I went on a Lesbian dating site as “Bi-curious” because I thought it was possible to be “so closeted that not even I knew I was gay” I thought that I would just ✨magically✨ experience sexual attraction for women but I still felt nothing. September 01, 2021 at 11:51PM

Lmao it is a need. We are animals and animals main driving force is reproduction. You live a fantasy if you believe otherwise. September 01, 2021 at 11:50PM

I was just not really interested about sexual or intimacy life another. Even when my friend told me about her boyfriends and about her sexual life, i was just throw out it off my mind later like uninteresting show. I am also was sure that I am just "late bloomer". And I thought that they was more brave than me, so that's why i did not want to have relationships, that I avoid this topics because i was a coward, shy, etc. I did not know that I do not have sexual attraction. September 01, 2021 at 11:48PM

Yes, I think understanding her reality by reading the things here helps me trust her a lot more when she says things about sex. Thank you. September 01, 2021 at 11:44PM

I say Queer September 01, 2021 at 11:43PM

I will never understand why some people are so painfully involved in other people's sexuality. Like step the fuck off , your unwanted attention is disgusting and super fucking weird. September 01, 2021 at 11:41PM

I just say LGBTQ+ since the Q is an umbrella term that includes basically everything that isn’t covered by the first four letters. It would be nice if “queer” didn’t have a history of being used as a slur that makes its usage controversial, since technically everyone in the community falls under the Q and “the Queer Community” isn’t nearly as cumbersome as far as names go. I would say we could just call ourselves The Q Community, but a certain political conspiracy theory already claimed that letter and ruined it, so… September 01, 2021 at 11:36PM

Hi! I’m on the other side of this—I’m ace, and my husband is not. I generally don’t even think about sex, so it never occurs to me to initiate it. However, I’ll happily participate if he asks, because I enjoy being intimate with him. We have had lots of conversations and we are still working things out; we’ve been married 13 years as well, but we still have to check in with each other frequently. September 01, 2021 at 11:35PM

Romance and sex are completely different concepts to me. Needless to say, that's caused issues in every relationship I've had. I didn't understand why every partner keep saying they didn't feel "wanted" by me. I honestly never understood. I wanted them emotionally and often on a sensual level, but not sexually. They said I made them feel unattractive or like they were just "a friend", but I was attracted to them (romantically and aesthetically). I thought they put too much importance on sex.... Like why was that necessary? Is their physical desire/need really that strong? I didn't understand that when they looked at me, they were sexually drawn to me. Wow, what a great window into your perspective. thanks. How do you view their physical desire/need that is so strong? I mean, since you don't experience it yourself, do you see it as a negative or a weakness in them? Do you tolerate it as a simple matter of fact or do you resent it? I'm...

Shapeshift Genitalia go bye bye September 01, 2021 at 11:33PM

I appreciate your fears about somehow hurting her with the sex in your relationship. I’m ace and married to an allo, and have the same fears that our sexually mismatched relationship will somehow turn into this awful monster that every deadbedrooms or relationshipadvice post about mismatched libidos threatens. I think the fact that you are worried is keeping you aware of your thoughts and negative feelings, or potentially hers, so that you two can address them openly when it comes up. You can use that worry to fuel your awareness of her continued consent before and during sex. At a certain point, you will have to just trust that she means it when she says she wants to have sex, and that she will tell you the second she’s not into something. It may look unconventional compared to hypersexual relationships all over media and product ads, but as long as it works for you and the person you love, ain’t a thing wrong with it. September 01, 2021 at 11:25PM

I thought I was bi/gay a for a while. September 01, 2021 at 11:24PM

And I knew that something was wrong with me, but I misunderstood what exactly. I thought that my problem was that I can't pretend and fake it good enough. But it turned out that other people don't have to pretend! September 01, 2021 at 11:24PM

I just say pride or pride people September 01, 2021 at 11:20PM

No kisses, like, no, just don't ever touch me. I found this Idea incredibly disgusting and unhygienic since I was a kid, no offense September 01, 2021 at 11:20PM

It depends on the situation I either use LGBT+ or LGBTQ+. Thought my new favorite has to be the alphabet mafia September 01, 2021 at 11:20PM

Since the very early childhood I knew that there are a lot of rules that say you have to pretend in order to be polite and fit the social norms. You need to pretend that you like people around, that you don't mind sharing your toys, that the sweater you've got as a gift doesn't cause an instant pain in your skin etc. If people can say "nice to meet you" without any real pleasure of that meeting, they probably can say "I love you" or "I want you" just because the rules told them to do it. I thought that the rule is to find someone, to get married. I thought it is something that adults have to do, like going to a work or buying food, I don't know. So people just choose someone and begin to perform all that actions. We didn't have any sex ed, and I didn't have friends close enough to discuss it. What confused me was the existence of "broken hearts" and gay people. But for some reason I couldn't figure out how all that ro...

