This post is literally just making fun of people’s appearance. Like, joking about not getting why allos find “sexy” pics attractive is one thing, but talking about trying not to laugh at someone’s face in a photo comes across as mean spirited. November 08, 2020 at 12:04AM

whatever y’all choose to do and whatever happens, i hope things turn out well for you and you’re happy!! 💖 November 08, 2020 at 12:04AM

/r/gonewildaudio has got to be one of the funniest subs for a similar reason. November 07, 2020 at 11:57PM

I might do that. The thing is I'm shy and haven't tried to progress our relationship but I want to. He mentioned how I said I like him but haven't done anything about it which is true. Once corona calms down at least a little I want to see him more and try to be closer to him November 07, 2020 at 11:55PM

I'll make fun of porn with you 😂 November 07, 2020 at 11:51PM

Some weeks ago I realised that I have romantic feelings for one of my friends.I'll try to put it into words:When I see him I light up and want his attention - I normally never want attention. I get butterflies in my stomach when I think about him. I daydream about us hugging, cuddling, napping, him holding me close while we sleep, feeling safe and warm. These things I wouldn't do with my best friend, that would feel weird. So that's probably what romantic attraction looks like to me.I know we can't be together in that way, so I try to just be a good friend and keep him in my life that way. It will probably hurt a bit if he gets a gf soon, but I'll be happy that he's happy. November 07, 2020 at 11:51PM

oooh, i see. maybe he should hold off on doing anything until he heals from his breakup too, that way he’s not using you or putting you in a tricky position. but i’d send him a bunch of material to understand what it means, or explain it bit by bit so there’s no way he can’t understand. maybe like “just so we’re clear, being asexual entails...and does not mean...” November 07, 2020 at 11:50PM

This helps thanks November 07, 2020 at 11:48PM

What I don't get is that we are both virgins November 07, 2020 at 11:48PM

I'd say I have one of those, and I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. Is it easy and trouble-free? Heck no. We've known each other all our lives, both are pretty guarded and shy on emotional matters and we've had times where we needed to take some time off each other. I certainly wouldn't say this is easier to maintain than a regular friendship, it's just different. But we're like family anyway, and the hardships come with a deep, unique and especial kind of bond. It begets a type of loyalty and understanding that is not easy to explain. I hope I never lose it. November 07, 2020 at 11:46PM

I hate mine because they're asymmetrical and I've always been really self-conscious about it. November 07, 2020 at 11:46PM

For me I knew for a while I was different sexually, but only started using the asexual label since august November 07, 2020 at 11:45PM

Basically we like each other but he doesn't want a relationship right now cuz his ex cheated on him so we are just childhood friends right now. He suggested friends with benefits but I told him I was ace and he basically dropped it. Later I mentioned my feelings and he asuumed that ace meant I didn't like kissing and stuff which isn't true. So I explained it to him and now he seems to have forgotten again. November 07, 2020 at 11:45PM

I keep saying that the best way to get into my heart fast is by buying me McDonald’s November 07, 2020 at 11:45PM

I love cake 🎂 November 07, 2020 at 11:43PM

For me I discovered it by being in a relationship. I never felt aroused by the person I loved or anyone in general. Always felt like sex was a shore, I didn't hate it but always felt indifferent to it. I just wanted to cuddle, but still forced myself Into these type of things because I felt that's what it was expected of me. so after some talks she mentioned I might be asexual. my first thoughts where "nonono that can't be" because I felt like a pressure to have sex as a guy??? Because that's what normal people do?" So I was kinda rejecting the idea. But after I did researchs and really found myself relating to everything I found on asexuality,and after more self reflection it kinda like felt like an eye opener and it all really made sense. Then I felt liberated and proud of my asexuality, even made an ace cake! Because cake is better than sex November 07, 2020 at 11:41PM

I had a fetish, but I mostly outgrew it (I'd rather not say what it is), and nowadays, it's mostly platonic, romantic, non-sexual touch like kissing, cuddling, and holding hands. November 07, 2020 at 11:38PM

Coming from an asexual person, the easiest explanation I can muster up is that we don't necessarily get horny, or have a strong desire for sex. Asexuals definitely can have non-sexual intimacy, such as kissing, hugging, and all that good stuff, but there's not a push (if you will) for oral/intercourse sex. Of course, what I'm saying is only the tip of the iceberg, but nonetheless, still bit of an introduction to the world of asexuality. November 07, 2020 at 11:37PM

wait, soo...are you trying to make it more than a friendship with them, or am i misinterpreting this?? i’d definitely go THRU it w/ him tho since it seems like he’s not grasping it November 07, 2020 at 11:37PM

What causes arousal for you? November 07, 2020 at 11:36PM

Ace. November 07, 2020 at 11:35PM

Many allos dislike porn, and there's asexuals who consume it. There're as well other types of erotica that may be more preferable depending on your tastes (or not at all, and that's perfectly fine). Also, there are many aces here who are pretty vocal about how they don't like porn, so you're not alone. Regardless, I wouldn't worry too much about it, really. November 07, 2020 at 11:35PM

Adopting a newborn through an agency or a lawyer is expensive, but adoption through the foster care system costs little to nothing. November 07, 2020 at 11:34PM