Make sure to check in on her, thoroughly watch her body language. And let her have top when you're about to go all the way. Losing your virginity as a woman sucks and gets a bit painful. So if she's on top going at her own pace it shouldn't be as bad. August 04, 2021 at 11:55PM

Since it’s not a well known thing to people outside the LGBT community, you’ll naturally see people with black rings who just think it’s cool and don’t know what it means to us. Especially as a wedding band, where they’re already looking for something plain but nice. That’s why the ace ring is specifically the right middle finger, because if you don’t know the ace meaning it’s far less likely to be worn coincidentally. Of course, you can adjust the ‘rules’ for yourself because you’ll know what it means to you. August 04, 2021 at 11:53PM

Not a lot tbh. I can count 3 people that I had a serious crush on and that only started when I was 14 then 16 then 18. I don't have a crush rn but I think for me it takes a while to really like a person. August 04, 2021 at 11:52PM

this is really dumb because the same people who say this once you reach that age they go "oh you're too old, you're falling out of it" SO WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE, 5 MINUTES AFTER BECOMING 25 AND THEN NEVER AGAIN??? August 04, 2021 at 11:51PM

I once pitched this to my friend group, when we were in high school. One of them said “that way we can have all the sex we can in our own rooms” Didn’t like the idea as much anymore. August 04, 2021 at 11:51PM

Yeah, that's what I was referring to, probably should've put that in the post. August 04, 2021 at 11:51PM

Yeah hopefully. Because the only real problem I had was really terrible gas. Except I occasionally had really small stools. I don’t have the other symptoms of IBS. August 04, 2021 at 11:50PM

Lol nice. Love it! XD August 04, 2021 at 11:46PM

Oh, I actually completely forgot that it's not exclusively unwanted and harassment. People wanting to be slapped seems even weirder than wanting to do it. August 04, 2021 at 11:44PM

Actually... https://www.royalroad.com/fiction/32974/multi-track-mages-down-under-series-sisters-of-rail August 04, 2021 at 11:41PM

Nice, I will look into it. Usagi is a sweet story about Daikichi, a 30 year old single who comes to his grandfathers funeral, and sees a little girl running around there. Apparently it's the granddad's illegitimate child nobody knew of. No one of the relatives wants to take care of her because they are afraid of loosing face. Daikichi is so annoyed by their behavior, that he decides to take care of her himself. August 04, 2021 at 11:40PM

Looking at the top 50 posts of the last week on this sub, the only one that’s food-based is #50. The meme sub is meant for that sort of thing (even says it in the description) August 04, 2021 at 11:40PM

I probably wouldn't have tried dating. Then again, I gave it another to even after adopting the label, and it was only after that that I realized I only crave relationship when I'm super depressed (and thus avoid then like the plague and focus on improving mental health instead). So probably nothing would be different. August 04, 2021 at 11:39PM

Extremely similar. For me, I was trying really hard to play a part until I realized I didn’t have to anymore (I started confronting my insecurities) and then I came out as aroace and it was such a huge relief. I was quite “wild” but never enjoyed sex. I was relieved when it would be over. I dreaded it. I was so insecure, I just craved attention so bad. I look back and feel sad for younger me for thinking she had to do that because “everyone else was” it was a horrible mindset and one that I’m happy to shake. like your girlfriend, I still love cuddles and genuine connections. I just never felt like sex had to be a part of that & it’s not something I ever see myself enjoying. August 04, 2021 at 11:36PM

I am pretty undecided about Black Butler. On one hand I like it, on the other hand there are a few really weird chapters that kinda irk me. I'm still reading it though, so it can't be that bad haha August 04, 2021 at 11:34PM

Id do one friend at most. August 04, 2021 at 11:32PM

Yeah, but we ended up forming an even tighter bond over it and I learned a lot about introspection and analyzing the reasons behind behavior. Plus I felt so honored that he'd trust me, a kid with his inner trauma and doubts. He had a lot of problems with self-loathing when I was a kid, much of it seeming to stem from him constantly 'having to fight the machinery' both physically and mentally. (In addition to the mental disabilities, he also has congenital hip dysplasia. I've heard him yell about him being a useless cripple a lot.) August 04, 2021 at 11:32PM

I’ve heard Tokyo Revengers is a good manga, but I haven’t read it myself. The only one I read anymore is Black Butler, which is the most amazing series and I love it. August 04, 2021 at 11:32PM

I've had this exact fantasy lol August 04, 2021 at 11:26PM

I agree completely with this sentiment August 04, 2021 at 11:26PM

Too right! Can’t change the past and it’s helped me become the person I am today. August 04, 2021 at 11:17PM

Im ace, my partner was allo. I didn’t come out at the time, but he’d ask me what was up with me not wanting to do sexual things with him here and there. I think the fact that I didn’t know the answer to his question was the problem. I felt like I should’ve been attracted to him in that way, but I wasn’t and I wasn’t going to lie about it either, so I didn’t answer. And now I am single. Although I don’t mind too much, he was also an ass and I wasn’t prepared for a relationship yet…. Younger me wasn’t the brightest. Advice: communication is one if not the biggest factor in a relationship. Be honest with how you feel and what you are and aren’t comfortable with. August 04, 2021 at 11:17PM

Let's start with the fact that Anxiety tends to be irrational, or totally out of proportion to the situation. As such, it is not something that can be easily controlled. Most of the time, people are taught to "manage" the response. The Anxiety is still present, the person just needs to "dial down" the response. One coping method is routine. Develop a pattern of meeting, talking and interacting like during lock-down. Add a low key event, and if she should cancel, ask if she would like to reschedule, casually. During the next conversation, ask if there was something specific, or if it was just in the moment. As the two of you come to better understand what is hard for her, you can work on plans that will be "more her speed". You may have to ask several times, until she really sees that you want to help, and are not pushing. It will take some time (she sounds like it is rather strong reactions, and not just to dating). Reassure her that the times she h