Edit title: bad joke My husband made a really bad joke today that has honest left me feeling awful. We were in the car and I was apparently sitting on the end of his phone charger, he pulled it, I felt the pulling so I lifted my leg and butt cheek so he could get it out. He says, "did you even feel it under there?" to which I replied no. He followed that by, "damn that's pretty bad, next thing you know you'll find jelly beans you didn't know you had." And then laughed. I am at my all time highest weight non-pregnant, 155. I hate how I look but I have an issue with will power and food. To make make things worse, while walking in my bathing tonight suit my 3 yr old said, "mommy your belly is wiggling!" I know it's better to just let it go because he will just say he was kidding but man do I feel like an ugly fat cow right now. Submitted August 12, 2019 at 12:17AM Edit title: bad jokeMy husband made a really bad joke today that has h...

Those are probably people who spam literally every dating app they can find without knowing or caring about any specialized purpose it's supposed to have. August 12, 2019 at 12:15AM

Huh??? No, most ppl I know (of whom not a single person is ace) would say there are loads better things than sex. Sex can be an integral part of a fulfilling romantic relationship for most sexual ppl, but if someone truly thinks it’s the literally the best thing ever, they can’t have had many life experiences August 12, 2019 at 12:15AM

You have some fair points, I just mean that when I go into the kid's section of BAM or Barnes and Noble, I always see Harry Potter and LOTR, and I've always heard them described as kid's books. It's important to remember that "kid" in this context doesn't just mean like, less than 8. People are often quick to judge when they hear a book being described like that, because they immediately imagine a picture book that's shallow and childish, when that's just not the case with lots of them. I've read the Hunger Games and I low key hated it. This is no attack on fans of the series or anything like that, I just got so irritated with the characters and by the end of the series I felt terribly unfulfilled. Again it's fine if you liked them, I just couldn't ever bring myself to, as much as I wanted to be able to join the fandom. I actually read a lot of YA books in my teenage years. I'd often push myself to finish the novel or read severa...

I’m (25f) just starting to date this guy (26) and things have been great. Last time we were out on a date, I was talking about my best friend. So I asked if his close friends lived here or somewhere else, and he said he doesn’t really have anyone he considers a best friend. From conversation context, he does get together with groups of friends but it sounds like he doesn’t really have a super close relationship with any of them. Is this normal for some people or is it a red flag? Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:16PM I’m (25f) just starting to date this guy (26) and things have been great. Last time we were out on a date, I was talking about my best friend. So I asked if his close friends lived here or somewhere else, and he said he doesn’t really have anyone he considers a best friend. From conversation context, he does get together with groups of friends but it sounds like he doesn’t really have a super close relationship with any of them. Is this normal for some people or is i...

Is it normal that all the men I have been with have always tried to tape us during sex with his phone, they’ve all either ask me or tried do it secretly. Is there something I’m not getting? Like is that a thing? Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:18PM Is it normal that all the men I have been with have always tried to tape us during sex with his phone, they’ve all either ask me or tried do it secretly. Is there something I’m not getting? Like is that a thing?

I(22F) recently developed a crush on a guy(27M) who’s (sort of) my coworker. We work for the same company but never see each other at work. I feel like (in my head) I’ve made it pretty clear that I’m into him and want to hang out outside of work/our mutual friend group. When we do hang out for work related things or with mutual friends, I get the feeling he’s interested but he hasn’t made any moves. We’ve asked each other once each to hang out/go to dinner, both times the other person was busy. I’m not sure if being super straightforward is the way to go in this situation, but I don’t want to let it slip away by not being direct about how I feel. I just want to see if any guys can give some insight because I know I have zero idea how men’s brains work lol Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:19PM I(22F) recently developed a crush on a guy(27M) who’s (sort of) my coworker. We work for the same company but never see each other at work. I feel like (in my head) I’ve made it pretty clear...

