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Problem with masturbation

Heya. I have a problem that I'd like to ask you people about. So, I'm male, and I have always been attracted to both genders, but mostly men. When I masturbate, I'm only sometimes able to fap to men, but most of the time to women, even though I'm more attracted to men. Help, please. Thanks, -Geobotanician Submitted April 14, 2020 at 12:00AM Heya.I have a problem that I'd like to ask you people about.So, I'm male, and I have always been attracted to both genders, but mostly men.When I masturbate, I'm only sometimes able to fap to men, but most of the time to women, even though I'm more attracted to men.Help, please.Thanks, -Geobotanician

Why doesn't my boyfriend orgasm? Why doesn't it bother him? I am sad and don't know what to do.

My (fairly new) boyfriend gets hard and stays hard, goes a long time, focuses on my pleasure. We are in our 40's and I don't take any of that for granted. He is attentive to me, and turns me on. But more than half the time we have sex, he doesn't cum. He just gets tired and quits. He says it's not me, that he's always been that way. He has never seen a doc about it, and doesn't want to. Increasingly, it is taking away from my pleasure. It's good for me during, but after, I miss the intimacy that comes with mutual satisfaction. I often lie there feeling really sad. The whole thing is also undercutting my sexual confidence, which is something I've never been lacking. When I ask him what I can do - he says there's nothing. I'm beginning to think it's a compatibility issue that can't be resolved. I've discussed it with him gently, more than once. He brushes it off. I need some honest perspective and non-judgy advice. Please don't sha

Help in general !!

So I made my girlfriend cum from penetration for the first time in her life. I have no idea what I did 😂it was my first time having sex so I was nervous but I was really happy when she finished. I have a 6.7 inch penis and a good girth. I have a couple questions 1) how does one make the kissing noise? we make out a lot but the noise is just not there. 2) clit stimulation and how I go about making her finish from this. 3) eating her out and hickeys. Just how to do both Submitted April 14, 2020 at 12:09AM So I made my girlfriend cum from penetration for the first time in her life. I have no idea what I did 😂it was my first time having sex so I was nervous but I was really happy when she finished. I have a 6.7 inch penis and a good girth. I have a couple questions 1) how does one make the kissing noise? we make out a lot but the noise is just not there. 2) clit stimulation and how I go about making her finish from this. 3) eating her out and hickeys. Just how to do both

Fetish has negatively impacted my sex life 18F

I have an array of extremely non-standard fetishes that only get more extreme as time goes on. I could never tell anybody about it, nevermind try these out in real life. For six years I could only get off to porn depicting this, but I noticed that after becoming sexually active I am slightly turned on by standard PIV porn. Anyway, my main issue is that I can’t get wet. Or more accurately, I can only get wet watching porn depicting my fetish, and even this is rare. Outside of this scenario, I’ve gotten wet maybe twice in my life and it was a pitiful amount during non-sexual activities. I’ve never orgasmed with my partner either. This is partly due to only being turned on by fetish porn, and partly because I masturbate in such an abrasive way that has severely decreased my sensitivity. This has massively affected my self perception, I feel less womanly and even thinking about people who get wet easily makes me choke up and start sobbing. I see so many comments saying how sensitive they

What does it me when they only want oral?

I’ve been on tinder for a little while and most of the men I matched with only seem to want bjs without reciprocation.... This makes me very uncomfortable. I don’t understand why someone would think I would only want to suck their cock and not get anything in return. Does it just mean I’m unattractive? Submitted April 14, 2020 at 12:17AM I’ve been on tinder for a little while and most of the men I matched with only seem to want bjs without reciprocation....This makes me very uncomfortable. I don’t understand why someone would think I would only want to suck their cock and not get anything in return. Does it just mean I’m unattractive?

Worried About Taste

Nervous for my SO to go down on me bc I’m concerned he will think the taste is bad. I consider myself very clean, and shower every night before bed, which is usually when we have sex. I feel like I clean pretty thoroughly “down there” because I am so hyper aware of smell/taste. BUT IM STILL WORRIED that he will be repulsed. So what do guys typically think of how girls taste?? Also, I don’t have anything to compare it to, but I get REALLY wet, maybe more than normal. He doesn’t seem to mind now, but if he goes down on me, is that going to be a turn off? Submitted April 14, 2020 at 12:21AM Nervous for my SO to go down on me bc I’m concerned he will think the taste is bad. I consider myself very clean, and shower every night before bed, which is usually when we have sex. I feel like I clean pretty thoroughly “down there” because I am so hyper aware of smell/taste. BUT IM STILL WORRIED that he will be repulsed. So what do guys typically think of how girls taste?? Also, I don’t have

I think my birth control is killing my sex drive. Seeking advice because I want it back.

