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/u/AuntChelle11 on When did you realize you were asexual?

I was 53 and very single. I first read about the term demisexual in a MM romance novel. I didn't know what it meant to I looked it up. Growing up I knew that I had different attitudes towards relationships/interactions but not to the extent that I thought I was different or broken. I was always the friend on the edge of the friendship group. Part of it, but not. I never had a boyfriend but I did snog a few boys here and there. In my 20's I had 3 short term relationships. Lived with one for a few months. I actually crushed on these guys quite a bit before dating them. Never once did I suspect I was asexual. How could I? I had not even heard of the word. Once I learned of the terms, after first researching demisexual, it was a very quick"OMFG, that's me!" I'm talking a couple of days. If it weren't for those 3 relationships it would have been hours rather than a couple of days. I went from grey ace to grey-aro & ace. (I added apl about 6 months later.

/u/Eien_ni_Hitori_de_ii on Do you feel it's necessary to come out as Ace to family??

It depends on how close you are TBH. I told my family because I'm pretty open with them and just tell them stuff. If you don't talk about NSFW stuff with them really, then I think it'd be natural NOT to tell them. But for me it was just natural to talk about. March 31, 2023 at 01:05AM

Dating sucks

When someone tells you “don’t worry there’s other fish in the sea”, remind them there’s a lot of trash too. Submitted March 31, 2023 at 01:04AM When someone tells you “don’t worry there’s other fish in the sea”, remind them there’s a lot of trash too.

Men… help a girl out please.

A few years ago I had to turn this guy down because I had a boyfriend at the time. When I was healed after that break up I hit him up asking if he was single and I got no reply. Recently matched with him on tinder. He didn’t initiate so I did… I said something along the lines of “so we’re doing ladies first?” Then complimented him on his fashion and said it was effortlessly classy. No response to that either. As a guy how would you have reacted to my message? Was it dumb to say? should I even bother sending another message at this point? Submitted March 30, 2023 at 11:30PM A few years ago I had to turn this guy down because I had a boyfriend at the time.When I was healed after that break up I hit him up asking if he was single and I got no reply.Recently matched with him on tinder. He didn’t initiate so I did…I said something along the lines of “so we’re doing ladies first?” Then complimented him on his fashion and said it was effortlessly classy.No response to that either

Is it a bad idea to be open with a girl?

I came across several comments that suggest being transparent with a girl, and discussing your thoughts and emotions can harm your chances of building attraction, and it increases the probability of her sharing your personal information with her friends. But, is this really true? Personally, I tend to be honest and relaxed when I communicate with a girl. I express my likes and dislikes freely, and sometimes, this openness and authenticity help to build a connection with her. However, after reading those comments, I'm starting to question whether being transparent is a bad idea. Should I refrain from being candid with the girls I'm interested in or even my female friends? Moreover, does this mean that a man should keep his thoughts and feelings to himself and create a distance between himself and the girl if things don't work out? Submitted March 31, 2023 at 12:11AM I came across several comments that suggest being transparent with a girl, and discussing your though

/u/Svefnugr_Fugl on My school is hosting an asexual event and I feel like I shouldn’t go.

You should go, demi is still ace it doesn't matter if someone's gray ace or sex repulsed they are still equally ace. It would be good to meet others I went to an ace cinema meet and there were only 2 of us (there is more just didn't show) but definitely recommend The only reason I would say against it is if you're in any of the red zones of America that are currently targeting lives of the trans community. March 30, 2023 at 10:52PM