So this is the thing my friend is having( as it seems a good and cool relationship with her so ) We where talking about relationships and she told me her so asker her to delete the sex videos she had with some ex's ... I really don't know what to answer a part of me told her she should cause now she's with a new person and if is a serious relationship she must But also it leaves me thinking about... like she told me she doesn't even remember she still have them in the data cause rarely open,so maybe some people like to keep photos ,videos are memories of ex's? So what should she do ? Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:24PM So this is the thing my friend is having( as it seems a good and cool relationship with her so ) We where talking about relationships and she told me her so asker her to delete the sex videos she had with some ex's ... I really don't know what to answer a part of me told her she should cause now she's with a new person and if is a...

On Friday night I went on a date with a guy from Tinder. We went out for a few drinks at a nice cosy place in town. The conversation was really easy and we hit it off straight away. Four hours flew by, and before we knew it, the staff were telling us they were closing and we were the last ones there. We laughed a lot, he complimented me a lot, told me I was a lot more interesting than his previous tinder dates...so I guess you could say all the signs were there. After we left we walked outside in the cold for a bit, he gave me his jacket and put his arm around me. Then we waited in his car listening to music while I booked my Uber. As soon as the Uber came, I said goodbye and left. Looking back now, I almost feel like I left too quickly...I didn't even give him a hug or anything. I don't know why. I just opened the car door and jumped out and said "drive safely". I feel so silly! Anyway, I texted him the next evening (Saturday) saying: "Hey thank you for last n...

This girl is a friend of a friend. Ive seen a few pics and we've talked a few times on snap but i dont know anything about her. Were meeting at the food court at the mall and I'm a little out of touch with the dating scene so im not sure where to take her. Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:25PM This girl is a friend of a friend. Ive seen a few pics and we've talked a few times on snap but i dont know anything about her. Were meeting at the food court at the mall and I'm a little out of touch with the dating scene so im not sure where to take her.

I’ve been casually seeing a guy for a while now and he said he wasn’t looking for a relationship and wanted a FWB(what we have is not FWB lmao it definitely is more of a situationship). Anyways, he has done a lot of things that have confused me like coming to my bday party, getting along great with my friends, showing pda(arm around me, holding my hand, etc) in front of my friends. Then when I was at home for a couple months he’d text me saying you gotta hurry back we gotta hang out soon. Once I’m back small things like this continued like he offered to help me move out in a couple weeks, we were supposed to go out to a bar and he suggested we bring our friends which in and of itself I found a bit weird. And when we went out last night, he was showing full on pda in front of his friends who before last night didn’t even know I existed. When stuff like this has happened before I’ve brought it up and each time he tells me he’s not looking for anything serious, so this time I decided to ...

So me and the girl I like are both in high school. We don’t talk but we do snap a little. I really like and I’m not sure what to do. I don’t know how to start talking to her or what to say. She hangs out with other guys too so idk if she likes them or what. I’m really struggling and need some help. Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:35PM So me and the girl I like are both in high school. We don’t talk but we do snap a little. I really like and I’m not sure what to do. I don’t know how to start talking to her or what to say. She hangs out with other guys too so idk if she likes them or what. I’m really struggling and need some help.

I’m trying to ask out my crush but we haven’t talked allot. I want to get to know her more but texting isn’t a good option. Basically I want to hangout and know her better but I don’t want it to be a date. Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:42PM I’m trying to ask out my crush but we haven’t talked allot. I want to get to know her more but texting isn’t a good option. Basically I want to hangout and know her better but I don’t want it to be a date.

lately I'm beginning to believe no one will ever love me. Ive had a series of failed relationships that leads me to believe any future relationships will end just as badly. I feel destined to die alone. Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:57PM lately I'm beginning to believe no one will ever love me. Ive had a series of failed relationships that leads me to believe any future relationships will end just as badly. I feel destined to die alone.

I met a girl on tinder over a month ago, we hit it off right away and have had deep conversation flowing each day for the past month. So far we’ve had 3 dates, and have spent an entire weekend together. We’ve both expressed that we like each other a lot and want to continue seeing each other. Today she moved about 4 hours north for the rest of the summer to work until she goes back to uni. Next week I leave for Iceland and I don’t return until September. I’m home for one weekend and then I’m working about 2000kms away from home until October. She told me she really wants to see me after my trip. We’re both living our own lives but it’s obvious that we both have feelings for each other. I’m not looking to play mind games, I’m looking for advice on how to keep the spark going while we’re both busy and long distance without being exclusive, it’s a unique situation but if anyone has tips they’d be much appreciated! Submitted August 11, 2019 at 11:59PM I met a girl on tinder over a...

