I’m not an ugly guy at all, I don’t have gross habits or anything that would be a turnoff. I’ve tried dating apps, I’ve tried some girls in my school and some meet ups. I’m making this post because it seems to be a public issue, that I wasn’t aware of. A lot of girls and guys in my school ask if I have a girlfriend, my response is always “No”. Family asks me and I reply the same way, some family members even asked if I had a boyfriend. Right after I say that I don’t have one, and if I do say I never had one, they don’t believe me, they tell me I’m lying or “capping” (NYC slang), they also (girls and teachers) tell my I’m not an ugly kid so how come I don’t have one. I’m not really sure why I never/don’t have a girlfriend, I dream about the thought of having one, I notice the stares I get and all that junk, but I’m not sure why I haven’t even went on a date. Any advice? Or anything that would help or give me a better outlook? Submitted July 04, 2019 at 12:29AM I’m not an ug...

Me and this girl have gone on two dates and a third on Friday! Part of the issues is she is home with family so that is Definitely why atm she isn't talking. She seemed super nervous on our first date and some on the second. Toward the end it was really nice she seemed to open us and we held hands really cute end to an awesome night. I'm not expecting too much as I'm not amazing either at texting. She just seems really bad at try to keep a conversation going and maybe I'm over thinking it. I just hope she is as interested in me as I am with her in the moment. She asked me on the third date so Im pretty sure she has interest in me and she want to know how my day has been as well as what is going on. I just want to be sure that she care enough experience early on and what to expect. That and if someone people are just bad over text. The dates are long distance about an hour from each other. If you have other questions to help you answer just DM me. Submitted July 04,...

So for some backstory, my girlfriend and I dated for about 1 year. As for the semi abusive part, everything she did I’m not sure if she did anything maliciously, but it’s sort of common sense. She would pinch me, and telling her i don’t like it or that it hurt would not stop her. She’s spit in my face. She said she didn’t do it to he mean, but come on now. She has climbed on top of me when she was angry and started to jokingly choke me. I knew she was playing around at first but she started to tighten for a half second and i practically threw her off of me. Usually you tend to make excuses for the things your SO may do to you. I still do this at times. If you ever find yourself making excuses for your SO when they make you uncomfortable, this is a red flag. If you ever find yourself in the middle of a lot of double standards, this is a red flag. I’m not sure if I’m using the term double standards correctly, but here’s an example. My girlfriend was allowed to have a profile pictur...

Loosing interest in sex after masturbation is a normal thing, like, not being hungry after eating. Maybe you are gray ace. July 04, 2019 at 12:42AM

Hmmm, I'm not sure about romantic attraction myself. I supposedly had "crushes" on five different boys in first grade, but they were friends and people I wanted as friends. I don't think I had any sort of crush till high school. July 04, 2019 at 12:38AM

Well, I started identifying as asexual at 13, lost my virginity at 16, spent time being a sex positive asexual, and started to feel attraction at 18 (bisexual since I realized). So, idk how it works too. July 04, 2019 at 12:34AM

I would look for is how you talk about sexual attraction. I don’t mean think about what you will say before saying it. Actually, quite the opposite. It’s a great trick to see how your brain process said concept without the inference of other people. Personal Examples: 1). I was talking about how I realized I was ace, I didn’t quite know how to phrase something so I said. “I don’t know how to tell whether or not I have a libido despite having previously looked up various physical symptoms of attraction.” Let me repeat that ”physical symptoms of attraction” 2). I have another example from school. We where watching Shakespeare in Love in 9H English. Young Zac Efron played Romeo in the play parts. During his first scene, most of the girls were commenting/making various noises because of him. I was confused, I didn’t think him looking attractive this “overblown response” from the girls in my class, so I asked my friend Spencer to clarify. Me: “Okay why in the world are the other girls...

I can't comment on sexual attraction, but I had what I can describe as romantic attraction as early as age 7 (toward a boy who ended up being my "boyfriend" on and off through 6th grade), and it was around that time I started puberty (yeah, it got me early... not pleasant for anyone, but especially not for a trans kid). I'm also very oblivious and have no idea when it started in my peers. July 04, 2019 at 12:29AM

I'm at a point where I don't even bother opening those posts. It's exhausting. I'm interested in support, not a fight. I don't want to get riled up about belonging to LGBTQIA+ or not. Frankly just happy to not be alone. Having their own flair would be nice. Or maybe a megathread to contain the negativity. July 04, 2019 at 12:25AM

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Well, the descriptions in r/menwritingwomen are fairly disturbing, so they're always great descriptions of what NOT to do If you have an aesthetic things that draw you in, I think it's fair to use that as a basis. After all, people have types and not everyone is going to be drawn to someone the same way as another person. I mostly just would read a lot. Not really romance, but stories with more organic romance as a side to the main plot. There's probably some lists out there. July 04, 2019 at 12:14AM

