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In my early 20s, a lot of the guys I dated, I stopped being attracted to for a while. Like initially the sexual desire was strong. They never took me on dates, they were inconsistent and I felt a bit insecure whether they liked me or not, When I met my last ex, I was worried this would happen again, but I was so madly attracted to him and adored him, I fell in love. But he never ever took me on dates so I planned everything and I was the fun one. I planned everything. Over time, I started to notice and communicate this, but he became quite cold and distant. Again, my feelings just stopped instantly. I thought something was wrong with me as he was a sweet guy. I started hating sex and felt this guilty horrible feeling afterwards. I couldn’t get turned on, I didn’t miss him, I felt resentful. I still was supportive and planned fun things. I tried to shut away my feelings, I thought the loss of desire would pass He dumped me and said he dated me out of lonliness but I’m so scared I can...

I just realized that I am a very emotionally needy person. I feel like I always want to say "I love you" to every date prospect the first time I talk to or meet them. When I talk to a date prospect I tend to be very accommodating and pleasing even though I haven't seen any picture of them. But I know how draining it can be to the other party because I've been on the receiving end of this emotional clinginess from my other friends. Now, I'm trying my best not to do this but I really can't do it for a long time. I know that many people get turned off by this behavior since this tends to move the relationship very fast. What do you think I should do to stop being this way? Submitted March 02, 2023 at 01:14AM I just realized that I am a very emotionally needy person.I feel like I always want to say "I love you" to every date prospect the first time I talk to or meet them. When I talk to a date prospect I tend to be very accommodating and pleasi...

Apologies in advance as this is a bit of a rant and me getting things off my chest. I'm a 26 year old middle eastern guy living in western Canada. In most situations, I find that I'm generally a very confident person. I'm assertive, extroverted, and find it easy to make friends. However, when it comes to dating and approaching girls, I suffer from a complete lack of confidence. I think this is partly due to some negative past rejections and experiences growing up. I grew up in a religious family, where sex was heavily frowned upon outside of marriage. When I was 11, my parents found porn on my search history, and my dad was so upset he didn't talk to me for 2 or 3 months. Since then I've felt almost shameful for approaching the idea of dating and sex, and although I became an agnostic/atheist at age 16, I still found the idea of talking to girls uncomfortable until I was in university. I've also had some rejections that I've taken pretty hard. When I was...

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I've known this guy for about 5 months now (due to a mutual hobby). He's quite reserved, shy and very polite. I've had a crush on him for about 4 months and my intuition tells me he's also interested in me. He makes eye contact (sometimes awkwardly), acts very shy and nervous around me (although he's not that shy with other people, but still reserved), does little favors (helping me or holding the door open), has nothing against physical contact etc. Once I caught him looking and smiling at me from the other side of the room and he usually stays close to me. He just seems to pay attention to what I do and how I interact with other people. I decided to ask him out about three weeks ago (which I wouldn't have done if I hadn't sensed he might be interested in me too). We took a walk, had a great time, laughed and hugged in the end. The problem is that he shows signs of being interested in me while we see each other face-to-face (eye contact, smiling), but rar...

I’ll just cut right to the chase and ask if this is a cause for concern or not. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and we have always texted a bit throughout the day and snapchatted as well. He usually sends me funny memes or I send him memes or funny videos and we talk about that or flirt. Over the past week however he’s stopped, BUT he still Snapchats me all day. He shows me what he’s up to, and we have conversation on there. I shouldn’t be too concerned right? He’s actually on a trip right now and he has been snapchatting me the entire time, so I’m not very concerned over his lack of texting, I understand it’s probably very exhausting doing both especially when you’re busy. Changes of pattern just trip me out sometimes. Any advice?! Submitted March 01, 2023 at 01:09PM I’ll just cut right to the chase and ask if this is a cause for concern or not. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and we have always texted a bit throughout the day and snapchatted a...