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/u/Legitimate_Bid6680 on Cloudpunk hinting at Asexuality?

I'll check it out on my Switch, my Windows PC is on the verge of death and I doubt it would play on my Pi4 without a lot of hassle. Thanks for the recommendation, I'm currently playing Metroid 5 Dread, I wonder if Samas is Aspec? She's been around for 35 years and I can't remember a single love story in the series. October 25, 2021 at 12:30AM

/u/SoldierHawk on is it normal to still have kinks or fetishes despite being ace?

You take that back I'm as pure as the new fallen snow. (Narrator: she was not.) October 25, 2021 at 12:27AM

/u/OV1C on Possibly wrong room, but does anyone else find people sexually attractive (admittedly very few people) but does not want to have sex with them?

This! I find people like a piece of art, breath taking but I don't wanna do the do with them October 25, 2021 at 12:26AM

/u/Neglastar on Does anyone else (despite being ace) particularly enjoy sexual/sensual sounding music?

Lol I like doja cat, Megan the stallion and music like that where it can get pretty raunchy and I'm ace 😂 I'm not really bothered by lyrics talking about sex stuff, as I'm mostly sex indifferent October 25, 2021 at 12:26AM

/u/crono-marle on Ace Week!

Cry, and be sad and lonely. October 25, 2021 at 12:22AM

For Those Who Douche, Would You Use an Alternative to Prepare For Sex?

If you could use a better alternative to douching, would you use it? Given that douching has some pretty nasty short term risks (increasing your risk of injury, specifically tearing, and thus increasing the chances of STD/STIs being transmitted) as well as long-term risks (cervical cancer, rectal damage, etc.), how likely would you use an alternative to douching if it was safer/healthier? Submitted October 25, 2021 at 12:42AM If you could use a better alternative to douching, would you use it?Given that douching has some pretty nasty short term risks (increasing your risk of injury, specifically tearing, and thus increasing the chances of STD/STIs being transmitted) as well as long-term risks (cervical cancer, rectal damage, etc.), how likely would you use an alternative to douching if it was safer/healthier?

Wet from THINKING about sex

Is the normal that my vagina can feel warm and wet just from thinking about sex with a kind and caring partner and what I’d like it to feel like? Submitted October 25, 2021 at 12:48AM Is the normal that my vagina can feel warm and wet just from thinking about sex with a kind and caring partner and what I’d like it to feel like?

I haven't been able to cum during sex in years with this partner of mine. I think it's because I need to go slow. (Male) any advice?

22 male, I've been able to in the past , but over the last like 3 years i just haven't been able to. My "sex pool" hasn't been diverse recently though so maybe it's just a compatibility issue. So I'm about to talk about the main person I've been sleeping with over the last few years. There's one other but it was a one time thing. I think the issue is that I take a bit of time to build up, and then combine that with the fact that I like slow sex during the build up because I feel it more. When going fast I don't really feel much of anything unless I'm close to cumming and then the speed actually is neccessary and gets me over the edge. But I feel 2 sets of pressure. 1 is to try and please the girl as much as possible and make sure they orgasm atleast once. Typically they say I've made them cum a few times by the end of a session. But considering lying about orgasming as a woman is practically common practice I find it hard to just go ...

My boyfriend feels awkward and embarrassed having sex with me

Hey guys, so me (F21) and my boyfriend (M24) have been dating for about 2 years now and lately (maybe the past 6 months) my boyfriend has been avoiding having sex with me. He always says he’s too tired or not in the mood, no matter what time I try to initiate it. Before this started happening we used to have sex almost every time we saw each other. I’ve brought this up to him several times but he’s always just denied that he’s avoiding it and tried to change the subject. Last night, he finally told me that he avoids it because he feels awkward and embarrassed when we’re intimate. He also kept saying he didn’t know why he felt that way, he can’t figure out what’s changed, and that it’s nothing that I have done. So I guess my question is does anyone know why he might be feeling this way? Is it simply just that he isn’t attracted to me anymore? And does anyone know how we can work through this? I really don’t want to live my life in a sexless relationship. Thank you! Submitted Octo...

How to tell partner about intoxication fetish? (24F)

So I (24F) have a huge thing for control / domination kinks (think hypnosis, mind control etc). I’m also generally quite submissive in bed and really into consensual non-consent. I get incredible turned on when I’m drunk, and want nothing but for my partner to take me then and there. However, there’s a few issues here It’s hard to get intoxicated and I’m horrible at playing up intoxication. Alcohol is expensive where I am, and drugs are out of the picture for us. My alcohol tolerance is also generally quite high, and I have difficulty playing up the loss of inhibitions which I crave. We come from a conservative culture (Asia). It took a lot of persuading for my partner to try choking me, but even then he was quite apprehensive and cautious. All in all I’d really appreciate any tips to start this conversation! Submitted October 25, 2021 at 12:58AM So I (24F) have a huge thing for control / domination kinks (think hypnosis, mind control etc). I’m also generally quite su...

