesn't really like my gf (there's plenty of jealousy and a little homophobia there) and isn't really an empathetic person. I saw her today for a very short while before she traveled ...

Basically, I haven’t had a decent relationship with my mom (45) until recently. Growing up, she was always very verbally abusive and had a bad temper. I was always the cause for her problems (esp her weight). She always took her anger out on me and would call me stupid, worthless, a spoiled brat, ungrateful; keep in mind, this happened until I left for college 2 years ago. On very few occasions, she would push me down or threaten to hit me. I grew up with a very low self-esteem and she refused to believe me when I told her I felt depressed as a teen. She constantly put me in between arguments between her and my dad, which killed all belief I had in love. She’s also always been very controlling and getting her to back off has been difficult. I had to turn off my location (she LOVES Life360) and had to open up an account at a different bank so she would stop monitoring me and interrogating me about where I was going and what I was spending. She found out I’m bi when she went through my ...

Hey, basically looking for advice here to see if I'm in the wrong or if I'm overthinking any thoughts or advice you have would be very much appreciated.. Basically myself (27 m) and my girlfriend (28 f) of nearly 3 years are currently living in a newly renovated bungalow and have been for just over a year. Her Dad basically built the bungalow from scratch and when it was done needed someone to live in there look after it etc. We currently live there rent free, however we both pay all the bills (utilities, council tax, phone/internet line rental, insurance), and I basically keep it spotlessly clean, furnished the whole place and make sure everything is running well and looked after. I work for the police in digital forensics and my gf is a nurse, both working full time. I thought I had a pretty decent relationship with my girlfriends dad - we went out drinking together on holidays and pretty much just shot the breeze. I'm not a big DIY guy and I'm more into my compute...

I’m a 19 year old girl who has no clue at all about dating. I think it’s due to my asperger. Relationships like friendships and family has always been something I have to learn from the beginning. The progress has always been very tiresome because of the endless mistakes I make, but I somewhat have learned the rules on how to be ‘normal’ in a friendship or a polite interaction. The thing is that after those 19 years, I still have no clue about anything that has to do around a romantic relationship. I still only know how to get a relationship like a child by ‘confessions’ and stuff, but when I got older I noticed that the adult way is way different and that confessing is very childish. I think my feelings are also very childish. I easily get crushes and imagine a whole future with them, even though I know nothing about them and we’re not even good friend to start with. I’ve noticed that when i meet a boy, i would a) get feelings from them directly and don’t know how to act around them...

I ended things with a guy because there were no sparks and it didn’t seem like a good idea in the long run. HOWEVER. I like him as a person. He’s admirable. He is the first guy in a long time who’s shows strong communication and interpersonal skills. He is also clear about liking me. No guessing games. In the past I only liked fuckboys and I am wondering if maybe I only got sparks because these guys were like unattainable. They were people only in town for a season, only on vacation, etc. maybe the only reason things felt so intense was because they were short term with a set deadline. Anyways, even though I stopped seeing this guy, I miss him and want to talk to him again. Should I reach out again? He seemed so hurt that I ended things... Submitted April 24, 2020 at 11:32PM I ended things with a guy because there were no sparks and it didn’t seem like a good idea in the long run. HOWEVER. I like him as a person. He’s admirable. He is the first guy in a long time who’s shows s...