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A full turnaround

Hello all! Just a quick question. So during quarantine you can't really meet new girls at a bar (which I prefer more), so I tried Tinder. Chatted with a girl and then we had couple of dates at her place. Just chatting and we kissed on the second date. She then said:" I don't think we have the chemistry." And I was like "No problem, I have no expectations and just want to meet new people and have a good time." Fastforward to now she is blowing up my phone nearly daily and asking when we are going to meet again. Tomorrow we are going to a restaurant and back to her place. I'm just curious, why the sudden turnaround from " I don't think I like you and we have future" to this? Explain? Submitted January 21, 2021 at 11:52PM Hello all!Just a quick question. So during quarantine you can't really meet new girls at a bar (which I prefer more), so I tried Tinder. Chatted with a girl and then we had couple of dates at her place. Just cha...

I've got no game

I guess the title says it all? I (M25) can get a lot of matches on tinder, but don't even know how to begin a conversation there. Honestly in a club pre-covid, same. Went on a date, totally flopped. Said she had to go home early. Had also let slipped she had been going on lots of tinder dates, and then unmatched me. Guess I've got no game. I was raised very polite and religious, and even though I'm not anymore, I don't even know how to be flirty or be anything other than the 'nice guy' that's just not an attractive personality. Based on the very few girls I have dated, I know if we hooked up they would come back for more. I recently got out of a serious relationship that lasted a very long time, and I just want to have some fun. Girls, what do you look for? Guys, what works for you? Submitted January 21, 2021 at 11:52PM I guess the title says it all? I (M25) can get a lot of matches on tinder, but don't even know how to begin a conversation t...

iMessage game zone

So this is quite a funny one, I(m23) matched this girl(f20) in about October and quickly got her number. For some reason we started playing iMessage games and that’s literally all we do. For about 3 months now either one of us sends and game and we play, make some small talk and that’s it. It’s pretty jokes tbh. I like the dynamic. I’m wondering how I can actually get this girl to hang out or something, anything to break this chain, not that I don’t like it but you know maybe it could be something more. Any thoughts ? Submitted January 21, 2021 at 11:55PM So this is quite a funny one, I(m23) matched this girl(f20) in about October and quickly got her number. For some reason we started playing iMessage games and that’s literally all we do. For about 3 months now either one of us sends and game and we play, make some small talk and that’s it. It’s pretty jokes tbh. I like the dynamic.I’m wondering how I can actually get this girl to hang out or something, anything to break this c...

Am I (24,M) being used by her (20,F)?

Hi all, Recently I’ve been chatting to a girl and we instantly hit it off. Always making plans and hanging out. Unfortunately she has to move away in a few weeks and we’ve known this for a month so have kept it as casual as we both can. Everything seemed fine to me until all of a sudden she sends me a message after a fantastic weekend together essentially saying I can’t do this anymore, can we still be friends. People who have gone through similar situations: is she afraid of catching feelings and being hurt herself or have I just been used by her to fulfill her needs? Submitted January 21, 2021 at 11:55PM Hi all, Recently I’ve been chatting to a girl and we instantly hit it off. Always making plans and hanging out. Unfortunately she has to move away in a few weeks and we’ve known this for a month so have kept it as casual as we both can. Everything seemed fine to me until all of a sudden she sends me a message after a fantastic weekend together essentially saying I can’t do thi...

I [20f] am interested in the guy I'm in a fwb situation with [23m]

So the backstory, back in March or so we had a shoplifter at the the store that I work at. One of the responding cops happened to be a really cute new rookie that had came in the store a few nights earlier that I thought cute then as well (I didnt know he was a cop when I first saw him) My manager ended up asking his sheriff if he was single for me a few nights later leaving me pretty embarrassed. We ended up becoming friends on Facebook (I added him because why not lol) and despite never talking matched on Tinder a few months later. Back in September, we hung out and went on a walk on the trails at my college. After that we did not talk very often and had normal conversatios when he came in the store sometimes but nothing more. Suddenly last Friday he texted me. We talked for a bit and ended up planning to hangout the next day at his house. I had an idea that he wanted to hookup because of how out of the blue it was and initially I told myself I wouldn't do it. Also, prior to th...

