I’ve been questioning my self so much. For me I find people cute/attractive however actually wanting physical intimacy does not happen (or rarely). It’s a good idea in my head but never in practice if that makes sense. Not sure if that just makes me sex repulsed? October 01, 2021 at 12:34AM

It took me 5 years to accept I was asexual since I figured out thats what I was. I just didn't want to accept it. I still trying to figure out romantics. I'm suspicious that I'm aro, but it's so hard to tell. October 01, 2021 at 12:33AM

Bipolar NOS, social anxiety disorder, and general anxiety disorder babyyyyy October 01, 2021 at 12:32AM

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Confused October 01, 2021 at 12:30AM

I’ve read about dominant sex, submissive sex, but is there such a thing as assertive sex? I don’t want to dominate someone and it scares me to be submissive. But assertive sounds good. I can express my needs and wants, say no when I want and yes when I want. Am I onto something here? Does this already exist elsewhere? Submitted October 01, 2021 at 12:29AM I’ve read about dominant sex, submissive sex, but is there such a thing as assertive sex?I don’t want to dominate someone and it scares me to be submissive. But assertive sounds good. I can express my needs and wants, say no when I want and yes when I want.Am I onto something here? Does this already exist elsewhere?

My GF told me she really enjoys phone sex and really loves to touch her self while we talk on the phone.. I need ideas on how to initiate it and what type of funny dirty talk and lines can I use to do the deed,, She's very shy and the fact that she opened up about one her kinks to me indicates that she trusts me and is comfortable with me,, how do I act on it? Submitted October 01, 2021 at 12:31AM My GF told me she really enjoys phone sex and really loves to touch her self while we talk on the phone.. I need ideas on how to initiate it and what type of funny dirty talk and lines can I use to do the deed,, She's very shy and the fact that she opened up about one her kinks to me indicates that she trusts me and is comfortable with me,, how do I act on it?

I still think of him at night I don’t get aroused thinking of him or anything he did check all my boxes as far as what I am into physically. Anyway I offered him sex when I was drunk the second night we met. He took me back to his place in the morning when I was sober we had sex. It was consensual. I texted him for more. He said he wanted to but he was seeing someone new and if I still wanted to? I said no. So we didn’t talk for a month. He comes back around we have sex two more times when he’s available and then I stopped talking to him for a few months. I went to see him one last time months later but I got upset because I had feelings a bit and I know he wouldn’t and it was a devastating ending. Submitted October 01, 2021 at 12:37AM I still think of him at night I don’t get aroused thinking of him or anything he did check all my boxes as far as what I am into physically. Anyway I offered him sex when I was drunk the second night we met. He took me back to his place in the mor

Another post about being woken up with sex reminded me of a thing I used to do when I was young and too timid to initiate and thought it may help someone else. We agreed on me wearing an “indicator” that I was DTF. When I was wearing a certain scrunchie in my hair that was his green light. It was actually a lot of fun because I’d wear it when we’d go shopping, to family events, etc and it drove him crazy! Sometimes I’d put it on after he went to sleep and he would wake up to seeing it, granting consent for the “alarm cock” as we call it. I hadn’t thought of this in a long time and I may just start it up again for fun! 😉 Submitted October 01, 2021 at 12:39AM Another post about being woken up with sex reminded me of a thing I used to do when I was young and too timid to initiate and thought it may help someone else. We agreed on me wearing an “indicator” that I was DTF. When I was wearing a certain scrunchie in my hair that was his green light. It was actually a lot of fun becau

I’m (22F) fine with PIV sex. But for some reason I have this extreme fear that I A) will be too nervous to orgasm and also B) he’ll somehow be disgusted with my pubic hair and body and C) it’ll be an overall awkward experience How am I even supposed to rely if he’s touching me?? Am I supposed to kiss him? We’ve been dating 7 months so it’s getting ridiculous that I’m still afraid of this Submitted October 01, 2021 at 12:47AM I’m (22F) fine with PIV sex. But for some reason I have this extreme fear that I A) will be too nervous to orgasm and also B) he’ll somehow be disgusted with my pubic hair and body and C) it’ll be an overall awkward experienceHow am I even supposed to rely if he’s touching me?? Am I supposed to kiss him? We’ve been dating 7 months so it’s getting ridiculous that I’m still afraid of this

she lost 20 kg, she’s obsessed with the gym now, she is starting to put make up whenever she goes outside (she never done that before), i asked her why is she doing all that all of a sudden and she said she got bored with her life style..but i don’t buy it, i feel there’s something else, could she be possibly seeing someone else? since she also started rejecting going out with me and gives me dumb excuses such as work and family..but she’s never busy for the gym ? idk if i’m overthinking it but it’s getting to me Submitted October 01, 2021 at 12:02AM she lost 20 kg, she’s obsessed with the gym now, she is starting to put make up whenever she goes outside (she never done that before), i asked her why is she doing all that all of a sudden and she said she got bored with her life style..but i don’t buy it, i feel there’s something else, could she be possibly seeing someone else? since she also started rejecting going out with me and gives me dumb excuses such as work and family..bu

