Hi, I have been dating my otherwise charming boyfriend for 5 months, and it is a wonderful relationship and perhaps the best I've ever had aside from one really strange issue. When he stays at my apartment, I have caught him in the middle of the night masturbating in my kitchen when he thinks I am asleep. He is near the garbage can and insists he is "aiming" into it, but I constantly find semen on the floor around the garbage and sometimes even on the complete other side of the kitchen. I am dumbfounded by this behavior because if he is staying the night we have almost always made love, and even if he does feel the urge to masturbate in the middle of the night why can't he use my bathroom? When I confront him on this matter he acts EXTREMELY bashful, but sometimes gets very annoyed with me and claims I should "chill" and "look the other way" and once even says "you swiffer the kitchen every Saturday so what's the big deal?" I...

My bf (27M) and I (25F) have only been together 6 months but he is super invested in forever. We met online and really enjoy each other’s company. We’ve met the others’ family, friends, etc and have been on a couple of trips. I care for him so so so much and can say honestly that I love him as a person. There’s a problem: I’m not physically or sexually attracted to him at all. His body turns me off in a major way, and not just when he’s naked - he wears tight T-shirts and I can’t even look at him. I know it seems shallow, but we all have our preferences and I’m trying to be okay with that. Believe me, if I could change this I would. I thought time might help but it hasn’t in the slightest; if anything, my aversion has grown. I have been strongly advised that it’s not fair to continue on in the relationship, and I agree that he deserves someone who thinks he’s the hottest thing on earth. The thing is, he has crippling body image issues. I can’t tell him that I don’t find him attracti...

TL;DR at the bottom. My (F37) husband (M43) and I have been going through a rough patch this past few years, with multiple traumatic events, including my mother's untimely death last year. During this time, my husband and I have gone through a lot, and we were each other's main support system. He quit his nerve-wracking job a year ago, and withdrew socially by choice, because he was feeling depressed. I have been supporting us, and he is slowly getting better as time passes, he has started enjoying doing things again now, and he is super sweet with me, so things are still difficult right now, but on the mend. We have already agreed that psychiatric support is on the table, if things stop improving. However, one of our friends (from the group that my husband met through the stressful job that he quit) has been reaching out from time to time to both of us. My husband likes him, but doesn't want to talk to him (or anyone at all) at the moment. I also like him, and I am try...

Hello Reddit, I'm using a throwaway because of reasons and because english is not my native language. , ​ She was working in our Company during her summer job. I was working with her for 2 weeks. During this time we talked about a lot of stuff. It turned out that we had a lot in common. At on point i thougt about asking her out. But there was this age gap of 9 years betwen us. So i ditch it. But on her last day she gave me her number. So after work i texted her and we made some plans for the weekend. ​ Honestly I did not expect much. I dont know why but I had that feeling that this first date will be over after 1 hour. But our first date lasted for 9 hours. And the age gap was no problem for her. During this time she told me that her last relationships went to quick. She wanted to approach things slower this time. I was fine with this too. During those 5 weeks everything went well. Last Saturday was even better. It was all different than the ones before. You could tell by the ...

Posting this online since I just wanted a broader opinion than I get from friends/family. I was with my ex for about 6 months. I liked her personality, we had similar values, i found her attractive, and the physical part of the relationship was good. Both of us were going through a stressful period in our lives while we were together. She was starting a new job in a new city and I had a lot of pressure to succeed from work. I've always handled things myself when I am under stress - I don't like to put it on others. I need my alone time though to recharge. I suffer from chronic dysthymia and anxiety, but its genetic and I deal with it pretty well - it doesn't really affect my functioning. I usually exercise, hang out with other people, or play video games to destress and keep my mental health good. I also started proper medical treatment recently so under even better control. She on the other hand was new to the city and didn't have much support, so she leaned heavily...

I know that in almost all situations, this is the sort of thing that makes someone seem unconfident, but hear me out. I have always struggled to make true friendships. What I mean by this is a friendship where I feel a real connection, where I actually want to spend time with them away from school or whatever event we have together. I met the second of these people in my life recently. She is now my best friend. We do a lot of gaming marathons into the wee morning and I've begun to crush on her. I think she crushes on me as well, she sent me a heart a couple days ago on Snap. I'm worried about asking her out though. There is some distance between us now, and I don't know how well I can patch it if it goes terribly. Just because I make these connections so rarely, I really don't want to lose this one over something like this. This is why I think I should ask her really good friend. I'm good friends with her best friend as well and I think she is the only one who c...

