You're 100% welcome here, allies are amazing to see especially when so much of the internet makes it feel as though they're few and far between. I just thought I'd ask if you're at all interested in hearing about experiences of similar sorts with aromanticism? I'm both aro & ace and although I do have some purely ace experiences, a lot of my experiences are heavily tied into the aro side. I don't want to bother sharing them if you don't want to hear them is all 😅 Feel free to say no by the way, I won't be offended or anything :) August 26, 2019 at 12:14AM

My girlfriend of a year and i broke up after a year and i was okay at first, but 2 weeks later i a heartbroken. I just went away to school yesterday and i missed her so i called her and told her how much i missed her and i wanted to be with her and she shut me down saying she still cares about me but doesnt want to be with me. This has left me incredibly sad and i dont know what to do with myself. I do have friends and people to talk to, i just really miss my intimacy with her, being able to talk about literally anything. I cant stop being sad and i would really appreciate advice on either how to slowly get her back (which i really want so bad) or how to get over her. Thank you to those who respond. Submitted August 25, 2019 at 07:51PM My girlfriend of a year and i broke up after a year and i was okay at first, but 2 weeks later i a heartbroken. I just went away to school yesterday and i missed her so i called her and told her how much i missed her and i wanted to be with her an...

Okay. So it's a film (fiction), I get it. But Christian Bale's character in 'The Big Short' bring's out: ' I met my wife through Match dot com. My profile said, "I am a medical student with only one eye, an awkward social manner, and $145,000 in student loans." She wrote back, "You're just what I've been looking for." She meant "honest"...' What are people's thoughts on if this strategy would work? Sure I don't have one eye and I am not a finance whizz like Christian Bale's character, but I do have a well paying job. I am tired of being told that I need to learn how to be a social butterfly. I need to learn how to make friends before I can date...when attempts have only shown me that it both beyond my capability and not something that I particularly want. What if I was just to state 'who' I am honestly, with a bit of humour and as positive a spin as I can muster, on a Match dot com profile (in t...

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I (20F) don't have a job (health reasons), live in a small town, don't go to school and don't really have any friends. For about 6 months I was on tinder and got about 5 matches and none of them worked. I had to delete the app because it made me feel bad about myself. I was on other apps at the same time but with the same result. I dont know what I'm supposed to do as you can't really find any hobbies or gatherings in my town. What else should I try? Submitted August 25, 2019 at 11:17PM I (20F) don't have a job (health reasons), live in a small town, don't go to school and don't really have any friends. For about 6 months I was on tinder and got about 5 matches and none of them worked. I had to delete the app because it made me feel bad about myself. I was on other apps at the same time but with the same result. I dont know what I'm supposed to do as you can't really find any hobbies or gatherings in my town. What else should I try?

I don't know if something that's on men's profiles as well but a lot of women's profiles have statements similar to : make me laugh validate me Bring me food or something along those lines Does anyone else cringe at that level of entitlement? It's as if men are just at their beck and call to perform for them Submitted August 25, 2019 at 11:17PM I don't know if something that's on men's profiles as well but a lot of women's profiles have statements similar to :make me laughvalidate meBring me foodor something along those linesDoes anyone else cringe at that level of entitlement? It's as if men are just at their beck and call to perform for them

Girls and guys seriously. If your not into a guy/girl or not feeling him/her then be honest! It cant be worse than him wondering what he said or did wrong to make you distance yourself. Just be straight up. Rip off the bandaid. Makes you look mature and helps the other person accept it and move on quicker. Seems like no matter what I do, even if both me and the girl agree to be honest (if they want a relationship, fwb, friend, nothing) with each other no matter what that they just act shady or distant instead. Grow up! Same thing goes for guys. Dont string people along. Rant over. Submitted August 25, 2019 at 11:20PM Girls and guys seriously. If your not into a guy/girl or not feeling him/her then be honest! It cant be worse than him wondering what he said or did wrong to make you distance yourself. Just be straight up. Rip off the bandaid. Makes you look mature and helps the other person accept it and move on quicker. Seems like no matter what I do, even if both me and the girl...