Hey, 18 yr old straight guy here. I have been at college now for 2 months and I have met over 200 girls. Yet I have never been attracted to any of them. Sure they look nice, but their immature personalities just make me loose interest. Personality is way better than looks IMO. I’m very dedicated to academics, and I find a smart woman to be so attractive! However everyone I have met so far just wants to party and drink... where should I be going to find girls with similar values to me? The Library? I have been attending the honors program events with no luck, and Im getting quite discouraged. Maybe I should be lowering my standards? Submitted October 01, 2021 at 12:04AM Hey, 18 yr old straight guy here. I have been at college now for 2 months and I have met over 200 girls. Yet I have never been attracted to any of them. Sure they look nice, but their immature personalities just make me loose interest. Personality is way better than looks IMO. I’m very dedicated to academics, and

28F. Not posting this on my main, because, well, embarrassing. I’ve never actually dated anyone, and I’ve never been physical, all by my own choice. It started out because I was super religious, then once I wasn’t religious anymore I just, idk, was too shy and scared to date, or do anything with anyone. There’s nothing “wrong” with me, I get asked out often enough, but I’ve always avoided it and been too nervous. Well, I think it’s finally time to grow up and stop acting like a little girl. I’m an adult who has her own career and house, so I should take the next step in that part of my life and try dating. But I don’t even know how . When I date, how upfront do I be about being a virgin? Assuming the men I date will be 30+. I’m not sure that’s appealing at all. Do I let them get to know me first, and then let them know how inexperienced I am? Will they be uninterested and then I would have wasted all my time, though? And when I do actually become intimate…. what advice do you have fo

I started college beginning of this month, and this girl asked me to be in her group. She got my number, and followed me on my socials afterwards. We only have class together once a week, but we talk over snap. Today we were just talking about random things, and she did small things like patting my shoulder, pulling my chain, etc. Is she just being friendly or does she like me? I want to ask her to go out sometime, but I don’t want it to be awkward if she says no. Submitted October 01, 2021 at 12:11AM I started college beginning of this month, and this girl asked me to be in her group. She got my number, and followed me on my socials afterwards. We only have class together once a week, but we talk over snap. Today we were just talking about random things, and she did small things like patting my shoulder, pulling my chain, etc. Is she just being friendly or does she like me? I want to ask her to go out sometime, but I don’t want it to be awkward if she says no.

Guy I’ve been in the talking stage with for 3 months will text or Snapchat me first, then I’ll text him and he’ll leave it on seen. Most of the time he will reply right away but sometimes we’ll go on a few days where it’s just a Snapchat and then we get back into this cycle of leaving me on read Submitted October 01, 2021 at 12:13AM Guy I’ve been in the talking stage with for 3 months will text or Snapchat me first, then I’ll text him and he’ll leave it on seen. Most of the time he will reply right away but sometimes we’ll go on a few days where it’s just a Snapchat and then we get back into this cycle of leaving me on read

Aromantic spectrum (Aroflux) September 30, 2021 at 11:43PM

I’m aromantic September 30, 2021 at 11:42PM

I don’t really know what to call it but I’m non-binary & romantically attracted to women & some other non-binary peeps; just pretty much anyone who doesn’t identify as a man. Trixic I guess but idk if I like that label much September 30, 2021 at 11:40PM

Asexuality is not the symptom of a mental disorder if that's what you're getting at. It just do happens that some asexuals, like everyone else, have a mental disorder. September 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

Np! September 30, 2021 at 11:36PM

I’m 31, aro-ace, and never intend to get married (or even date). Relationships and marriage just aren’t for everyone. I come from a conservative culture as well (Chinese), and I’ve had family members give me the side eye at times, but who cares? It’s your life, not theirs. Pay no mind to the pressure your mother tries to throw on you. Like water off a duck’s back September 29, 2021 at 11:28PM

Dear 'defenders' and 'advocates': FUCK. OFF. Seriously tho, what kind of troll logic is this? You're opressing me by not wanting to fuck me? Like, what?! This has to be some kind of right-wing shenanigans, people can't possibly be that stupid. September 29, 2021 at 11:27PM

For me when I was a little girl I used to hump things and discovered something felt good. I then had a huge crush on a actor but in real life he was engaged so I got my heartbroken and I decided to make my own boyfriend up basing him off the actors face and body. So I didn't think anything was off with me until I had sex and experimented with different guys with sex. Nothing worked and I was often met with haven't had good sex yet but I did. I mean "good sex" is o different opinions anyway. I was never aroused during any of my sexual encounter's. But I've realized I have a connection to aegosexuality. I've at times struggled with having feeling's of negativity towards sex because it's a frustrating having a sex drive and not being able to get physical pleasure from partnered sex. For the most part I think sex is a beautiful thing, its mainly when I start hating myself for who I am is when I say things or think things sexual give me bad feelings. I

I used to be hyper sexual as a younger teenager, but as I got older I realized that I wasn't attracted to anyone irl sexually and only had sexual fantasies about fictional characters. September 29, 2021 at 11:22PM

When people showed me pictures gushing over how hot someone was and I just thought they looked... okay I guess September 29, 2021 at 11:22PM