We've had issues in the past regarding being respectful and not insulting that I thought we had worked through but our recent fight has left me quite conflicted. I need to give some background to what caused the argument first I'm staying with my family at the moment and have been looking at shared accomodation to move out on my own. My bf Jack lives too far from my work so its not practical for us to live together and this isnt the problem. I was in the process of organizing a place and was dealing with the person on the lease. Long story short, I had some issues with how the landlord delt with some minor requests even though i felt i had offered few options he was quite rigid and fixated so I didnt think longterm he would be good to deal with and decided I didnt want to move in. I was on the phone with jack and told him the situation, and he asked that I dont send any messages to the place but I felt that would be rude and thought I'd let them know I wasnt moving due...

Throwaway. ​ Tl;dr I feel like what I say is often taken to have deeper meaning. I've been with my husband for 10 years, married for six. There's a lot of stuff, and in general I'm happy in our relationship. However, every once in a while we have a conversation where my husband seems to take what I'm saying and, instead of taking it at face value, "reading between the lines" and accusing me of things. Once it led to him telling me I was a bigot. We fought for several hours, in which I agreed with him, and said that I get why someone might want to choose what their kids learned instead of trusting public educators, who in my experience don't always care about facts, to teach their kids. But no matter what I said, he kept asking why I hated LGBTQ people, which I don't. There have been other instances of ranging caliber, but I guess my question is, is there a way for me to talk to him about this? I hate fighting and any voice raising, makes me feel p...

I really liked him, but the way he treated me was really not good. He would just not respond to my message like for 2 weeks and randomly text me when he wants to and continue this partern, he did not make any further plans to see me and only contacted me on that day when he is around my city if I will be free.(We live far away from each other so without plans, it is hard to see) Yet stupidly I really like him, so I just continued to contact him. Yesterday I was out with my friends, drinking quite late and got the courage to finish it (I know it is not a good idea ) I wrote him sth like “I just want to let you know, I started to see someone. (I am really)I still adore you and we can spend time together as friends, but not the way we used to. One day you would drunk call me and call me your girl friend and another day you would just disappear until you feel to talk to me. I felt this is quite shitty attitude and not the way I am supposed to be treated. I am writing this because I ...

I met her on Tinder. We went on a date on Wednesday and hit it off pretty well. At the end of the date, she said she wanted to go out to eat with me on Sunday and I accepted ofc because I had a really good time. After the date, she sent me a snap saying “I had a good time :)” as I replied “me too”. Sent her another snap, she opened it and never responded. I know she doesn’t use snapchat much so I didn’t think anything of it. Sent a good night snap. She never opened it. So I texted her instead the next day (Thursday), sending something funny. Never opened it. I don’t know if I should say something? Or accept that she’s probably ghosting me and move on. TL;DR: Went on a date with someone, they said they had a good time and even planned a date, and they have stopped responding for a few days. Submitted September 08, 2019 at 12:08AM I met her on Tinder. We went on a date on Wednesday and hit it off pretty well. At the end of the date, she said she wanted to go out to eat with me o...

This happened earlier this summer, and some minor facts have been changed to protect the identities of the people involved This has to do with 3 people my best friend Juan[18m], his Cousin Esmeralda[18F] and Me[ 18M] I spend alot of time at my friend Juans house. He is Cuban, so he has some extremely hot family members. I have a huge crush on one of his cousins. One day during the summer, there was a pool party so a whole gang of us decided to stay over his house. That night, while listening to music, Esme and I had a slow dance, I thought it was a moment and she liked me too. While watching tv, Esme asked could she put her feet on my lap, she fell asleep. I stayed and fell asleep on the couch with her. I woke up a few hours later. She was still asleep with her feet in my lap. And the livingroom was deserted. I decided this was my chance. I laid down behind her on the couch, and put my arms around her. She kind of scooted her butt into me, she had on these little silk boxer thin...

Okay, so my girlfriend [18] and I [18] are happy together, everything is fine. However, there is a married man that has been speaking to her for months now (before we even knew each other) and he just keeps on getting worse and poaching her in the wrong way. She does track and field and he is involved with the team as well so she can't necessarily escape him, and he has done the same things but worse to another girl and when said female reported it, nothing happened, no one believed her and the man came back and now the same thing is happening. He has not done anything physically, but he has explicitly stated his intentions of doing them, he is aware that her and I are together and sexually engaged but it does not phase him, and she does not believe that speaking about it will result in the situation getting any better, and I really have no other suggestions for her. I want to support her through this but I am unsure of how, and she feels as if her boyfriend doesn't care and s...