I had driving lessons and my driving instructor is the owner of the academy and married. We joked around a lot. When I got nervous driving he grabbed my hand to calm me down. Also he grabbed my hand and put it on his leg sometimes or put his hand on my thigh (with shorts). He always asked me to send him a nice message saying like to my handsome teacher or something like that and music links and stuff but never answered the phone (maybe bc he is married). One of my last lessons he asked me to show him normal pics of me. Then I told him I liked him (as a friend) after one lesson. In the next lesson we left a student in her house and when she got out of the car he put his hand on my leg and told me I like you too (not romantic like). He also told me I should be careful driving cause I was too young and pretty for an accident and also he asked me what perfume I was wearing cause he liked it. That lesson he asked me to send him a nice message. Then I sent him a nice message and I told him ...

Any tips on how not to fall in love so quickly. Or not be so needy. My last attempt at a relationship i was really needy and i got upset/jealous when she wouldn’t reply right away or wouldn’t ask me to do something... i know i can’t expect that from someone but how can i stop the intrusive thoughts...ive heard lots of girls don’t like needy guys they don’t want all the attention... they would prefer if i would ignore them and act like i don’t want to spend all my time with them?? How can i expect to be In a relationship even when they gal doesn’t even want my attention. Submitted August 25, 2019 at 11:23PM Any tips on how not to fall in love so quickly. Or not be so needy. My last attempt at a relationship i was really needy and i got upset/jealous when she wouldn’t reply right away or wouldn’t ask me to do something... i know i can’t expect that from someone but how can i stop the intrusive thoughts...ive heard lots of girls don’t like needy guys they don’t want all the attenti...

So, background... My best friend and I met in undergrad and while there, she met her ex, who she dated for the four years of undergrad and split up shortly after breaking up. I was always good friends with the ex, but never, ever in an inappropriate way. No flirting, nothing. But we kept in touch after the break up because we had similar friends circles, and eventually started flirting here and there - a year or two after they split up. We had some strong chemistry and almost hooked up once but I put an end to it, probably because I was younger and scared. This went on, on and off, for almost ten years... In between, we would go a while not talking or keeping it platonic when we were in relationships with other people. Both of us recently got out of serious relationships and started talking more and more. I have never been a casual sex/FWB kind of person, but I finally decided to give it a try with this person because there is trust, connection, and communication. So, that's b...

I’m starting to feel like I’ll be forever alone. I am going out on dates regularly and they never lead to anything else. Usually it leads to getting ghosted after the first date and makes me feel like I’m nothing more than a free meal to them. I get routinely asked if I don’t want to be married and have kids which is the furthest from the truth. I see my friends in relationships and starting families and I want the same things also but feel like it won’t ever happen. Does anybody else ever go through this. Submitted August 25, 2019 at 11:38PM I’m starting to feel like I’ll be forever alone. I am going out on dates regularly and they never lead to anything else. Usually it leads to getting ghosted after the first date and makes me feel like I’m nothing more than a free meal to them. I get routinely asked if I don’t want to be married and have kids which is the furthest from the truth. I see my friends in relationships and starting families and I want the same things also but feel...

I'm M22 and inexperienced with dating. My question is how can you know you've picked the right person? How can you decide whether a person is just a 'good friend' or if there is something more? Submitted August 25, 2019 at 11:47PM I'm M22 and inexperienced with dating. My question is how can you know you've picked the right person? How can you decide whether a person is just a 'good friend' or if there is something more?

I’m a 22 year old female and I’ve never been in a relationship or fallen in love or even really liked someone romantically. I try so hard not to care or try so hard to want a boyfriend but “finding love” is the overwhelming narrative of just about everything in the world. I love art and what I do and I work on myself all the time and I try pretending I don’t want someone (cause that whole u find someone when ur not looking bullshit) but st the end of the fucking day I’m lonely as shit and feel like no one has ever known me and no one has ever fully loved me and I want to know why. I hate how conceited and vain this sounds but I’m aware that I am pretty because people tell me and I can tell a lot of guys who know nothing about me have crushes on me. People have liked me before but I usually don’t like them enough back and anyone I have liked hasn’t liked me and been really disrespectful. idg what I’m supposed to do because I hate feeling passive and helpless in this area of my life lik...