For years, I have been assembling the pieces of my life. Personal development through books, skills, and courses. Making sure to take freelance opportunities to earn extra income. I have been putting on muscle in the gym. I have gone on the NoFap protocol. In the past 2 years, I attempted to start my own business after being laid off. It was not a success. I ended up taking on 10,000 in debt. I now have a job that makes me 57,000 per year, so I doing my best to pay it off by next year. Even with all these improvements, one major area of my life is lacking: dating. I have zero and I mean zero experience with women beyond being friends. Which is a shame because I am at a phase of my life where it is very odd to have no experience dating. It is hard for me to move beyond this because I still have a slight fear of attractive women and women in general. I am afraid of being judged for my lack of experience especially sexually. This is a major weakness of mine and a huge flaw in my armor....

My and my boyfriend had separated days ago and had gotten back together today. I need advice on how I can keep this relationship stable and not toxic. He said I didn't do anything wrong whenever he left, but my mind was so negative towards myself. Can someone give me some advice on tips to keep this relationship strong. Submitted August 12, 2019 at 12:10AM My and my boyfriend had separated days ago and had gotten back together today. I need advice on how I can keep this relationship stable and not toxic. He said I didn't do anything wrong whenever he left, but my mind was so negative towards myself. Can someone give me some advice on tips to keep this relationship strong.

hi! im 20F. had a tinder match around a month ago. we really hit it off so i added him on fb but things kind of watered down after we failed to make a date happen. (misalignment of schedules) he asked me to come over to watch a series w him as a first meeting. i was nervous all day only for him to tell me last minute that he was gonna hang with friends until 10pm and asked if it would still be worth it for me to come at that hour. It sounded pretty suggestive to me (?) and as i am still a virgin i politely said no. idk if he was genuinely a clueless guy who sucks at planning (he gives off that vibe and has told a few things that put his careless personality on display) or purposely wanted to set me up as an easy hook-up (which i wouldn’t mind but sadly i’m a virgin and i’d prefer to not get deflowered by a stranger on our first meeting) right now is retake period so i was thinking of following him on instagram at the end of this month and then DM him to see if he’s still interested...

Okay. So I (22F) met this guy (25) many months ago while working at this job. It was of a more temporary job for me. I never noticed him until I noticed he would stare at me and then I was like “oh he’s kinda cute” 😂 but we never talked much. Once during a night out with co workers, he approached me and we ended up dancing all night and he added me on Snapchat that night but we still didn’t talk much, if anything, we spoke even less after this lol. After I left we didn’t speak at all, only when he wished me a happy birthday through Snapchat. Anyways, fast forward to last week, we ran into each other at a club anddddd we danced again all night! This time though, we left together (we came with different people) and we just talked for the rest of the night until it was like 5 in the morning when he finally dropped me off. Before leaving, he asked me to call myself through his phone. He had lost my phone earlier so I thought he had simply forgotten that he had found it so I was like “oh...

Well back in March the girl of my dreams dumped my ass and moved on I want to move on but don’t know how all I want is for someone to care as much about me as I do of about them Submitted August 12, 2019 at 12:19AM Well back in March the girl of my dreams dumped my ass and moved on I want to move on but don’t know how all I want is for someone to care as much about me as I do of about them

I honestly dont know really. I do know that male genitals make me very uncomfortable for some reason. I myself an heteroromantic so I find male faces... cute? I wouldn't say attractive really but idk- I can appreciate male and female upper bodies though. August 12, 2019 at 12:06AM

Thank you!!! The many sub-identities on the spectrum confuse me somewhat but I feel like I should find... SOMETHING to fit what I'm feeling August 12, 2019 at 12:04AM

I feel like the word lithsexual (refers to "stone," as in "stone butch top" in the lesbian world) might be useful for you. It's basically someone that enjoys sexually pleasing their partner but isn't really into being touched themselves. It might not 100% fit but it might be a useful guidepost. August 12, 2019 at 12:01AM