Am I not attracted to my boyfriend?

Well, this has quite a few layers into this. I feel like I need to question if I am attracted to my boyfriend.

I have been masturbating by humping blankets since I am a teenager. I have tried using my hands and some other things as well but it didn't really work. I didn't think about it much since I thought I'll never be in a sexual relationship with anyone. I also don't watch porn or imagine myself having sex during masturbation but only other people.

4 months ago I have fallen in love and started a romantic relationship with my boyfriend. Appearently, he never had any romantic nor sexual relationship with anyone before, either. We have been doing sexual things together for 2 months. I haven't gotten any orgasm during our activities. At first, that really affected him and I felt terrible for not getting off. We have talked about the whole situation of me not getting an orgasm unless I am humping a blanket and he told me that he doesn't want to do anything sexual with me unlesss I try to get rid of my situational anorgasmia. I am totally motivated to do so but it is really struggling, to be honest.

I have been trying to avoid my bad habit for around 1 month. I feel like other techniques I use started to feel better but it is not really getting me there. His touch feels a lot better, I get really close to the climax but it suddenly goes away. He feels bad about it, obviously and he told me to question myself if I am sexually attracted to him.

I do find him attractive. I am sure about that but sometimes I question if it should have been easier to get off with or without him (thinking about him) if I am sexually attracted to him.

I don't have anyone to talk about this except him but talking about it doesn't help but only creates more pressure on me about getting orgasm. I am afraid he will no longer want to be with me if I cannot solve this problem.

Do you think I am not attracted to my BF or it is normal to feel like that during getting rid of this bad habit of mine?



Submitted September 30, 2021 at 12:19AM

Well, this has quite a few layers into this. I feel like I need to question if I am attracted to my boyfriend.I have been masturbating by humping blankets since I am a teenager. I have tried using my hands and some other things as well but it didn't really work. I didn't think about it much since I thought I'll never be in a sexual relationship with anyone. I also don't watch porn or imagine myself having sex during masturbation but only other people.4 months ago I have fallen in love and started a romantic relationship with my boyfriend. Appearently, he never had any romantic nor sexual relationship with anyone before, either. We have been doing sexual things together for 2 months. I haven't gotten any orgasm during our activities. At first, that really affected him and I felt terrible for not getting off. We have talked about the whole situation of me not getting an orgasm unless I am humping a blanket and he told me that he doesn't want to do anything sexual with me unlesss I try to get rid of my situational anorgasmia. I am totally motivated to do so but it is really struggling, to be honest.I have been trying to avoid my bad habit for around 1 month. I feel like other techniques I use started to feel better but it is not really getting me there. His touch feels a lot better, I get really close to the climax but it suddenly goes away. He feels bad about it, obviously and he told me to question myself if I am sexually attracted to him.I do find him attractive. I am sure about that but sometimes I question if it should have been easier to get off with or without him (thinking about him) if I am sexually attracted to him.I don't have anyone to talk about this except him but talking about it doesn't help but only creates more pressure on me about getting orgasm. I am afraid he will no longer want to be with me if I cannot solve this problem.Do you think I am not attracted to my BF or it is normal to feel like that during getting rid of this bad habit of mine?
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