Did getting your own place help with your dating life or is that just a bonus?

Hey I'm thinking of moving closer to work and not having roommates. It's quite an investment but necessary in my mind. Would like to hear if that helped you all since I don't go out as much as I should so would it really matter? I'm single 34m,, late bloomer of sorts. Thx ahead of time all. Submitted October 24, 2021 at 11:58PM Hey I'm thinking of moving closer to work and not having roommates. It's quite an investment but necessary in my mind. Would like to hear if that helped you all since I don't go out as much as I should so would it really matter? I'm single 34m,, late bloomer of sorts. Thx ahead of time all.

I stopped using dating apps and started putting myself out there, and I thought my experience might be able to inspire some of you:

26F, like many of you guys I've had very poor luck with dating, especially dating apps. Over the past year, I've really begun to work on myself. I started working out, got into therapy, began a few side hustles for extra $, cut off a few bad friends. Everything independently with me has improved, but still I've had trouble with dating. Getting flaked on, ghosted, stood up, etc etc etc... My therapist gave me "homework" a few weeks ago to go to a few new places a week, even if only for an hour or so, and strike up a conversation with people. Half of them could be people I'm physically attracted to, but half of them had to be people I wasn't. Over the past few weeks, I've been doing just that. I started by going to places during their less busy hours, and not just on Fri/Sat night. I went to a few happy hours, an LGBT+ drag show (I'm bi), a karaoke bar, an open mic night comedy club, a workout class, etc. I'm a very introverted person, so at...

Alpha Male or Beta Male?

This is a question for the ladies browsing this subreddit, but the fellas can answer too if they'd like... Do you believe there is such a thing as an Alpha Male or a Beta Male in Human beings? And if so, how would you characterize such categories of man? Also do not forget to mention which of the two types do you specifically find attractive for a potential partner? No 'everybody is unique' answers please, but if you must then TYPE ALL CAPS or give me a ❄️ emoji. lmao. cheers! Submitted October 25, 2021 at 12:12AM This is a question for the ladies browsing this subreddit, but the fellas can answer too if they'd like...Do you believe there is such a thing as an Alpha Male or a Beta Male in Human beings? And if so, how would you characterize such categories of man? Also do not forget to mention which of the two types do you specifically find attractive for a potential partner?No 'everybody is unique' answers please, but if you must then TYPE ALL CAPS or g...

Curious about how I handled a situation last night and thoughts on if I should take a chance or if I’m reading too far into it.

Last night I was at a typical retail store. I won’t say where just for privacy concerns but it was an hour away from closing time for her and it was just me and her in the store. She approached me( obviously no surprise there, she’s doing her job) and offered assistance in finding something in particular which I will admit I was politely dismissive as I usually am when I shop because I have already done my research yadda yadda. Anyway she was persistent (again no surprise if she takes pride in her job) but in a non pushy way. Mainly just asking probing questions probably to get me to open up so she could expedite the process and provide good customer service. Well skipping forward we ended up talking in detail about the different options I had and at some point we both even had our phones out doing extra research just to keep the conversation going. A trip that should have taken me no longer than 10 minutes from start to finish ended up being about 45 minutes and left with more than ...

Kevin Samuels

I just finished watching an episode of Kevin Samuels. He pretty much said modern women have been fooled into thinking independence and having a degree is what men want. He said all men want is a woman that is fit, friendly and feminine. He said a lot of times females raised in a single family household have been taught to be strong and independent. He said a woman needs to give up there independence to be interdependent. I never really learned how to be a wife or seen a man in the household and Im afraid he is right and I wasted time. What are your thoughts? Submitted October 25, 2021 at 12:15AM I just finished watching an episode of Kevin Samuels. He pretty much said modern women have been fooled into thinking independence and having a degree is what men want.He said all men want is a woman that is fit, friendly and feminine. He said a lot of times females raised in a single family household have been taught to be strong and independent. He said a woman needs to give up there ...

/u/Reptorian on Can your sexuality change to being asexual?

My ability to feel sexual attraction haven't been back in 11 years. It was there before the age of 16 and quite noticeable. October 24, 2021 at 11:53PM

/u/arochains1231 on How do you guys feel about so many songs being about sex?

It's kind of creepy and invasive to me. Like, y'all are describing that stuff in song to everyone and it isn't weirding you out??? October 24, 2021 at 11:52PM

/u/freeform_the_egg on How do you guys feel about so many songs being about sex?

It really depends, some songs (two trucks is a good example) do it for obvious satire, and I think it's funnier that way, but if it's really upfront and not satirical it gets pretty uncomfortable. October 24, 2021 at 11:51PM

/u/leomaxxx15 on WHAT THE HELL DO THE DRAGONS AND CAKE MEANNNNNN???

It literally means nothing. It's just infantilzing October 24, 2021 at 11:50PM

/u/leomaxxx15 on I'm Allo and my Partner is Ace Spectrum (I just really need advice)

What you're feeling is completely valid. I'm so sorry you're going through this October 24, 2021 at 11:48PM