Attempting to be a sexually attractive man - need advice

For years, I have been assembling the pieces of my life. Personal development through books, skills, and courses. Making sure to take freelance opportunities to earn extra income. I have been putting on muscle in the gym. I have gone on the NoFap protocol. In the past 2 years, I attempted to start my own business after being laid off. It was not a success. I ended up taking on 10,000 in debt. I now have a job that makes me 57,000 per year, so I doing my best to pay it off by next year.

Even with all these improvements, one major area of my life is lacking: dating. I have zero and I mean zero experience with women beyond being friends. Which is a shame because I am at a phase of my life where it is very odd to have no experience dating. It is hard for me to move beyond this because I still have a slight fear of attractive women and women in general. I am afraid of being judged for my lack of experience especially sexually.

This is a major weakness of mine and a huge flaw in my armor. It's a problem I need to solve and it's something that needs to be solved ASAP. It is completely unacceptable. I do not want to be a virgin at 30 and miss out on the period of my 20s.

I plan on just having as much casual sex as possible and increasing my game so I can be attractive to women. I have two problems:

  1. I still live with my parents
  2. I am attracted to the wrong ethnic group

I'm planning on moving out next year after I pay off my $10,000 in debt. My parents are not restrictive at all, it's just no girl would want to date a guy living at home.

The other side of the equation is that I am of Indian descent. I'm about 6'2", which makes me a bit taller than some guys. I am unfortunately attracted to white women with a little bit of meat in the right places (if you know what I mean). Problem is, I'm not even on the radar for these women and if I miraculously was, I'd have the barrier of inexperience in my way. I am not attracted to women of my own ethnicity and I wish I was, because it would just make everything easier.

So now, there's a massive problem with no easy solution. I just need to get out there and start getting active, starting from ground zero.

If I'm approaching 30 and still a virgin, I'll just end up hiring professional help. It's just something that needs to be dealt with.

So I want to ask - has anyone been in my situation? How have you handled similar issues? I'd like to hear from brothers who have overcome these obstacles and struggles in their life and turned it all around.



Submitted August 12, 2019 at 12:08AM

For years, I have been assembling the pieces of my life. Personal development through books, skills, and courses. Making sure to take freelance opportunities to earn extra income. I have been putting on muscle in the gym. I have gone on the NoFap protocol. In the past 2 years, I attempted to start my own business after being laid off. It was not a success. I ended up taking on 10,000 in debt. I now have a job that makes me 57,000 per year, so I doing my best to pay it off by next year.Even with all these improvements, one major area of my life is lacking: dating. I have zero and I mean zero experience with women beyond being friends. Which is a shame because I am at a phase of my life where it is very odd to have no experience dating. It is hard for me to move beyond this because I still have a slight fear of attractive women and women in general. I am afraid of being judged for my lack of experience especially sexually.This is a major weakness of mine and a huge flaw in my armor. It's a problem I need to solve and it's something that needs to be solved ASAP. It is completely unacceptable. I do not want to be a virgin at 30 and miss out on the period of my 20s.I plan on just having as much casual sex as possible and increasing my game so I can be attractive to women. I have two problems:I still live with my parentsI am attracted to the wrong ethnic groupI'm planning on moving out next year after I pay off my $10,000 in debt. My parents are not restrictive at all, it's just no girl would want to date a guy living at home.The other side of the equation is that I am of Indian descent. I'm about 6'2", which makes me a bit taller than some guys. I am unfortunately attracted to white women with a little bit of meat in the right places (if you know what I mean). Problem is, I'm not even on the radar for these women and if I miraculously was, I'd have the barrier of inexperience in my way. I am not attracted to women of my own ethnicity and I wish I was, because it would just make everything easier.So now, there's a massive problem with no easy solution. I just need to get out there and start getting active, starting from ground zero.If I'm approaching 30 and still a virgin, I'll just end up hiring professional help. It's just something that needs to be dealt with.So I want to ask - has anyone been in my situation? How have you handled similar issues? I'd like to hear from brothers who have overcome these obstacles and struggles in their life and turned it all around.
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