Yep. I also do crushes. I need someone I can relate to so anything helps. September 30, 2022 at 12:41AM

Has anyone managed to win back someone they've been needy to? If so, what's your story? I'm honestly fed up only reading about let go's and move on's, there's gotta be some who made it differently. I botched it about 3 times with the same number of different girls myself, and they all showed interest again after I stopped caring about them. Submitted September 30, 2022 at 12:13AM Has anyone managed to win back someone they've been needy to? If so, what's your story? I'm honestly fed up only reading about let go's and move on's, there's gotta be some who made it differently. I botched it about 3 times with the same number of different girls myself, and they all showed interest again after I stopped caring about them.

Yes! Allo people are so sex motivated it boggles my mind. Every time i compliment someone they think I want to sleep with them?? I’ll tell my boyfriend I think an actor is pretty or handsome, and he always asks if I would have sex with them (He knows I’m ace, which makes it even weirder). September 29, 2022 at 11:35PM

It's a spectrum. Kinda like how even though there are a plethora of skin colors and hair colors and types, simply having different skin color or hair color doesn't mean you aren't human. September 29, 2022 at 11:35PM

My theory is some people are hardwired not to reproduce. Some would love to have a family but not biologically. So adopting/fostering come into play. It can be seen as a way to maintain population control. I can see trauma and upbringing as factors too though. So for a main, majority factor, I don't think there is one. It's a mesh. September 29, 2022 at 11:31PM

Every other people here mentions trauma, but no trauma experts are seen September 29, 2022 at 11:31PM

my lack of sexual interest isn't bc i'm broken This is so very real. I spent a very long time thinking I was "broken." I loved sex with my husband and wanted sex with him. And after our divorce, I couldn't want it any more and I thought that I was broken, somehow. That having my heart broken had "ruined" me or something. Only after I began understanding asexuality did I start to understand that there was nothing wrong with me. That I could feel that way again. I just need something other than a superficial relationship for it to happen. September 29, 2022 at 11:29PM