I [20f] am interested in the guy I'm in a fwb situation with [23m]

So the backstory, back in March or so we had a shoplifter at the the store that I work at. One of the responding cops happened to be a really cute new rookie that had came in the store a few nights earlier that I thought cute then as well (I didnt know he was a cop when I first saw him) My manager ended up asking his sheriff if he was single for me a few nights later leaving me pretty embarrassed. We ended up becoming friends on Facebook (I added him because why not lol) and despite never talking matched on Tinder a few months later. Back in September, we hung out and went on a walk on the trails at my college. After that we did not talk very often and had normal conversatios when he came in the store sometimes but nothing more.

Suddenly last Friday he texted me. We talked for a bit and ended up planning to hangout the next day at his house. I had an idea that he wanted to hookup because of how out of the blue it was and initially I told myself I wouldn't do it. Also, prior to this I was a virgin. We ended up hanging out at his place & he made his move by imitating holding hands while watching criminal minds (ironic) I asked him if his sheriff ever told him about us asking if he was single and he told me that no and he laughed about it. He told me he wasnt looking for anything too serious and wanted a fwb, but said "whatever happens happens" from that point he ended up kissing me and it was also my first time making out with someone. He stopped and asked for permission and he always asked before doing anything. It was completely consensual and I was actually pretty comfortable with him. He was aware it was my first time and understood when things didnt go smoothly. The day after he asked if I wanted to try again which led to us hanging out and messing around some Tuesday. Afterwards, he laid his head on my lap and we played with his cat for awhile. In that moment I found myself hoping it could potentially be something more. Both days we hung out for 6 hours and he took me to work after both days. We had a chance to get to know each other somewhat better too. It wasnt awkward and he always made me feel comfortable. He did sleep both times and apologized saying that since hes a night shifter hes used to sleep during the day. He told me to speak up if I wanted him to stop anything or if I wanted to try something. His first text to me after the first time we hung out was him asking if I had fun and if I wanted to try it again sometime.

The issue is I had a crush prior to all of this. And was upset when we stopped talking after hanging out the first time. I live in a really small town and am trying not to ask too many people around me for advice because of that. This situation was lots of first for me, I'm really attracted to him, and like being around him even when not hooking up. I always liked talking to him when he came in the store before all of this too. This is also a huge step out of my comfort zone and I've enjoyed getting the experiences especially with someone who isnt forcing anything. I've never participated in hookups like most my age though but I'm finding myself having fun but I dont know if I'm naive to ever expect anything more. Im not saying a full blown relationship after hanging out a few more times but could this possibly lead to dating? He said whatever happens happens but im not sure how to interpret that.

Anyways PLEASE be kind. I'm genuinely looking for advice because its been on my mind a lot. I know Fwb rarely leads to anything I just dont know what I should do given the circumstances. After some snooping (lol) it seems like hes never even had a gf, is from a good semi religious family, and seems like a genuine guy.

Overall I think my biggest issue here is that I'm actually having fun doing what were doing but at the same time I'm interested in it going further and I'm psyching myself out in regards to it never happening because I still feel like I have no chance with him...when I read up on other peoples opinions of situations like this I see a lot about guys not being wired to catch feelings like women do.

Tldr: met guy at work, hung out once months ago and now we're sorta fwb and I'm not sure what to do next.

Submitted January 22, 2021 at 12:13AM

So the backstory, back in March or so we had a shoplifter at the the store that I work at. One of the responding cops happened to be a really cute new rookie that had came in the store a few nights earlier that I thought cute then as well (I didnt know he was a cop when I first saw him) My manager ended up asking his sheriff if he was single for me a few nights later leaving me pretty embarrassed. We ended up becoming friends on Facebook (I added him because why not lol) and despite never talking matched on Tinder a few months later. Back in September, we hung out and went on a walk on the trails at my college. After that we did not talk very often and had normal conversatios when he came in the store sometimes but nothing more.Suddenly last Friday he texted me. We talked for a bit and ended up planning to hangout the next day at his house. I had an idea that he wanted to hookup because of how out of the blue it was and initially I told myself I wouldn't do it. Also, prior to this I was a virgin. We ended up hanging out at his place & he made his move by imitating holding hands while watching criminal minds (ironic) I asked him if his sheriff ever told him about us asking if he was single and he told me that no and he laughed about it. He told me he wasnt looking for anything too serious and wanted a fwb, but said "whatever happens happens" from that point he ended up kissing me and it was also my first time making out with someone. He stopped and asked for permission and he always asked before doing anything. It was completely consensual and I was actually pretty comfortable with him. He was aware it was my first time and understood when things didnt go smoothly. The day after he asked if I wanted to try again which led to us hanging out and messing around some Tuesday. Afterwards, he laid his head on my lap and we played with his cat for awhile. In that moment I found myself hoping it could potentially be something more. Both days we hung out for 6 hours and he took me to work after both days. We had a chance to get to know each other somewhat better too. It wasnt awkward and he always made me feel comfortable. He did sleep both times and apologized saying that since hes a night shifter hes used to sleep during the day. He told me to speak up if I wanted him to stop anything or if I wanted to try something. His first text to me after the first time we hung out was him asking if I had fun and if I wanted to try it again sometime.The issue is I had a crush prior to all of this. And was upset when we stopped talking after hanging out the first time. I live in a really small town and am trying not to ask too many people around me for advice because of that. This situation was lots of first for me, I'm really attracted to him, and like being around him even when not hooking up. I always liked talking to him when he came in the store before all of this too. This is also a huge step out of my comfort zone and I've enjoyed getting the experiences especially with someone who isnt forcing anything. I've never participated in hookups like most my age though but I'm finding myself having fun but I dont know if I'm naive to ever expect anything more. Im not saying a full blown relationship after hanging out a few more times but could this possibly lead to dating? He said whatever happens happens but im not sure how to interpret that.Anyways PLEASE be kind. I'm genuinely looking for advice because its been on my mind a lot. I know Fwb rarely leads to anything I just dont know what I should do given the circumstances. After some snooping (lol) it seems like hes never even had a gf, is from a good semi religious family, and seems like a genuine guy.Overall I think my biggest issue here is that I'm actually having fun doing what were doing but at the same time I'm interested in it going further and I'm psyching myself out in regards to it never happening because I still feel like I have no chance with him...when I read up on other peoples opinions of situations like this I see a lot about guys not being wired to catch feelings like women do.Tldr: met guy at work, hung out once months ago and now we're sorta fwb and I'm not sure what to do next.