Watching Kevin samuels made me find the man of my dreams

I hated him at first. I thought he was the biggest misogynist. I hate-watched him basically.

After a few episodes, things started registering. I didn’t hate him, I disliked him at that point. However I inherently following the advice he preached. 4 months later, I met the man of my dreams.

I noticed my flaws and here it was: - going for ‘hard to get men’ - going for emotionally unavailable men - wanting to change emotionally unavailable men - expecting men to do more for me than I do for them - not realizing men want compliments too (this sounds dumb, but I thought doing this was being too forward) - not comprising / being stringent on physical requirements

How I got the man of my dreams and what I do differently: - being financially stable and equally splitting our finances - being comfortable in my femininity and embracing it. I allowed myself to lean on my partner when it came to feeling safe, protected and comfortable both physically and emotionally. Always thought I had to be this independent women who didn’t need a guy. I feel so safe with my man and I am proud to depend on him about that - constant effort back. I cook for him sometimes, buy him things, listen to him and ask about his day / his life - expresss constant gratitude and affection. I always tell him how he’s the best man, and a real man who takes care of me so well. I remind him constantly his efforts don’t go unnoticed. - never cold, never short with him, looking over small things. For example,
I used to get really angry if a guy said he’ll do something and doesn’t do it. Now I rationally weigh how much effort he gives me over the small lapses in promises.

All In all, I’m in my 20s and feel so happy. I feel like I struck the right amount of dependency and independency. I happily depend on him for my safety, Expressing my feelings, and maintaining our house (if things get broken down). I’m independent financially and in control of my happiness and choices. I’m truly happy finally and feel like I cracked the code to a relationship.

Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:06AM

I hated him at first. I thought he was the biggest misogynist. I hate-watched him basically.After a few episodes, things started registering. I didn’t hate him, I disliked him at that point. However I inherently following the advice he preached. 4 months later, I met the man of my dreams.I noticed my flaws and here it was: - going for ‘hard to get men’ - going for emotionally unavailable men - wanting to change emotionally unavailable men - expecting men to do more for me than I do for them - not realizing men want compliments too (this sounds dumb, but I thought doing this was being too forward) - not comprising / being stringent on physical requirementsHow I got the man of my dreams and what I do differently: - being financially stable and equally splitting our finances - being comfortable in my femininity and embracing it. I allowed myself to lean on my partner when it came to feeling safe, protected and comfortable both physically and emotionally. Always thought I had to be this independent women who didn’t need a guy. I feel so safe with my man and I am proud to depend on him about that - constant effort back. I cook for him sometimes, buy him things, listen to him and ask about his day / his life - expresss constant gratitude and affection. I always tell him how he’s the best man, and a real man who takes care of me so well. I remind him constantly his efforts don’t go unnoticed. - never cold, never short with him, looking over small things. For example,I used to get really angry if a guy said he’ll do something and doesn’t do it. Now I rationally weigh how much effort he gives me over the small lapses in promises.All In all, I’m in my 20s and feel so happy. I feel like I struck the right amount of dependency and independency. I happily depend on him for my safety, Expressing my feelings, and maintaining our house (if things get broken down). I’m independent financially and in control of my happiness and choices. I’m truly happy finally and feel like I cracked the code to a relationship.