My (24f) boyfriend (27m) and i have been together for awhile now. Whenever we fight or if im upset with him if he calls me i will ignore his calls. I ONLY do this because i have learned the hard way that when im upset with someone i usually end up saying something very hurtful and stupid that i dont mean. So ill ignore his calls in the moment because i know ill say something stupid relating to breaking up so i always just call him back later when im clear headed. We got into a “medium” sized fight last night. Nothing too mjaor but enough to really piss me off. He calls me and i ignore his calls because i was too upset. I calm down a bit later and call him back. No answer. Called him back again and same thing no answer. It literally crushed me knowing im sitting her trying to contact him and work things out and he just wants to ignore my calls and talk to me when hes ready or when its convinent for him. Lol yup breakthrough moment right there. To think my boyfriend might have been fe...

So we met online (were together for 6 months after we met in real life), were talking for a long time before meeting. During that time he slept with his ex (he lied and said they were not in contact) and few other girls which is fine since we had not met. I recently broke up with him after I found out about him lying about the whole ex thing and how big of a d!ck he was to her. Also, a week after meeting me, he tried to kiss a girl but did not. He claimed it was his last chance before being locked down and that it was wrong. After the breakup for the first time ever he opened up to his family crying and asking for advice, called his ex to admit he once cheated because he cannot live with himself like this, cried to me for days saying how this is the first time he felt like he met someone he could spend his life with, moved to his home country to be with family to start therapy so he can work on his issues. He truly is a good guy but with a lot of insecurities. A LOT. Should I consider...

I (32 F) have been working on making friends using the app Bumble and have been setting up some friend first dates because or this. My SILs birthday is this weekend and I have been asking what we are doing for it, and even offered to help plan it multiple times since I know planning isn't her strongest attribute. Plans dont get made, as always, after asking multiple times. This weekend one of my bumble friends will be in town for a beauty appointment on Saturday and wanted to meet up for lunch. I checked with my husband and still no response from anyone about plans. I tell him that I am going to make lunch plans because no one can make up their mind about his sister birthday. Today I get a text about a brunch for his sisters birthday that is planned for the exact time of my lunch date. I left the entire rest of the weekend open to accommodate for this but now am I expected to change my plans to revolve around the birthday plans? I dont want to flake on my Bumble friend since we ...

We broke up originally back in February but have been going back n forth back n forth. Finally a week ago we ceased all communication and I moved him into a new apartment. (Live in NYC so moving is like 10x harder w/o anyone) It needed to happen there were a lot of issues with jealousy and controlling issues and he’s depressed and was convinced the keto diet could cure his depression against therapy (srsly, I know)- and just a disconnect/understanding of each other’s life styles. I still love and care about him but that relationship chipped everything away from who I am. I feel dead. I have lost touch with much of my friend group and I used to workout and eat super healthy and have proper routines but my self discipline is all over the place. I’ve been watching shitty action movies and petting my cat with the curtains drawn. I never realized how much of myself I was sacrificing for this relationship but goddamn. What did you do in times like these? Specific to NYC- any places you’...

Apologizing in advance for the long post. TL;DR at the bottom. Edit: I just realized the title sounds a bit accusatory. What I meant was that I feel like I’m being alienated. I was living with my parents and we had a massive fight over something tiny, which ended in them immediately kicking me out of their house. That was around 6 months ago. I had nowhere to go, so I asked my sister if I could stay there. I only expected to be staying for a few days initially as I expected the fight to blow over, but my parents ended up not allowing me back. My sister and her boyfriend, who have been dating for several years now, graciously offered for me to stay with them long-term. For the first few months I stayed on the couch as they only had a small 1 bedroom apartment. We found a bigger place and have all been living there for a month now as equal roommates. -My sister and her boyfriend are both very type-A people, both a bit stuck up... I am very type-B, a very laid-back person. We end up ...

I've been with my husband for almost five years now. I've known his friend for that same length of time. More recently, my husband and I have been fighting recently while trying to deal with his medical problems. His friend is a nice person, but we hardly see him. He has always been a ghost. He shows up every few months, hangs out, and always has an excuse as to why he can't spend time with us. Cut to today, his friend messaged me out of the blue asking how my husband was doing. He told me that husband seems like he was doing pretty bad and I agreed. He told me to let him know if he could help in anyway. A couple hours later, he messaged me telling me that he needed to tell me something confidentially. I assumed it had to do with my husband and what he is going through. Instead, he told me that "he hadn't come over recently because he is attracted to me and that he knows it is wrong." I replied and said "probably a good idea not to mention it again. ...

Dismissal. Most of the time they don't really believe that it's a thing and either insinuate that I must have sexual trauma (even DOCTORS are saying this garbage) or as though it's some fad an alienated queer kid made up on Tumblr. It's really depressing and you'd think medical professionals would be familiar with it but apparently not; as that's where I tend to get the most doubt. July 04, 2019 at 12:09AM

Too...much......ace! July 04, 2019 at 12:03AM