Is this normal? I wonder if I’m overthinking? I’ve been going on dates with a man I’m very much attracted to. I’m very aroused around him and turned on by him. But I’ve been feeling tired and unwell this week and when he tries to flirt with me over text, I just feel nothing. It’s not turning me on the slightest. Is this normal when unwell or should I get turned on regardless? Submitted September 01, 2021 at 11:07PM Is this normal?I wonder if I’m overthinking?I’ve been going on dates with a man I’m very much attracted to. I’m very aroused around him and turned on by him.But I’ve been feeling tired and unwell this week and when he tries to flirt with me over text, I just feel nothing. It’s not turning me on the slightest. Is this normal when unwell or should I get turned on regardless?

Hey all, I (F23) have been dating my bf (M26) for a few years now. I’m comfortable enough to poop while he’s in the bathroom but for some reason not comfortable speaking up about how I hate when he spits on his hand before playing with my 🐱 I just don’t want him to think I’m grossed out by him or anything because I really am not, I would lick this man head to toe, nothing about him is gross to me but I’m just not a fan of saliva. How can I say it to him in a way that doesn’t insult him? Submitted September 01, 2021 at 11:07PM Hey all,I (F23) have been dating my bf (M26) for a few years now. I’m comfortable enough to poop while he’s in the bathroom but for some reason not comfortable speaking up about how I hate when he spits on his hand before playing with my 🐱I just don’t want him to think I’m grossed out by him or anything because I really am not, I would lick this man head to toe, nothing about him is gross to me but I’m just not a fan of saliva.How can I say it to him i...

I am a 21 years old tall ,fit and entertaining boy. I am not so friendly but my close friends are realy enjoying their time with me ı think. The thing is ı had few bad experiments about sex . I was afraid of having child and ruin my life and the girl like crazy . Now ı see sex is just trouble . I know ı am wrong and most of the time ı feel like everyone is enjoying their young ages and ı am stupid and ı know its true. I cant even be with a girl so long because ı know we will have sex and ı will have trouble again. I just wanna be relax about sex and the other stuffs . Sorry for my bad language ı cant write English perfect but ı will understand what you write if you please . Submitted September 01, 2021 at 11:25PM I am a 21 years old tall ,fit and entertaining boy. I am not so friendly but my close friends are realy enjoying their time with me ı think. The thing is ı had few bad experiments about sex . I was afraid of having child and ruin my life and the girl like crazy . Now ı ...

Hey! I want to know what’s the best sex you’ve ever bought for yourself or received? Simple question, I’m curious and looking to buy some toys. I’m 20 and a guy (switch & enjoy anal too) and my partner is 20 and a woman. The toys would be for one or both of us, let me know! Submitted September 01, 2021 at 11:33PM Hey! I want to know what’s the best sex you’ve ever bought for yourself or received?Simple question, I’m curious and looking to buy some toys. I’m 20 and a guy (switch & enjoy anal too) and my partner is 20 and a woman. The toys would be for one or both of us, let me know!

Hi. I recently started seeing someone, and I am REALLY into her, however whenever we try and have sex, I often have difficulty getting hard enough, and if I do, I frequently lose it, eg when changing positions. I still manage to satisfy her in time, and through other means, however it often takes me a while to get 'ready' for sex. I spoke with my doctor about it, and his first solution was to prescribe me a generic Viagra medication. I have taken this on occasion, and it sort of helps, however I feel as an otherwise fit and healthy 22 yo I should not be needing this. I have no problem getting hard in the morning so I know it's not physical, and I am reluctant to continue taking medication when I'm hoping it could be addressed in different ways. I know it sounds silly but it also feels like I'm cheating in a way. Sorry for the essay and TMI but I would appreciate any advice as to how to 'fix' this and how others have approached the same or similar issues ...

When I have sex with my boyfriend his semen always comes right out after he pulls out. I’ve never had this happen before but he says it’s always happened to him. Any idea what is causing this and how we can stop it happening in future as it causes quite a mess. Submitted September 01, 2021 at 11:37PM When I have sex with my boyfriend his semen always comes right out after he pulls out. I’ve never had this happen before but he says it’s always happened to him.Any idea what is causing this and how we can stop it happening in future as it causes quite a mess.