Here’s kind of an update. I haven’t talked to any of the girls since that Monday, over a week ago. By the end of last week, my roommate and I have concluded that it is a slight possibility that it might happen. That Monday night I meant to text a group of friends back home the news. But, I texted my frat chat accidentally. (Well all I texted was “I got BIG news). When, I realized that I texted the wrong chat, it was too late. I did text the group chat that I meant to text after I was texting my frat chat. I told them I accidentally texted the wrong group chat and meant to text a group chat of friends from back home. They all wanted to know. By Tuesday, they were able to convince me to tell them the news after Chapter that Friday. So, I told them the news after chapter that Friday and showed them pictures of the girls. All of this caused them to loose their shit and they had MANY questions for me. They was shocked that the girls wanted to do it (I consider myself a 4, maybe 3 and the

Well, this has quite a few layers into this. I feel like I need to question if I am attracted to my boyfriend. I have been masturbating by humping blankets since I am a teenager. I have tried using my hands and some other things as well but it didn't really work. I didn't think about it much since I thought I'll never be in a sexual relationship with anyone. I also don't watch porn or imagine myself having sex during masturbation but only other people. 4 months ago I have fallen in love and started a romantic relationship with my boyfriend. Appearently, he never had any romantic nor sexual relationship with anyone before, either. We have been doing sexual things together for 2 months. I haven't gotten any orgasm during our activities. At first, that really affected him and I felt terrible for not getting off. We have talked about the whole situation of me not getting an orgasm unless I am humping a blanket and he told me that he doesn't want to do anything se

i have a vibrator and tried to masturbate but i really dont know i just dont think it’s for me- it turns me on a lot more having a partner with me than just being alone. my current partner is amazing. he loves to please me and it’s his goal to make me cum. i found what almost gets me there is when we’re having penetrative sex and i have my vibrator on my clit and he kinda lays on me to apply pressure and it feels fucking amazing. every time we have sex i feel so close but i dont cum. i remember reading “if you dont know whether you’ve had an orgasm or not, you probably haven’t” so i know i havent. i really dont know, i feel like i just get super fucking sensitive and then i just cant get there. i know the sensitivity is when im about to cum but i just havent yet. i just feel like when i get super sensitive it just gets too much for me or the vibrator moves out of place and the feeling goes away for me. i communicate with my partner what i like and he does it. it’s honestly just super

Hey all, got a question about refractory time in men. I’ve been with my girlfriend for a few months now and everything is great. Sex is good too, for the most part. The biggest issue for me is I have trouble getting and maintaining an erection SOMETIMES - not all the time. I’m 25 by the way. For example, this past weekend we had sex about five times and I had no issues what-so-ever. Usually, I can only see her on the weekends and everything’s great. However, she had a couple days off work starting Monday and she stayed with me. Monday took a while to get going - she helped me get there after playing with it for 10 minutes and I came only after a couple. Yesterday and today were different stories. Yesterday I couldn’t maintain an erection so she finished me with oral. Today I could hardly get it up, so she just used her mouth to get me there. After about 10 minutes of that I got hard and instantly came. It happened suddenly. Any ideas? I’m really lost. I’ve been to the doctor recen

I’ve (24F) been sexually active since I was a teenager and one constant problem I seem to have is that when my partner penetrates me… it ALWAYS hurts. I’ve had multiple guys say that they can’t go any further and at first I thought maybe they were trying to brag, and say they’re too big for me or whatever but I’ve realised this comment happens even when I’m with girls and they use their fingers. Even in non sexual scenarios, like at the doctor, it seems they hit a ‘wall’ very quickly too. Not to get too off topic but my first time wasn’t exactly pleasant and I’m now wondering if it’s a defensive response I didn’t know I was doing? Clenching up unintentionally to stop them going in? Or is my vagina just shallow? How can you tell? Please only serious replies in the comments, I’m genuinely wondering what’s wrong with me. Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:43AM I’ve (24F) been sexually active since I was a teenager and one constant problem I seem to have is that when my partner p

I hated him at first. I thought he was the biggest misogynist. I hate-watched him basically. After a few episodes, things started registering. I didn’t hate him, I disliked him at that point. However I inherently following the advice he preached. 4 months later, I met the man of my dreams. I noticed my flaws and here it was: - going for ‘hard to get men’ - going for emotionally unavailable men - wanting to change emotionally unavailable men - expecting men to do more for me than I do for them - not realizing men want compliments too (this sounds dumb, but I thought doing this was being too forward) - not comprising / being stringent on physical requirements How I got the man of my dreams and what I do differently: - being financially stable and equally splitting our finances - being comfortable in my femininity and embracing it. I allowed myself to lean on my partner when it came to feeling safe, protected and comfortable both physically and emotionally. Always thought I had to be

So I (30F) work part-time at a coffee shop and started to notice this particular guy (28M). I made it a point to greet him by name and try and make conversation when I would see him come in. More so than I would with a normal customer. One of my coworkers that’s also a good friend asked if we knew each other because of the amount of eye contact she noticed. I said not really but I would like to. She said I should go for it. Normally I’m very shy and terrified of rejection but I worked up the nerve to slip him my number. He texted pretty quickly initially, but after that didn’t seem to respond. I didn’t want to over text him and I know he’s likely busy but I’m curious if he was just being polite by texting me his number or is waiting for me to say something more interesting or maybe just straight up ask him out? Mainly I’m confused because wouldn’t he have let me know if he wasn’t interested or did I mess up and make it weird to begin with? Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:13AM