I think my birth control may be killing my sex drive. Seeking advice because I want it back. I’m a 25 year old female in a super healthy long term relationship and I have sex regularly. I enjoy the sex we do have while it’s happening, but I really miss being excited about it. I’m on a birth control called Viorele. I’ve been on this for about 6 years and it works great for me. No mood swings, light cycles, no weight gain. It’s all regulated. Stopping birth control is not an option. IUD is also not an option as I’ve heard nothing but bad experiences about it from people I’m close to. I also exercise regularly. Has anyone ever dealt with this? Has anyone changed birth control pills and found this to improve? Has anyone found a natural way to boost your sex drive? I’m going to make an appt and talk to a gyno about my options, but I thought I’d come here first. I’m very nervous to switch up birth controls because this works so well for me. Besides this terrible side effect. ANY advic

love trauma

I told my crush that I liked her and she told me she didn't have the capacity to feel anything for anyone at the moment, the next week I heard from a mutual friend that she's on a date with someone else. Then we (the crush and I) met up with some friend to go downtown and she was there with her date and they were doing pda in front of me and she acted as if she was oblivious to what she told me about her not being able to have feelings for anyone. Do I have the right to feel sad? because I feel like i'm over reacting. I'm not sad about her having a date, i'm sad about her lying to me because we are friends after all and friends are supposed to be honest with each other, right? Submitted April 14, 2020 at 12:17AM I told my crush that I liked her and she told me she didn't have the capacity to feel anything for anyone at the moment, the next week I heard from a mutual friend that she's on a date with someone else. Then we (the crush and I) met up with s

What is love?

I just want someone to describe the feeling of “love” Because i just don’t believe in it anymore. Submitted April 14, 2020 at 12:18AM I just want someone to describe the feeling of “love” Because i just don’t believe in it anymore.

Dating and hooking up as someone who doesn't drink much. How does that work?

Getting (m36) out of 10 year relationship and planning to get into the dating game once things settle down. Have always had a good time meeting / dating women, confident there. However that was in my early 20s where alcohol was often involved especially at the beginning to loosen things up. Have a question for you 30ish folks on the dating seen who are not big drinkers or party/bar people. I am fine with that occasionally but not my main scene. What has your experience been on first or 2nd dates where you don't drink? Is it hard to 'cut loose'? Is the other person generally OK if you don't drink or do they get caught up on it? Is it hard / awkward to hookup early on straight sober? Basically have you had trouble meeting, hooking up with or serious dating people as someone who isn't in to drinking / partying? What works here? Appreciate hearing your experiences! Submitted April 14, 2020 at 12:09AM Getting (m36) out of 10 year relationship and planning

My (25/f) boyfriend (28/m) DM’d a sexy Instagram model, defended his actions saying it wasnt a flirty conversation?

As a quick backstory, before my bf and I became official, he was following a lot of “sexy” IG models. Some are in other countries and some are local. They aren’t like the huge 1 million + follower base models, but more like averaging 2,000-10,000 follower base. Anyway, since the beginning I expressed my discomfort and hurt that he’d be liking those girls pictures and even commenting on them. This was when we were exclusively seeing each other and he even told me he liked me, and wanted to see where things went with us. I told him his social media activity was bothering me. He didn’t see anything wrong with it because “liking pictures and commenting didn’t mean anything” to him, but he still stopped for my sake. I told him I didn’t want to change him, but that I’d just rather stop seeing him (back then). He said it was “worth” it to stop liking and cmting on their pics because he wanted to see me. Fast forward to recent day — we became officially bf and gf. However I found out that

/u/insult_king on Is it common for asexuals to also not want to even have a partner?

Or perhaps you associate dating with sex and since you don't want see you choose not to date April 14, 2020 at 12:19AM

/u/niky45 on What the hell am I supposed to do with it then?

oooohhh I must try that next time XD April 14, 2020 at 12:18AM

/u/quicksilver_foxheart on What the hell am I supposed to do with it then?

can i get a vibrate from the vibrator? April 14, 2020 at 12:17AM

/u/injusticehasbeendone on I thought I could handle my boyfriend coming out as asexual...

I would definitely talk to him about your concerns and what you both want. It could be you come to some sort of arrangement with dates or rules of engaement. It could turns out he doesn't worry or ever feel pressured by you when you randomly ask for sex. If that were the case and you still have an irrational fear of pressuring him, maybe try to make the ask more playful. Like maybe invite him to play a game of sexy dice. Not all of the combinations come out sexy. Or get one of the fuzzy dice and chuck it at him with a raised eyebrow. For me, such an approach is too lighthearted and silly to ever be taken as pressure. Especially if a "lol no not right now" is taken easily. https://www.buzzfeed.com/expresident/sexy-dice April 14, 2020 at 12:17AM

/u/Trtlman on Let’s go bois

Supposed to be on the right hand April 14, 2020 at 12:10AM

/u/InstitutionalizedOat on If only it has been so easy

It’s from issue 8 and it’s my favorite part of that run. Here you go. April 14, 2020 at 12:08AM

/u/umbralgarden on My work as a escort made me understand im asexual (more like gray-a)

Thank you for posting this!! I've always wondered this about sex workers. I know exactly how you feel. I was able to become very talented and experienced with a certain kink that made me money because I cared so little about the actual sex aspect. So I never encountered jealousy or insecurity or frustration or neediness. I never mixed my emotions or self worth into it. It makes sex work a lot easier. Thank you for this unique perspective. April 14, 2020 at 12:04AM

/u/TunnelRatVermin on Am I really asexual?

sounds like aesthetic attraction April 14, 2020 at 12:02AM

/u/CinnamonCat_ on A few months ago, I asked you guys what you’d want included in a video all about asexuality. Well, here it is! Thank you for all your contributions, and I hope it represents us well!

damn I never knew spongebob and sherlock holmes were asexual April 14, 2020 at 12:02AM

/u/singwhatyoucantsay on What the hell am I supposed to do with it then?

There's heated ones that are great for cramps! April 13, 2020 at 11:58PM

Maybe he should get a man than, right?

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And anotha one. ☝🏼 “Can I get to know you as a friend” fail.

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