Moving on

How do you know when it’s time to move on and stop going for a girl, and what’s the best way to move on? Some personal context: I went on a few dates with this girl I really liked, and I got the impression that she liked me. Things were going super well for the few weeks we were talking, but something happened where she got really, really upset at me and now the relationship isn’t the same (no, wasn’t talking to other girls). She doesn’t talk to me anymore and I feel really bad about it because I feel like I ruined a start of a good relationship. What do I do? Submitted January 22, 2021 at 12:14AM How do you know when it’s time to move on and stop going for a girl, and what’s the best way to move on?Some personal context: I went on a few dates with this girl I really liked, and I got the impression that she liked me. Things were going super well for the few weeks we were talking, but something happened where she got really, really upset at me and now the relationship isn’t the...

/u/Python_Anon on Just some casual mild a-phobia and erasure in r/bisexual of all places.

Whyyyyyyyyyy January 22, 2021 at 12:04AM

/u/dichotomouslex on Just some casual mild a-phobia and erasure in r/bisexual of all places.

Ugh. Not the "haven't met the right one" bs. 🙄 January 21, 2021 at 11:57PM

/u/ddrt77 on Bi/ace/Demi flag? I made it but don’t know the accuracy or validity. Thoughts?

Thanks! (I’m exclusively a mobile user I feel you mate) January 21, 2021 at 11:56PM

/u/stitchitch on Bi/ace/Demi flag? I made it but don’t know the accuracy or validity. Thoughts?

If yoy go to the asexuality reddit page you should find an option there (sorry I'm on my phone). January 21, 2021 at 11:55PM

/u/5mp3x192000 on Im new here

Ah, a fellow beatle fan January 21, 2021 at 11:54PM

/u/Hemmagossen on Difference between sexual attraction, sex drive, and libido?

TIL that I am aegosexual. January 21, 2021 at 11:53PM

/u/ddrt77 on Bi/ace/Demi flag? I made it but don’t know the accuracy or validity. Thoughts?

Oh of course! That didn’t occur to me thanks! I’m pretty new to this community, how did you get a user flair? Thanks January 21, 2021 at 11:52PM

/u/64intelligentperson on Asexual but don't want to be

exactly January 21, 2021 at 11:47PM

/u/The_Book-JDP on Is this true?

Thank you...you are the only person who ever replied to my high five/high elbow reference. I was beginning to think I was the only one who ever did one and no one knew what I was talking about. January 21, 2021 at 11:40PM

/u/coffeepluswifi on Asexuality and OCD

Aw no way! That makes me so happy to hear ☺️. January 21, 2021 at 11:39PM

/u/b-way-c-punk on Im new here

Okay, now I have to drop my favorite cover of it here and loop it for an hour because you're not wrong. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5s-sI4ThoX0&list=LL&index=111 January 21, 2021 at 11:29PM

/u/13thFleet on Im new here

Gib mir die Hand, Ich bau dir ein Schloss aus Sand Irgendwie, irgendwo, irgendwann January 21, 2021 at 11:20PM

/u/oddonesout2 on I think I'm ace, I'm married to an allo, and it's freaking me out/tearing me up inside

I was more excited about buying fresh mangos than having sex with him. I find this amusing because my previous relationship with an allo ended over pizza. When I got accepted into medical school I knew I was supposed to want to have sex to celebrate that, but what I really wanted was to make a pizza. We didn't have time for both and I chose pizza because that's what I actually wanted. When I say I was "supposed to want sex" I mean that past arguments over sex had taught me when I was supposed to want sex. I had memorized that: birthdays, anniversaries, vacations/trips, after seeing each other for the first time in a long time, etc were situations I should say I "want sex" to avoid hurting his feelings. to think that he'd be willing to leave me over this one stupid thing One thing you're going to have to understand if you two are going to move forward is that this is not just "one stupid thing" or this extra cherry on top of the who...

/u/AssociationFun1193 on It seems like Sex Repulsed have a strong voice on this sub. So out of curiosity, what do you identify as?

I'm grey ace so idk January 21, 2021 at 11:15PM

/u/coffeepluswifi on Asexuality and OCD

as an idea I don't have an aversion to it. I'm fine seeing it in movies or hearing people talk about it in explicit ways, just the thought of me having it doesn't really compute. I really feel this! Anyway, I'm glad that you're no longer in those situations which made you feel so uncomfortable, and thank you for all all your kind messages and personal insight :) January 21, 2021 at 11:09PM

/u/olympiadavarvara on Making basically all the characters for my book aro/ace because I have absolutely no clue how to write romance

That's exactly what stopped me from writing my book. The lack of experience/knowledge of this field January 21, 2021 at 11:08PM

/u/apanwerewolf on We are the Gay Premium™

ik but pedos like to say they are a sexuality (wich they are not) January 21, 2021 at 11:08PM