I (17M) was in the middle of a conversation with my crush and this girl comes up to me and tries talking to me while I’m focused on someone else who I’m actually interested in (very inconsiderate of her) so my crush then left because she had somewhere to be and left looking at her. She ignored my texts for 1 day straight. She ignored my texts again when I just tried to focus on myself for a few hours in school. She said she wasn’t looking for a relationship a few days prior but yet has behaved quite odd since then. Could she be conflicted with her own feelings or is she just an attention seeker? Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:13AM I (17M) was in the middle of a conversation with my crush and this girl comes up to me and tries talking to me while I’m focused on someone else who I’m actually interested in (very inconsiderate of her) so my crush then left because she had somewhere to be and left looking at her. She ignored my texts for 1 day straight. She ignored my texts again

I have been regularly seeing a guy -who I met on a dating app- for 7 months, tho we always met friendly and he never made a move to have a relationship with me. So basically we r friends. His birthday is soon and he always wanted to do a DNA-ancestry test. I wanna but it and its so expensive and I really don't know if I should I buy such an expensive gift for him? Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:13AM I have been regularly seeing a guy -who I met on a dating app- for 7 months, tho we always met friendly and he never made a move to have a relationship with me. So basically we r friends. His birthday is soon and he always wanted to do a DNA-ancestry test. I wanna but it and its so expensive and I really don't know if I should I buy such an expensive gift for him?

Got lost on a subway in Japan. Could use someone who has a better sense of direction so I don't end up in another country next time. Traits: Ambitious, Loyal, and some say I could be funny 🤷🏽‍♂️ Job: Radiation Therapist, Day trader Hobbies: Cars, DJ, adventurer, nap enthusiast Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:13AM Got lost on a subway in Japan. Could use someone who has a better sense of direction so I don't end up in another country next time.Traits: Ambitious, Loyal, and some say I could be funny 🤷🏽‍♂️Job: Radiation Therapist, Day traderHobbies: Cars, DJ, adventurer, nap enthusiast

The minority of women who shame men for being virgins are actually shaming what they perceive to be sexual inexperience and the presumed lack of prowess, which they conflate with male virginity. It’s not the actual “virginity” of a guy per se, so much as the social connotations of it (which are created and perpetuated by both men and women). September 29, 2021 at 11:16PM

I've known I was ace for a while, maybe 2-3 years. *However* I just learned today by reading this post that this is the reason someone would put a poster on the ceiling over their bed. I'm 34. Being ace is kind of a series of realizations like that for me lol. September 29, 2021 at 11:14PM

when i was in 6th-7th grade i would get asked what I liked abt my girlfriend and i said that I rly just liked her personality and her as a person and not as much of bc shes a girl with milkers. come to find out that most people do more than hold hands and cuddle n thought that rly wasnt my thing. Didnt know there was a name to it until last year when I started genuinely exploring my sexuality instead of settling on the title bisexual bc I was too lazy to do my research September 29, 2021 at 11:14PM

Sorry about that. It's currently 142 trauma, 1k born with it September 29, 2021 at 11:08PM

Me! I feel ripped off. I was so excited to have sex and know what all the fuss was about and turns out it feels neutral at absolute best, and just makes a mess. September 29, 2021 at 11:05PM

I'm 22. I've known something was different since I was in grade school, and I first heard the term when I was about 13 or 14? But funny enough, even though I knew immediately that the term asexual fit me, at the time I said to myself "well, that's future me's problem" and I didn't really worry about it again until a couple of years ago when I was 20 or so. So I've known for several years, but I just literally didn't think about it because it never really came up. To be perfectly honest, my issues with "not fitting in" extend beyond me and my sexuality, so maybe that's why I feel stronger about it than you do. You have other places to fit in, but I don't (yet?) I'm usually fine on my own, but for some reason it's been bothering me more than usual lately. September 29, 2021 at 12:42AM

It is - literally, unambiguously - both. September 29, 2021 at 12:40AM

rip, sorry for your loss September 29, 2021 at 12:40AM

Hey, I am sex repulsed and also have trauma which lead to a different type of sex repulsion. If you feel like chatting about the difference with someone who has experienced both, hum :) September 29, 2021 at 12:40AM

Don't forget the cake 🎂 September 29, 2021 at 12:39AM

32M. I’m super new to sex. Found someone who trusts me enough to do it NSA. After our last sexual encounter, I feel a bit self conscious about my penis; not its size. I fucked her, no condom. I guess I’m just not used to the sensation on my exposed head but I noticed my foreskin would keep on rolling back every time I thrusted into her. It felt weird. I don’t masturbate with my head exposed. Submitted September 29, 2021 at 12:41AM 32M. I’m super new to sex. Found someone who trusts me enough to do it NSA.After our last sexual encounter, I feel a bit self conscious about my penis; not its size.I fucked her, no condom. I guess I’m just not used to the sensation on my exposed head but I noticed my foreskin would keep on rolling back every time I thrusted into her. It felt weird.I don’t masturbate with my head exposed.

