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/u/CupcakesAndDeath on There's something validating about the way Todd described the relationship he wants💜🖤

If you want to be extra sure, here's the page on Does The Dog Die for the show-spoilers, of course, but it covers more than just self-harm and suicide. [It mentions there is self harm via destructive behavior, as well as a character stabbing themselves and another driving into traffic with the intent of injuring himself in a later season] March 03, 2021 at 11:57PM

/u/Direwolf202 on There's something validating about the way Todd described the relationship he wants💜🖤

They're not as great as the rest - occasionally a little bit frustrating, but still good enough - and certainly relevant enough to watch. March 03, 2021 at 11:55PM

/u/onyxonix on There's something validating about the way Todd described the relationship he wants💜🖤

By “not detailed” I meant not graphic, it was just a poor choice if words. The deaths in “Higher Love” were accidental but still suicide, I could have been clearer there. “The View From Halfway Down” is arguably one of the best episodes, I’m surprised I forgot so much. March 03, 2021 at 11:51PM

/u/AceOfManyYears on If you are asexual, and an immigrant - and marry a citizen - can the fact that you're ace be used against you and have you be accused of immigration fraud?

No, it does not. Finally. March 03, 2021 at 11:45PM

/u/MONOTODO on A mood

Tzeentch Agrees. March 03, 2021 at 11:45PM

/u/Thornescape on So f***g tired of sleazy guys

Accepting "friend requests" from completely random people is rarely a good idea. Seriously. The chance of missing out is slim. At the very least, you should have had a good conversation on a public thread before there's any chance of anything valid coming out of the request. I'm a huge fan of "sifting". Most asexuals are looking for someone exceptional, rather than someone "normal". Don't waste your time on someone who would never ever be a match for you. One way to do this is to insist on being "friends only" for long enough to figure out if they are decent or not. If they don't respect "no" or boundaries, then don't bother get emotional about it. Just warn them, then block them, and move on. They were never worth your time or emotional energy. Idiots are everywhere. March 03, 2021 at 11:42PM

/u/ekimberle on Asexual= no sexual attraction. That's it. Sexual attraction DOES NOT EQUAL arousal, like or dislike of having sex, choosing to have sex, or literally anything that has to do with the physical act of love.

Thank you for preaching! March 03, 2021 at 11:40PM

/u/Kat_Kalivoda on A mood

You are welcome March 03, 2021 at 11:37PM

/u/jostlespack on A mood

I am losing my shit over this March 03, 2021 at 11:36PM

/u/Downtown_League4110 on Although I'm asexual (and nonbinary), every now and then I see some guys that I find attractive. I find this confusing since I still have no sexual desires for anyone. I need some help!

i really like your action figures and the jet! March 03, 2021 at 11:36PM

/u/jostlespack on There's something validating about the way Todd described the relationship he wants💜🖤

It had a pretty good run. Tbh I'd rather be left wanting more than sick of it being milked too far. It remains a gem :) March 03, 2021 at 11:34PM

/u/PM_me_dunsparce on 2021 UK census

Same! March 03, 2021 at 11:34PM

/u/quirkycurlygirly on There's something validating about the way Todd described the relationship he wants💜🖤

This show went off too soon. Netflix messed up. They probably realize that now. March 03, 2021 at 11:33PM

/u/Rathama on I'm asexual but my boyfriend isn't, and we both feel guilty

I am horrible when it comes to understanding what people need to hear in order to understand that things aren't the way it seems so I cannot give advice (sorry) but I wish you two the best of luck. March 03, 2021 at 11:33PM

/u/Nullomer on Although I'm asexual (and nonbinary), every now and then I see some guys that I find attractive. I find this confusing since I still have no sexual desires for anyone. I need some help!

If you experience sexual attraction so infrequently that you feel asexual best describes you, that's OK. You also may be experiencing attraction that isn't sexual, like romantic attraction. Personally, even though my sexual attraction is low and sex doesn't interest me, I still find people cute and handsome. March 03, 2021 at 11:33PM

/u/stitchitch on Can I identify as ace even if I'm grey-ace?

No I say I'm ace even though I'm aegosexual. You don't owe anyone an explanation. If that's what you feel comfortable with, go for it. Besides, grey ace can mean so many things, and you'd have to explain that as well if you said you were greysexual. March 03, 2021 at 11:31PM

/u/Mlalm on Although I'm asexual (and nonbinary), every now and then I see some guys that I find attractive. I find this confusing since I still have no sexual desires for anyone. I need some help!

I am Aroace. I don't feel any attraction towards anyone, except for asthetic attraction. But I see this as an advantage, I don't get in weird situations like other people get. March 03, 2021 at 11:28PM

/u/Eager_Question on There's something validating about the way Todd described the relationship he wants💜🖤

No problem! My clarification was more about it being "not detailed"/"accidental"/"just referenced". Also remember at the end of The View From Halfway Down he's "calling Diane" and he realizes that he called her, and she didn't pick up, and so he went through with the attempt . And then in the last episode we learn that he left like, a suicidal voice message for her and she felt guilty about not having "been there" for him. So it's fairly clear that the entirety of The View From Halfway Down episode is happening in his head while he's drowning in his pool during a suicide attempt . March 03, 2021 at 11:28PM

/u/Rathama on Coming out story.

I feel you were pushing a bit too hard for a reaction. Sometimes a lack of reaction is a person's way of going "well I am OK with who you are, moving on". But I am definitely on your side that saying ace is a "non sexuality". That is aphobic. March 03, 2021 at 11:28PM

/u/bog_slut420 on Can I identify as ace even if I'm grey-ace?

I think a lot of aces use the term ace and don't dig into the details of their ace identity unless they feel they need to, such as expressing interest in a potential partner or disinterest in someone interested in them. I know i do, lol. It isn't always a fun conversation March 03, 2021 at 11:26PM

/u/Thornescape on You don’t need to reproduce

I get really angry when I hear about people pressuring others to have children. It gets me upset. Why? Because when I was growing up, my family took in foster children, and we often interacted with the parents. Some people should never have had children. Seriously. It is not for everyone. Encouraging the concept that "everyone should have kids" just means that more and more children will be born to people who don't have any real interest in having them or raising them properly or treating them well. Those poor children suffer tremendously from that idiotic notion that "everyone should have kids". In addition to horrifically bad and abusive parents, some people just don't want kids for whatever reason, which is perfectly fine and acceptable. Those people have different reasons and motivations. No problems. However, when I hear reprobates trying to guilt people into having children, I think of some of those poor foster children with their incompetent pare...

/u/Rathama on Times you should have realize you were asexual, but somehow didn’t?

When I had non sexual crushes where everyone assumed that I was sexually attracted. Like I never thought that I felt sexual attraction but it didn't click that I lacked the feeling that was considered to be normal in crushes that people my age would be having. March 03, 2021 at 11:24PM

/u/MONOTODO on Can I identify as ace even if I'm grey-ace?

You absolutely can, as Asexuality is a spectrum. So anyone that is even the smallest amount is also 100% just as valid as everyone else. March 03, 2021 at 11:21PM