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Hey I m(22) dated this really awesome f(20) now after 3 months of nice dates and nights out I want to end it because I don’t feel like I’m able to commit to a relationship with her. I have been in hospital and recovery from surgery last 2-3 weeks and told her after recovery we can meet. Today she messaged me asking why I haven’t texted her yet. I know it sucks and I should just be straight forward and tell her but I’m new to dating and have no clue how to approach something like this Submitted August 25, 2019 at 11:53PM Hey I m(22) dated this really awesome f(20) now after 3 months of nice dates and nights out I want to end it because I don’t feel like I’m able to commit to a relationship with her.I have been in hospital and recovery from surgery last 2-3 weeks and told her after recovery we can meet. Today she messaged me asking why I haven’t texted her yet.I know it sucks and I should just be straight forward and tell her but I’m new to dating and have no clue how to approac...

I'll make this short, but i would need some advice to not fuck up something. Met a girl in college beside me and everything seems really perfect, we're both super similar and really hit it off and had a super good vibe despite seeing ourselves for our first barely 1h class (that we have each week). For the first time ever, it does seem to actually be " the one ", shes kinda perfect tbh. My questionning is how can i transition this from the " Class-buddy " to actually going out? she has a close friend with her always which complicates it a bit, so idk how i can take this from just small-talk to actually asking her out ? I wouldnt want it to just get to the end of the semester as friends and just go our seperate ways. Im 99% sure its mutual, we had a LOAD of eye contact before even speaking to eachother. We also have eachother on social media, that part i did. Help would be greatly appreciated since knowing myself, ill prolly mess it up lol Submitted Aug...

We only dated for about 4 months, but it’s my longest experience yet, and it happened fast for me. I was falling for him (M22) already about a month in. He wasn’t feeling the same at the time, but I was okay with waiting, and we did all the things you do in a relationship, only without that label as he was uncomfortable with it. Lots of firsts for both him and me as we were both inexperienced, and lots of ups and downs, but I fell in love for the first time, with him. About three weeks ago, he approached me, wanting to take a break. After we talked for a bit, I asked him straight up if he felt anything for me, which he said he did, but only a little, and he didn’t see himself ever developing any stronger feelings, nor did he see us together for real in the future. So it ended, because with him saying that, there was nothing for me to wait for. Even though I still wanted to. Still wanted him, of course. And that’s the problem, I still do. It’s only been three weeks, and I know it’s n...

I met a girl at a near by bar at my school last semester. I’m usually by myself at the bar because I’m a transfer student and I don’t know many people yet. I’d see her a lot with her friend and One day I was at the bar area and the seat next to me was free. the bar was sorta full but not that much and she sat next to me. It took me abt 5 mins to get the courage to talk to her and once we talked we really hit it off and there was never any awkward silence. when it was time for her class to start she ordered another beer and she was abt a half hr late to her class. I got her snap but I didn’t text her cause it was the last week of school and she was going back home. She prob posted like 3 times over the whole summer and she stopped viewing my snaps like two weeks ago before school started. Then on the first day back at school I saw her at the bar and I waved at her. I also noticed when her friend went to the bathroom as soon as she made eye contact with me she looked the other way. I wa...

I started texting this girl that I met recently and I’ve been starting most of the conversations. So far our texts have been really responsive. 1. Should I continue being the conversation starter or should I do something to let her start texts and 2. should I compliment her looks more and be more flirty? and 3. how long should I wait to ask her out/bring the idea to her that I like her Submitted August 26, 2019 at 12:05AM I started texting this girl that I met recently and I’ve been starting most of the conversations. So far our texts have been really responsive. 1. Should I continue being the conversation starter or should I do something to let her start texts and 2. should I compliment her looks more and be more flirty? and 3. how long should I wait to ask her out/bring the idea to her that I like her

If I'm anxious about my relationship - how do I tell if it's my anxiety being itself, rejection issues, or depression causing self-sabotaging thinking? When I first became single two years ago I dated a guy who turned out to be a narcissist, who was hiding his true intentions, I dismissed my anxiety as just being due to dating for the first time. I know the guy I'm with now is a really good guy, but I don't feel happy. I feel anxious and I'm overthinking; I know he's not the right guy for me but for now I'm enjoying his company (it's early on so that's all it is for now)...I should be able to just relax and enjoy it, but instead I'm stressing out about the fact it can't be a long-term thing as he doesn't want kids and it just doesn't feel like a real relationship to me. I'm anxious he's not really into me and he's going to bolt any minute. I don't know if it's a sign I should end it with him, or if it's jus...

Everything’s going well and then he just doesn’t respond. Submitted August 26, 2019 at 12:10AM Everything’s going well and then he just doesn’t respond.