Hi there, I'm posting on here because I'm pretty freakin confused right now and need some help. ​ I recently started dating a guy, and him and I were both virgins when we met. For my "sexual" history, I was assaulted when I was in my teens and was tested for everything to make sure I didn't get anything. I was confirmed to be clean from any STDs/STIs thankfully. A few years after, I got with my only long-term boyfriend for 2 years. We never had P-in-V intercourse but we did do things that were sexual like oral and fingering and whatnot. He never had any partners before me, never kissed anyone, etc etc. My current boyfriend has said that he hasn't dated anyone else or done anything with anyone else, I was his first kiss and we ended up having sex for the first time a couple of weeks ago. Shortly after I noticed the development of symptoms that seemed like a UTI, so I got checked by my gyno. She put me on Solosec because she believed that I may have gotten B

Hello! Alright y’all we had the big girl comment a few hours ago and that thread got shut down. More power to bb but it made me get to thinking— My libido has taken a fucking free dive due to cancer treatment and medical menopause. I’ve gained over thirty pounds in the last year and lost all sexuality. I don’t even wanna look at myself— I don’t avoid it but a glimpse of picture leaves me shook by the difference. In the six years I’ve been with my man things have been rocky for a plethora of reasons but here we are all those years later. However! One thing I’ve always ‘banked’ on is our chemistry and how we groove. Well shit folks I haven’t wanted to get down for near 18 months. While in the beginning it was shock and understanding it’s beginning to wear me out— will I ever feel like myself again? In our relationship I’ve gone from 175 to 190 to 153 to 160 back to base around 170 and now pushing 200— none of my wardrobe fits so I can’t even flex for myself. I lost all my hair, all

I’d like to know how it feels to a woman to be groped(consensually) too. I’m curious. Submitted September 29, 2021 at 12:53AM I’d like to know how it feels to a woman to be groped(consensually) too. I’m curious.

Saw a post earlier about dry humping and i read that most of the people who do this are teenagers. It sounds hot and something i'm looking forward when i get a girlfriend. (i'm 20 btw and i'm inexperienced, never did something like that) I just wanted to ask if do you still do this kind of things with your partners as adults or you just go straight up to PIV. Thank you! Submitted September 29, 2021 at 12:59AM Saw a post earlier about dry humping and i read that most of the people who do this are teenagers. It sounds hot and something i'm looking forward when i get a girlfriend. (i'm 20 btw and i'm inexperienced, never did something like that)I just wanted to ask if do you still do this kind of things with your partners as adults or you just go straight up to PIV.Thank you!

So I’m gonna tell this story from my friends POV. So basically I had a high sex drive at an early age. When I was 12 years old this girl that I thought was attractive would playfully touch each other. This continued for a few months. I was almost always horny. One time on the bus we were on top of each other and I slid my hands down her pants. I think she might of thought it was by mistake. I feel horrible for doing that and everytime the word sexual assault comes up I think of this moment. I have been feeling guilty and horrible. What do you think of my friends situation here? Is this the same as sexual assault? Would you date someone who did this when he was a kid and didn’t know better? Submitted September 28, 2021 at 11:55PM So I’m gonna tell this story from my friends POV.So basically I had a high sex drive at an early age. When I was 12 years old this girl that I thought was attractive would playfully touch each other. This continued for a few months. I was almost always

I’ve known her for about 6 months now, we talked a lot and hung out several times for the first couple months. Idk if i moved too slow but she eventually became distant and i found out she started dating someone else, and i got friendzoned. We did have sex so it’s not as if we were only friends to begin with (fwb at the least) anyhow we’ve been on good terms the whole time, not talking a lot but here and there. I found out she got a new job nearby so i asked her to lunch, she said she couldn’t and admitted to me that she just broke up with her bf literally today and thought it would be wrong to get lunch with another guy so soon. So i’m kinda unsure where to go. I don’t want to come off as if i’ve been waiting for her this whole time, i am currently single but have seen a few people during the time apart. The last thing I want to do is get friend zoned a second time, but if she didn’t have feelings and only thought of me as a friend i’m not sure why she would have thought getting lu

Hi reddit, so I've been chatting with this guy that I met online for about 5 months. He's really funny, nice, good-looking (judging by his pics) and sweet. We've been getting along well with each other and he seems to be interested in me too. The problem is we live too faraway in 2 different countries, so dating is a problem. For this reason, I've been contemplating on traveling abroad to visit the guy, as he recently invited me to visit him to his homeplace. I really don't know what to do. What if this doesn't work out? I fear of spending a fortune on airplane tickets and hotels, just to be rejected and left stranded in a foreign country. Rejection is a part of life and you can know if there's chemistry with someone before hand, unless you meet in person. But imagine if you travel a thousand miles just to be rejected. Also, this guy seems to have a darker side on him, despite being very sweet. He sometimes gets angry, when I don't reply immediately an

