Curious about how I handled a situation last night and thoughts on if I should take a chance or if I’m reading too far into it.

Last night I was at a typical retail store. I won’t say where just for privacy concerns but it was an hour away from closing time for her and it was just me and her in the store. She approached me( obviously no surprise there, she’s doing her job) and offered assistance in finding something in particular which I will admit I was politely dismissive as I usually am when I shop because I have already done my research yadda yadda.

Anyway she was persistent (again no surprise if she takes pride in her job) but in a non pushy way. Mainly just asking probing questions probably to get me to open up so she could expedite the process and provide good customer service. Well skipping forward we ended up talking in detail about the different options I had and at some point we both even had our phones out doing extra research just to keep the conversation going. A trip that should have taken me no longer than 10 minutes from start to finish ended up being about 45 minutes and left with more than I had originally planned.

Now that last bit, Im certain she doesn’t get commission and almost certain there’s no incentives to upsell at this particular place. Either way it was a very pleasant experience and I was aware the whole time that she was cute and someone I could absolutely see myself getting along with. I just haven’t been looking due to my past breakup a year ago but that’s a whole other story. Either way I have been totally focused on myself till I feel comfortable being single and completely over my previous breakup so I definitely wasn’t putting myself out there for her, just having regular conversation and interactions. Well as I’m checking out she asks “can you please do me a favor? There has been a tweaker outside who won’t leave even when I asked them to so when you leave could you let me know if they are still there in the parking lot?” And I could genuinely sense her anxiety about it so I happily agreed, still a plutonic interaction as far as I’m concerned.

I leave and check the parking lot and don’t see anyone so I go back in and give her a thumbs up saying I didn’t see anyone and wished her a good night. Her response, from my personal perspective, still felt anxious so I checked the time and saw the time and saw she was ten minutes away from closing so I called her from my car and politely said “so if it’s not weird for you I don’t mind sticking around till you lock up to make sure he doesn’t come back after I leave. She responded “are you sure???” Then quickly switched gears, probably because she realized she is still at work and needed to keep a level of professionalism, saying that I don’t have to because she closes in 10 minutes but has about a half hour of closing procedures after that.

I said “no problem, I hope you have a safe night” but my conscience kept me there to make sure she made it to her car safely. And I truly wasn’t even considering doing this to be her knight in shining armor. I did it because I would have done it for any other person in the same situation. But as I waited in the lot while she closed up shop my mind wandered and I started realizing she was a girl that I could totally see myself wanting to get to know better and then my palms got sweaty and heart raced a bit because now i felt creepy once I placed that kinda mentality on doing a truly innocent gesture.

As she made her way to the door to leave and lock up I figured the safe bet would to be to leave without saying anything else or even waving goodbye because I was right out front and she absolutely knew I was there so I didn’t want to make her uncomfortable with waiting outside her work and she definitely saw me leave as she walked out. I feel that was the right choice to show her that I was genuinely only looking to make sure she got to her car safely and not being a weirdo.

So am I reading way too far into all of this? Do I maybe have a shot at getting to know her more and possibly even get coffee or something? Or would that be weird from her perspective? She never once gave me the vibe that she was uncomfortable with me. She truly is stunning and I felt we had a small connection but again, it could all just be her customer service skills. Any advice out there?? I really want to take a chance here but don’t feel comfortable trying while she’s at work because that’s her place of business and feel it’s not appropriate. Anyway thanks if you read all of this!

Submitted October 25, 2021 at 12:13AM

Last night I was at a typical retail store. I won’t say where just for privacy concerns but it was an hour away from closing time for her and it was just me and her in the store. She approached me( obviously no surprise there, she’s doing her job) and offered assistance in finding something in particular which I will admit I was politely dismissive as I usually am when I shop because I have already done my research yadda yadda.Anyway she was persistent (again no surprise if she takes pride in her job) but in a non pushy way. Mainly just asking probing questions probably to get me to open up so she could expedite the process and provide good customer service. Well skipping forward we ended up talking in detail about the different options I had and at some point we both even had our phones out doing extra research just to keep the conversation going. A trip that should have taken me no longer than 10 minutes from start to finish ended up being about 45 minutes and left with more than I had originally planned.Now that last bit, Im certain she doesn’t get commission and almost certain there’s no incentives to upsell at this particular place. Either way it was a very pleasant experience and I was aware the whole time that she was cute and someone I could absolutely see myself getting along with. I just haven’t been looking due to my past breakup a year ago but that’s a whole other story. Either way I have been totally focused on myself till I feel comfortable being single and completely over my previous breakup so I definitely wasn’t putting myself out there for her, just having regular conversation and interactions. Well as I’m checking out she asks “can you please do me a favor? There has been a tweaker outside who won’t leave even when I asked them to so when you leave could you let me know if they are still there in the parking lot?” And I could genuinely sense her anxiety about it so I happily agreed, still a plutonic interaction as far as I’m concerned.I leave and check the parking lot and don’t see anyone so I go back in and give her a thumbs up saying I didn’t see anyone and wished her a good night. Her response, from my personal perspective, still felt anxious so I checked the time and saw the time and saw she was ten minutes away from closing so I called her from my car and politely said “so if it’s not weird for you I don’t mind sticking around till you lock up to make sure he doesn’t come back after I leave. She responded “are you sure???” Then quickly switched gears, probably because she realized she is still at work and needed to keep a level of professionalism, saying that I don’t have to because she closes in 10 minutes but has about a half hour of closing procedures after that.I said “no problem, I hope you have a safe night” but my conscience kept me there to make sure she made it to her car safely. And I truly wasn’t even considering doing this to be her knight in shining armor. I did it because I would have done it for any other person in the same situation. But as I waited in the lot while she closed up shop my mind wandered and I started realizing she was a girl that I could totally see myself wanting to get to know better and then my palms got sweaty and heart raced a bit because now i felt creepy once I placed that kinda mentality on doing a truly innocent gesture.As she made her way to the door to leave and lock up I figured the safe bet would to be to leave without saying anything else or even waving goodbye because I was right out front and she absolutely knew I was there so I didn’t want to make her uncomfortable with waiting outside her work and she definitely saw me leave as she walked out. I feel that was the right choice to show her that I was genuinely only looking to make sure she got to her car safely and not being a weirdo.So am I reading way too far into all of this? Do I maybe have a shot at getting to know her more and possibly even get coffee or something? Or would that be weird from her perspective? She never once gave me the vibe that she was uncomfortable with me. She truly is stunning and I felt we had a small connection but again, it could all just be her customer service skills. Any advice out there?? I really want to take a chance here but don’t feel comfortable trying while she’s at work because that’s her place of business and feel it’s not appropriate. Anyway thanks if you read all of this!