I’d say that if you feel uncomfortable answering the question from a personal standpoint, the best thing to do is don’t do it! You can always tell your friend that in general, ace people have different experiences and that some do it and some do not; furthermore, those that do may have different reasons for doing so, and the same goes for those who don’t. Everyone has their own preferences. You aren’t obliged to tell him something like that if you don’t feel like it. May 01, 2020 at 12:18AM

C'est exactement ce que je me disais x) May 01, 2020 at 12:17AM

Same. I work very hard to be the kind of person who tries to accept that anyone can change and adapt but... Honestly I think anyone who preys on a being who cannot consent is vile and unworthy of life. (blocked out because it's rather harsh and could be triggering) (Zoophilia CW) One of my friends who is a furry ended up dating this guy who was a zoophile. I didn't know until we were in discord one day and he told me that if she ever broke up with him he'd "get a dog". And holy hell do I regret responding with "well, dogs are awesome". Because he did NOT mean he wanted a pet. I don't think she knew but I went complete no contact until she broke things off with him. The worst thing about it was the way he said it... like... he took pleasure in disturbing me. You couldn't honestly tell me that he felt hurt about being misunderstood, because he clearly enjoyed it. May 01, 2020 at 12:16AM

You can be asexual and be comfortable with everything mentioned here. Hell, you can be asexual and actually enjoy having sex. If you're not sexually attracted to people, you're asexual. It's as simple as that, and it sounds like you're probably asexual :). May 01, 2020 at 12:16AM

Croissant here ;) They talk about how little asexuality is know in France ! And how few people talk about it May 01, 2020 at 12:16AM

I can’t speak for you or really help specify where you’d fall, but you kind of sound like you’re somewhere on the ace spectrum. Not everyone’s experiences are the same, so it’s hard to peg down what you might be. (Maybe look into what it means to be cupiosexual? From my understanding, that means that you’d like sex in theory but not in practice? Sorry I couldn’t be of more help; good luck.) May 01, 2020 at 12:14AM

https://imgur.com/gallery/3hpd9mX May 01, 2020 at 12:08AM

I've made my post, if you'd be so kind as to read it. It took a while to write and wasn't planned out, I kinda just put my thoughts onto a page. Thank you! :) https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/gb7hi2/questioning_my_life_and_asexuality/ May 01, 2020 at 12:03AM

Humans have evolved to the point that it's no longer a necessary thing to have sex. It's a choice. And it's becoming less expected to HAVE to have sex for marriage and social points. People need to get with the times. We no longer need to have offspring to keep the species going, and we no longer need to be able to even feel it. It's the 21st century. Perhaps not everything can be explained, nor needs to be explained. Asexuality is one of those things. May 01, 2020 at 12:01AM

You say so? Maybe, ahah. I really think he would've not understood the term, tbh, but I'm not sure. In some time I'll try to use it and explain it, we'll see, ahah. Btw, it's the greatest reaction I had so far! Ahah May 01, 2020 at 12:00AM

if some people arent attracted to certain genders and some people arent attracted to others why the hell isn't it in the realm of possibility for someone to just not be attracted to any?? April 30, 2020 at 11:59PM

I realized a week after I had all my coworkers over for thanksgiving that I have a giant ace pride flag on my wall lol. Guess they know now XD April 30, 2020 at 11:57PM

Me basically, gaming is life April 30, 2020 at 11:54PM

Thank you for explaining! April 30, 2020 at 11:50PM

Something I have always been confused about: I know asexuals are considered a part of the LGBTQ community, but how do you officially become apart of it? Like, if you are gay, lesbian, asexual, transgender, etc., does that automatically make you apart of the community? Or do you have to like sign up or show activism to be apart of it? Sorry if it’s a silly question, but it’s something I have been confused about ever since learning about the LGBTQ community when I was younger. April 30, 2020 at 11:49PM

Oh. I thought the + was for other sexualities/genders in the community. April 30, 2020 at 11:49PM

Unfortunately, as depressing a thought as that is, I think you're right. I do agree with what someone else here said about allos being bothered by not being able to understand something. I'm disabled and the first thing a lot of my customers at work try to do when they see my cane is understand WHY I need it. It's not affecting them in any way, but even the ones who are polite enough not to ask usually just stare at it for a while before deciding not to verbalize their confusion. The ones who do ask mostly seem to take in how tragic it is that I'm young and disabled, it doesn't matter how much I tell them I've had a really awesome, bad ass (I mean, how many people can say they've driven a MRAP through a mostly inactive minefield with only nightvision to guide them?) life so far. Either that or they decide I'm not as bad off as whatever they're dealing with so all is right with their understanding of the world again. My gf is mtf and she runs a tra...

Personally from your post I think you are probably asexual and panromantic. Remember, asexuality is a spectrum, some asexuals are even willing to have sex and many like the idea of cuddling. You still have all he time in the world to figure it out, good luck 🍀 April 30, 2020 at 11:46PM

There was a time where I'd agree, but those days left shortly after starting my degree. April 30, 2020 at 11:44PM

If it's that type of dancing - absolutely not. I don't want anyone touching me or simulating coming in contact with me. April 30, 2020 at 11:44PM

I like dancing, though I'm not especially good or creative at it. I've never gone to any clubs/parties/etc where grinding-type dancing is happening, and I feel like it would be pretty uncomfortable for me, but if I'm just vibing with some friends or something, it sounds like a good time. April 30, 2020 at 11:40PM

I’ve (23F) been talking to this guy (24M) since October of last year. We’ve been kind of stagnant all this time because of his previous relationship/living situation. Basically, when we started dating he revealed that he was living with his ex (26F) but she meant nothing to him and it’s just a living arrangement. Later down the road it started to become more evident that this was not the case. He wanted to break up with her because he said she’s too “aggressive” and he wasn’t happy but she didn’t want the relationship to end. She started stalking my social media and somehow I became involved in this love triangle where I’m having to fight for his time and affection because somehow his ex is making me seem like the bad person and making him feel guilty for talking to me. So he’s always hot and cold with me because he feels bad for “hurting someone he cared about”, which I can understand so I try to be patient and just do my own thing. Now I know this may sound like a dumb situation o...

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