I (19M) have gone on three dates with a girl (18), and we get along pretty well. After our last date I went to her house for dessert and actually met her parents, who were pretty cool, she told me they really liked me. We have plans to go to the D-Backs game this Friday. I think it is fair to say we like each other. I enjoy her company, whatever else you wanna say probably fits. I'm almost positive she's not seeing anyone else, and I'm certainly not either. My only question is- is it okay to not feel like texting all the time? Sometimes I just have nothing to say. We have better conversation in person than over text. Maybe the talking stage is over? I have never gotten to four dates with any girl before, that is why I'm curious. Maybe I just need to think less? I have read other places that texting should be only used for making plans- but what if those plans are a few days away? Anyway, sorry for all the questions. Just inexperienced. Help a brother out haha Subm

For the past 2-3 weeks my boyfriend keeps bringing up what would happen if we break up. He knows I’m not cheating and that I’ve left behind everyone who has hurt me including my family. Even though I reassure him multiple times a day….he still bring it up. What can I do to ease his mind? Submitted September 29, 2021 at 12:08AM For the past 2-3 weeks my boyfriend keeps bringing up what would happen if we break up. He knows I’m not cheating and that I’ve left behind everyone who has hurt me including my family. Even though I reassure him multiple times a day….he still bring it up. What can I do to ease his mind?

Its not really an issue for me, but I think it would help a lot if there were extra content filters for others to use September 28, 2021 at 11:38PM

Yeah your fine dude even if you’d still be accepted here don’t sweat it September 28, 2021 at 11:35PM

Transfem would be more accurate since the judgment is so ridiculous, but aroace may be a better chance at creating dialogue surrounding queerness in general. September 28, 2021 at 11:35PM

A variety of perspective is healthy... Which is why it might be good to distinguish posts so people know it doesn't represent the entire community. The majority of posts are sex repulsed and often mock or make fun of people who like porn or sex. It's easy for the rest of us to feel unrepresented by the sub September 28, 2021 at 11:35PM

I only really like sex scenes in media specifically about sex, like porn. In movies I’ll tolerate it. Prefer it written the most. I am aegosexual/fictosexual tho. September 28, 2021 at 11:35PM

You get to decide when you’re ready to come out who you’re ready to come out to. Full stop. Especially since it sounds like you’re still figuring things out. Take your time and ask your friend to respect where you’re at even if they don’t completely understand. September 28, 2021 at 12:41AM

Agree!! It just the need, in particular you don't actually have to imagine anything. September 28, 2021 at 12:38AM

Oh since he had relationships with men in the past, I thought he was homoromantic asexual September 28, 2021 at 12:36AM

What about the other genders beyond the binary? As pan we stan September 28, 2021 at 12:36AM

For me it depends on if its gratuitous or unnecessarily toxic. Either one is fine, but also both can be real stupid about it sometimes. If it's well shot or written I might enjoy it especially if the characters find it to be an integral moment or if the narrator treats it with respect. But how that looks in both mediums is gonna vary too much for me to say which is better and why, and sometimes it's just based on my mood when I run into tue scene. Ot could be a perfectly good/acceptable scenario but i was feeling bored that day so i find it boring. September 28, 2021 at 12:34AM

He seems to only make me finish from clit stimulation, which is amazing. But I want to be able to finish from penetration, it would more intimate.. I just want to be able to finish from his dick. Any advice? Or does it just happen? Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:40AM He seems to only make me finish from clit stimulation, which is amazing. But I want to be able to finish from penetration, it would more intimate.. I just want to be able to finish from his dick.Any advice? Or does it just happen?

I have a question which is has anyone ever made a custom dildo that looks the same as someone's real penis? I've looked at clone a willy already but it seems complicated and I've heard that they're not made from good materials and it seems expensive. My BF and I are LDR and he asked me if he could buy me a penetrative toy and I think I'd rather have one that's in his 'likeness' if I can, rather than some designed one for mass production if that makes sense Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:47AM I have a question which is has anyone ever made a custom dildo that looks the same as someone's real penis? I've looked at clone a willy already but it seems complicated and I've heard that they're not made from good materials and it seems expensive. My BF and I are LDR and he asked me if he could buy me a penetrative toy and I think I'd rather have one that's in his 'likeness' if I can, rather than some designed one for mas

I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship with my fiancée and only recently did she get comfortable with us having sex without condoms and holy cow. This is THE BEST!!! Of course everything feels like so much more amazing, but I just hate the smell of latex. And the squirming feeling while putting on the condom. And then removing it and disposing of it. And getting out of her carefully and quickly to avoid any leakage from the condom. Now, I don't need to worry about 'nothing!! My poor fiancée takes care of everything, that darling! And she's unfortunately getting the raw end of the deal. I'm so glad the days of fumbling with condoms and cleaning up with them are over. Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:52AM I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship with my fiancée and only recently did she get comfortable with us having sex without condoms and holy cow. This is THE BEST!!!Of course everything feels like so much more amazing, but I just hate the smell

