Should I M15 ask my Crush's friend F15 if my crush is interested?

I know that in almost all situations, this is the sort of thing that makes someone seem unconfident, but hear me out.

I have always struggled to make true friendships. What I mean by this is a friendship where I feel a real connection, where I actually want to spend time with them away from school or whatever event we have together. I met the second of these people in my life recently. She is now my best friend. We do a lot of gaming marathons into the wee morning and I've begun to crush on her. I think she crushes on me as well, she sent me a heart a couple days ago on Snap.

I'm worried about asking her out though. There is some distance between us now, and I don't know how well I can patch it if it goes terribly. Just because I make these connections so rarely, I really don't want to lose this one over something like this. This is why I think I should ask her really good friend. I'm good friends with her best friend as well and I think she is the only one who can give me a good answer on whether or not I'd be compromising our connection.

She's the sort of girl who strikes me as very likely to tell my crush what I say, so that makes me a bit nervous as well, but I'm not 100% sure. She has called me a close friend before, so I might be able to trust her.

TL;DR: Want to ask out my best friend who lives a distance away. Don't want to compromise friendship as I've been without a best friend for a long time. Should I ask her good friend for advice?



Submitted September 07, 2019 at 11:56PM

I know that in almost all situations, this is the sort of thing that makes someone seem unconfident, but hear me out.I have always struggled to make true friendships. What I mean by this is a friendship where I feel a real connection, where I actually want to spend time with them away from school or whatever event we have together. I met the second of these people in my life recently. She is now my best friend. We do a lot of gaming marathons into the wee morning and I've begun to crush on her. I think she crushes on me as well, she sent me a heart a couple days ago on Snap.I'm worried about asking her out though. There is some distance between us now, and I don't know how well I can patch it if it goes terribly. Just because I make these connections so rarely, I really don't want to lose this one over something like this. This is why I think I should ask her really good friend. I'm good friends with her best friend as well and I think she is the only one who can give me a good answer on whether or not I'd be compromising our connection.She's the sort of girl who strikes me as very likely to tell my crush what I say, so that makes me a bit nervous as well, but I'm not 100% sure. She has called me a close friend before, so I might be able to trust her.TL;DR: Want to ask out my best friend who lives a distance away. Don't want to compromise friendship as I've been without a best friend for a long time. Should I ask her good friend for advice?
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