18/m and 18/f, Girlfriend is being approached by a married guy, what to do? (1 month and 1 day relationship)

Okay, so my girlfriend [18] and I [18] are happy together, everything is fine. However, there is a married man that has been speaking to her for months now (before we even knew each other) and he just keeps on getting worse and poaching her in the wrong way. She does track and field and he is involved with the team as well so she can't necessarily escape him, and he has done the same things but worse to another girl and when said female reported it, nothing happened, no one believed her and the man came back and now the same thing is happening. He has not done anything physically, but he has explicitly stated his intentions of doing them, he is aware that her and I are together and sexually engaged but it does not phase him, and she does not believe that speaking about it will result in the situation getting any better, and I really have no other suggestions for her. I want to support her through this but I am unsure of how, and she feels as if her boyfriend doesn't care and she feels responsible and that my feelings of anger, hurt and frustration are geared towards her. He is even supposed to pick her up tonight and carry her out or something, I really don't know what to do or how to support her through this. She will remain at the school for a few more months before leaving, I don't know what will happen during that duration but I don't intend to breakup with her and I know that she genuinely is rejecting and ignoring him as much as possible, so, reddit users, any ideas?

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// TL;DR - Girlfriend is being approached by a married man who will not quit in his sexual and romantic conquests, I don't know how to support her and she feels like her back is against the wall. He has done it with another girl before and when she reported him, nothing came out of the situation.



Submitted September 08, 2019 at 12:12AM

Okay, so my girlfriend [18] and I [18] are happy together, everything is fine. However, there is a married man that has been speaking to her for months now (before we even knew each other) and he just keeps on getting worse and poaching her in the wrong way. She does track and field and he is involved with the team as well so she can't necessarily escape him, and he has done the same things but worse to another girl and when said female reported it, nothing happened, no one believed her and the man came back and now the same thing is happening. He has not done anything physically, but he has explicitly stated his intentions of doing them, he is aware that her and I are together and sexually engaged but it does not phase him, and she does not believe that speaking about it will result in the situation getting any better, and I really have no other suggestions for her. I want to support her through this but I am unsure of how, and she feels as if her boyfriend doesn't care and she feels responsible and that my feelings of anger, hurt and frustration are geared towards her. He is even supposed to pick her up tonight and carry her out or something, I really don't know what to do or how to support her through this. She will remain at the school for a few more months before leaving, I don't know what will happen during that duration but I don't intend to breakup with her and I know that she genuinely is rejecting and ignoring him as much as possible, so, reddit users, any ideas?​// TL;DR - Girlfriend is being approached by a married man who will not quit in his sexual and romantic conquests, I don't know how to support her and she feels like her back is against the wall. He has done it with another girl before and when she reported him, nothing came out of the situation.
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