I just ended a 3.5 year relationship. Lots of ups and downs. I love her but I decided it was best for both of us to not be together anymore. She seemed to understand. There wasn’t any pushback on her side. She accepted it. Probably because this is like our fuckin 5th time breaking up but this time it’s a forsure thing. She’s probably over it and doesn’t wanna keep doing the on and off shit. She even told me before next time we “breakup” she doesn’t want to get back together. I’ve kinda been checked out of the relationship emotionally for a while now. Honestly I want to talk to other women already but I don’t want to disrespect her seeing as October is the last month of our apartment lease. I told her I would move out, help her pay the last month, and I’d go to live at my grandmas. Would I be wrong to engage with other women even though we have this one last thing we have to deal with? Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:57AM I just ended a 3.5 year relationship. Lots of ups and

If so how would you overcome this problem? Would more foreplay and lubricant help? Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:58AM If so how would you overcome this problem? Would more foreplay and lubricant help?

I've been making many posts on this subreddit, but I need lots of help lol! Anyways, I just started chatting with a guy this past Fri. We had a wonderful text session, and he kept blowing up my phone (In a good way). He offered to Facetime the next day (Sat). Sat comes, and we plan to Facetime at 8PM. I text him to start the call, and he doesn't respond. I get a text from him at 2am, stating that he "Dozed off". I was irritated, but accepted the answer, and asked if he wanted to Facetime the next day. No response until the evening, when I sent him a text asking if he was still interested in communicating, and his response was "Of course" and that he was busy visiting him grandmother who is very old, but he was home now. I asked if he wanted to Facetime and no response. He sends me a text this morning "Hey there, happy Mon"! I respond with happy Mon back, and ask how he is, and no response. Bear in mind that he has a VERY demanding job in the medic

I recently started dating this girl (f21) who I met on tinder. It's been 4 weeks since we met and she's mentioned multiple times she has a lot of trauma with men, has severe anxiety and depression, and also dissociates whenever trying to do menial tasks - driving more anxiety and depression. She does not exhibit any of these things when we are around and sometimes our dates last more than 12 hours. Her father has said when I'm not around she gets down and sad and is a different person. My previous relationship was with someone who also had severe anxiety and depression and I told myself I wouldn't date someone like that again unless I saw they were actively working toward healing (therapy, meditation, physical activity, etc.). We have a wonderful time together but I don't want to be her crutch to feel good. I also don't want to get into the "I must change her" mindset. Her happiness and mental well-being is not my responsibility. We have not slept

I (33F) invited an acquaintance/friend (35M) whom I had previously gone on a handful of dates with out for last weekend and it turned into a date. We both had a great time. He told me he really liked me and wanted to see if we’re actually compatible. I told him I liked him as well. I haven’t heard from him since. It’s been a couple days. Should I give him a call just to say hi? Or do men really just jump at the opportunity when they know someone is interested - the old “if he wanted to, he would” ? Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:07AM I (33F) invited an acquaintance/friend (35M) whom I had previously gone on a handful of dates with out for last weekend and it turned into a date. We both had a great time. He told me he really liked me and wanted to see if we’re actually compatible. I told him I liked him as well.I haven’t heard from him since. It’s been a couple days. Should I give him a call just to say hi? Or do men really just jump at the opportunity when they know someone

So a few weeks ago I gave the sister a ride to get her car. I saw her walking and thought I’d ask is she needed a ride or if she was just exercising. Turns out she was very happy that I asked because it was going to rain and hopped in. Through some weird events I find myself changing her flat tire for a spare just a few days later. My only intention was to be a gentleman. She had looked after my daughter before and I wanted to somehow return the favor. A few days after that her kids and mine wanted to spend time together over at my house. We had never really spoken till this time. We start getting to know each and eventually decide to go out. After a few drinks and some long conversations she spent the night, no kids in the house this time. Her brother and my ex don’t know about any of this. I believe there is some real chemistry between us but I’m having second thoughts because of her brother and the mother of my child. What are the chances that this could actually work out or shoul

So I (26M) have never been in a relationship before. Previously, I never wanted to be in a relationship. All throughout high school and college my friends and I were all single and I felt that being in a relationship would take away from being able to hang out with them. Since then my attitude on all that has changed. I feel that overall I am very happy. I'm a medical student who has amazing friends and amazing family. I workout regularly, have a diverse range of hobbies, like going out, like staying in etc. This past year, I've put a big effort into putting myself out there to try and find someone but have had literally no luck so far and would like some advice on what I could do differently. I've gone out with probably 10 women in the past year, none of them at the same time. I met them both through everyday life and online dating. 7 of the 10 ghosted me after the first date. 3 of the 10 I went out with for at least 3 weeks and all ended telling me that they didn't

To start things off I'm a 19 year old girl and have vaginismus. Which is basically where penetration is either too painful or impossible to achieve. My other issue is that whenever I think of actually feeling around in there I feel lightheaded. Almost like someone who faints when they see blood I guess. It's not the pain part that bothers me but I hate the thought of sticking my finger somewhere where I can't see anything and just have to feel around different textures and wonder what the hell it is I'm touching. I know it's ridiculous because it's my body and vaginas have existed since the beginning of time so why is it so scary to me? I just feel having this fear may be contributing to my condition and it's slowing down the healing process. What is even more hilarious is that I'm gay. I'm very sexually attracted to women and want to be with one but yet I have a fear of vaginas??? I know this is just something where eventually I'm just gonna ha