Tldr; guy I met online a week ago says he loves me and wants to marry me plans to visit in two months I changed ages to remain anonymous So basically I went online and met a guy and we got to talking and on day two he told me he loves me and was willing to send me money to help me out financially (I refused the offer) and I went with it because I thought if we ever met up it would be far enough to where it was real, because he lives super far. And then he sent me a package and he needed my address do I gave it to him (I'm a dumbass) and he sent me a screenshot of him sending it. He doesn't seem to be catfishing me because he sends me snaps and pictures of him. We are literally texting all the time. Then he suggested visiting me in 3 months, and I think like it's enough time to visit me if we keep talking for 3 months, but I'm not sure. He never asks me for nudes or anything sexually which is a good sign I guess, he seems really onboard in wanting a long term rela...

I just want to point out my partner is not 9 she's 19 it was a very bad typo, I'm not a pedophile. So it's been nearly 4 years with my partner, let's call her Sophie. Sophie has been a huge part of my life, and obviously since we have nearly been together for 4 years, we did indeed meet and start our relationship in high school. It may seem like a shallow, immature high school relationship at first but it was a very heart-felt relationship (in the sense that it wasn't just liking someone). Fast forward 4 years, we are both currently in university and are doing separate degrees, same uni, no long distance. However, it feels one sided. When I bring up one sided relationships, people tend to think in terms of the affection and love that one is providing to the other in the relationship but it's not for us. For us, it's more of one sided care. I'm a very independent person, I've been living alone since I was 16, worked multiple jobs and am currently...

I'm so devastated. I thought he was my soulmate. We have been married for 4 years. Apologies in advance, this is gonna be long... Outside of our sex life, we had been getting along great - he's my best friend and my only family in the state that we live in. In regards to our sex life, for the past year or so, we have only been having sex every few week, because he has "been stressed from work and can't get in the mood." (No, I haven't gained weight or gone through any physical changes. I look the same as when we started dating.) I KNEW something was up, especially since he's been leaving early to go to work and staying out late to "go to the gym." He is into fitness, but not fanatical. I never accused him of cheating or lying, but I did ask him many times (after laying awake and crying) if he was still attracted to me and if something else was taking his attention. He would always gaslight me and make me feel completely crazy. That was until a...

I met this guy through a dating app 9 months ago, and we hit it off immediately. We dated for ~2 months, and he despite him making it clear from the time we met, he didn’t want anything serious at the time, we had a talk where we realized we had feelings for each other beyond just a hook up. Like a week after this talk, he ended up breaking things off with me because he said he didn’t want to get attached to anyone, especially someone who was moving (This was in February, I was temporarily moving from June-September for an internship, and I’m about to move back). He was pretty adamant that we remain friends, and after a couple week break I agreed. Ever since then, we’ve texted literally every single day, hung out a ton before I moved, and I recently lost a family member and he has been there for me like nobody else has. Well, I move back in like a week and I’m really excited to see him again. I’m pondering telling him that I still have feelings, but I don’t want to ruin the friendship...

Hello Reddit, I'm on mobile, so please forgive formatting. :) So, this is a fairly minor problem in the scheme of things, but it's infuriating nonetheless. I make fresh bread, and sweet/unsweet tea, and lemonade at home relatively often. Usually 5-6 loaves a week, and 1 pitcher of the aforementioned drinks a day. Yes, we eat a lot of bread. But we have kids too, and they love bread. My husband finishes the bread and the drinks nearly every day, usually before dinnertime. That wouldn't be a problem if he would just tell me when he finishes it, so I can start a new loaf/new pitcher and if I want a sweet toast for dessert, I can have that. I've tried asking him to tell me, and he acknowledges it, but then never does. I end up wanting a drink, and we have nothing in the fridge, because he also drank our water, and didn't refill that. When I make a big deal out of it, he'll end up leaving the smallest bit of things behind so he didn't finish them. So, inste...

tldr: after 2 years of new single life new realizations about core values, second-guessing them if they are even applicable or realistic in the year 2019. Hey you all, I've been thinking a bit about what I want from a relationship and some things have come to the surface and I feel like they are not represented by monogamy nor by non-monogamy (at least in the terms that poly and relationship anarchy forums provided me with info). So the set of core values I identified so far are: - I want myself and my partner to be as honest and direct as possible. Issues should be dealt with as soon as possible and it is better to say something negative than to be "nice" and dishonest. I think it's important to say for example "I am getting a bit overwhelmed right now can I have some space for myself? I love you still but I need some time on my own." - I'd like to have the same position in their priorities as they have in mine. Which shouldn't be surprising. I...

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I do too, but the thing is, happiness is at least partially a choice. Many of them choose to wallow in their own pessimism, infecting others with the toxic beliefs they learned. At a certain point, an adult has to take responsibility for their own happiness. September 08, 2019 at 12:02AM

jesus christ do people seriously think that? like, i know straight people will brigade others for not being straight, but what the fuck is this? we were born with a broken brain? fuck is that??? September 08, 2019 at 12:01AM