We’re each others first and i really enjoy the sex we have, though I feel like we’ve explored a lot of the tame stuff and want to try something new. Now he’s been down to try whatever I suggest, want to surprise him with an idea he’d be really into. For context he’s a bit odd, not in a bad way just not what I would expect. His favourite thing in terms of receiving, is to snuggle up to me while I give him a slow handjob. So guess something that fits that theme Submitted September 27, 2021 at 11:44PM We’re each others first and i really enjoy the sex we have, though I feel like we’ve explored a lot of the tame stuff and want to try something new. Now he’s been down to try whatever I suggest, want to surprise him with an idea he’d be really into.For context he’s a bit odd, not in a bad way just not what I would expect. His favourite thing in terms of receiving, is to snuggle up to me while I give him a slow handjob. So guess something that fits that theme

I (19F) just started having sex with my boyfriend (29M) and I've noticed that I'm bleeding from my vagina now. Long story short, I'm a bit worried, but I'm hoping it's just the fact that I haven't had sex in months and months and he's got a large penis. Coupled with the fact that we had a... Umm, a fairly "rough session", I'm hoping that is all it is. He hasn't had sex in months either, if that is relevant. Also, It's not period blood due to me having a copper IUD. Any idea what it could be, if not the aforementioned things? Thanks in advance a slightly worried young lady Submitted September 27, 2021 at 11:47PM I (19F) just started having sex with my boyfriend (29M) and I've noticed that I'm bleeding from my vagina now. Long story short, I'm a bit worried, but I'm hoping it's just the fact that I haven't had sex in months and months and he's got a large penis. Coupled with the fact that we had a..

I'm wondering if there are any favorite "configurations" out there for people who have threesomes regularly. I may be jumping the gun, but I really hope my roommate, me, and my bf end up doing things more often. The only position that worked where everyone was really having fun was cowgirl and the other one of us sitting on him. He didn't g odown on her much, he was shy I think, so it was me getting eaten out and enjoying how gorgeous she looked riding him. Submitted September 27, 2021 at 11:48PM I'm wondering if there are any favorite "configurations" out there for people who have threesomes regularly. I may be jumping the gun, but I really hope my roommate, me, and my bf end up doing things more often. The only position that worked where everyone was really having fun was cowgirl and the other one of us sitting on him. He didn't g odown on her much, he was shy I think, so it was me getting eaten out and enjoying how gorgeous she looked ridin

Is this only in porn, or it happens it in real life too, with more woman being open to playing with their partner’s feet? Submitted September 27, 2021 at 11:52PM Is this only in porn, or it happens it in real life too, with more woman being open to playing with their partner’s feet?

I went on a date tonight. He seemed really engaged and interested. Well once I returned from the restroom he mentioned being hungry. I said we could get food and also gave him an out to end our date saying we could end the date for him to eat. He said he we could go grab food at another place. Only about 10 minutes into sitting down at the new place he gets a phone call from a friend he hasn’t talk to in awhile and their car broke down and need his help. He ends the date early (which to me it comes off he made his friend call him so he could get out of the date) He then walks me to my car and asks if we could plan for another time. Im guessing to not hurt my feelings. Im embarrassed cus I never really date and I never thought I would be the type that they need their friend to call to get them out of being on a date with me. Submitted September 27, 2021 at 01:04AM I went on a date tonight. He seemed really engaged and interested. Well once I returned from the restroom he menti

Ok so I’ve been away from dating for a long time now. My last relationship ended early on in highschool, and I’m now 23. I’ve just matched with someone on tinder and we’ve set up a potential date later on this week. It’s undecided where it’s happening, but seems like it’ll just be a night in somewhere chilling out with snacks and Netflix. Some info about me is that I’m a very shy and introverted person. Once I get to know people I feel like I’m fine, but it’s getting past the initial meeting and ice breaking that I think is the toughest for me. I struggle to find things to talk about, and I hate awkward silences because I’m constantly trying to think of what to say. Is there anything I should tell her to let her know I feel nervous, how I’m not sure about how things work, etc, thus making things less awkward, or will me saying this make things worse. Basically is there anything I can say that won’t ruin or worse, cancel the situation? Submitted September 27, 2021 at 01:12AM Ok

We were friends for a couple of years and occasionally had sex when we were horny and single. She's a really cool girl and we have lots in common, but I don't really have that emotional connection with her and never saw us being a full blown couple. I could always tell when something was up. She would slowly start flaking more, then eventually just decline all hangouts from there on. Getting flaked on kind of irked me the wrong way but we were just casually having sex so I never really made a big deal about it. Our last FWB stint lasted about 6 months and nearing the end I saw the same process repeating. Less hangouts, flaking more etc. The last hangout we had scheduled she cancelled on me 30 minutes before because "her leg hurt". This was the straw that broke the camels back for me and I kind of drilled into her. I was really busy that weekend so fitting in our hangout plan took a lot of coordination on my end with friends and family. To have it cancelled last mi