I get messages that just say hi, or you're beautiful/ gorgeous. How are you supposed to respond to that? Say thanks?? I don't think I'm ugly but I'm not like beautiful or anything.. I just get flabbergasted when I get these messages. Should I just continue to overlook these messages? What are you supposed to do? Men: what is the expected reply? Because I mostly don't even respond to these. Submitted February 02, 2021 at 12:02AM I get messages that just say hi, or you're beautiful/ gorgeous. How are you supposed to respond to that? Say thanks?? I don't think I'm ugly but I'm not like beautiful or anything.. I just get flabbergasted when I get these messages.Should I just continue to overlook these messages? What are you supposed to do? Men: what is the expected reply? Because I mostly don't even respond to these.

So about 2 years ago now my last serious relationship (GF) ended on a mutual note but in a kind way and we helped each other through the breakup as we were both going in different directions in life and still maintain a friendship. We dated mostly Long Distance for almost 6 years. Ever since the break up I've been on a few dates and talked to a lot of people and realized I was also Bi. That being said though I noticed anytime something between me and a potential partner was getting serious I would back off because I didn't want to get into anything because I didn't want to get hurt again to such an extent as I took the last breakup really bad. Didn't do anything bad or anything like that just was questioning everything about the relationship. It took time but I slowly came to understand that it was us both going in vastly different directions with the major things in life. I'm not angry about it anymore but I do still have this major fear of committing to a relatio...

I see this girl regularly but never made a move. I can tell she's open to it but I'm not sure if it's too late. It's been about 2-3 months taking the same class at school but I've just come to the realization that I want to sack up and approach. My question is would she now think I'm a dead end because it's been so long and I never picked up on her interest? Submitted February 02, 2021 at 12:15AM I see this girl regularly but never made a move. I can tell she's open to it but I'm not sure if it's too late. It's been about 2-3 months taking the same class at school but I've just come to the realization that I want to sack up and approach. My question is would she now think I'm a dead end because it's been so long and I never picked up on her interest?

Hey everyone, long time lurker, first time poster. [24M] I am due to start work at a company as a grad, and have been communicating with my fellow grads mainly virtually via video calls and messenger. One of my fellow grads (F, not sure of her age) seems to like me and is quite openly flirting with me, but I am not interested in her. I have only met this girl once in person while collecting my laptop from the company’s office but we have added each other on messenger. I do not believe I’ve done anything beyond being friendly and making small talk with her, as I have done with a number of my other fellow grads. My initial theory is that she has come to mistakenly believe my being friendly means that I am interested in her. The only other theory I have is that she is attracted to me on the basis of looks although this is doubtful as I’m nothing special and my fb profile is not flash because I hardly use it anymore. In addition to not being interested in this girl that way, I have decid...

New guy don’t know him much big mistake of life I show some cleavage and then later have another call w/o my face showing being a bit more sexual the first did he said he wasn’t recording and I could go on snap bc it’ll tell me I’m so scared he recorded our video chat and he’ll expose me I’m brown and Muslim so if it comes out I’m screwed Submitted February 02, 2021 at 12:17AM New guy don’t know him much big mistake of life I show some cleavage and then later have another call w/o my face showing being a bit more sexual the first did he said he wasn’t recording and I could go on snap bc it’ll tell me I’m so scared he recorded our video chat and he’ll expose meI’m brown and Muslim so if it comes out I’m screwed

Dead-ringer for aesthetic attraction February 01, 2021 at 11:53PM

So theres a lot to unpack here. It's possible to have some orientation toward one gender and still be asexual or demisexual. A lot of people might experience a division of sexual and romantic attraction. So it's possible you might be more romantically inclined towards specific genders or individuals. Sometimes people feel sexual attraction only when they are deeply romantically involved with an individual as well. I've also met individuals with high libidos, so they desire engaging in sexual acts either with a partner or without but aren't sexually attracted to their partners. I think it's important to just understand that there are others like you, no matter your preference. It may take time to figure out what works for you but if you are honest with yourself and others, discovering this stuff can be a good experience rather than stressful one. :/ Not sure I helped answer any of your questions, I think many on the sub might have other thoughts as we've all ha...

I gotchu February 01, 2021 at 11:52PM

I wanna use it for those stupid like 'only fans' bots that randomly add you on social media February 01, 2021 at 11:52PM

I know how you feel. I was able to find someone with a low sex drive using online dating. I had that I was asexual in my profile and would bring up what that meant to me in the first few messages with someone. It definitely caused some connections to end right away but allowed me not to waste time on someone I would not do well with long term. Also you can get a dog. They are something that will love you and want to cuddle without the complications humans bring. Obviously not the same but they also help with depression and feeling alone. February 01, 2021 at 11:43PM

When I found out I was asexual it was so crystal clear about why I never wanted kids or ever felt the need to become a parent. I never understood girls that dreamt and endlessly ranted about the day they’d bring their firstborn home because I always have and still only have dreamt about having a successful career. Thank hell I have a brother that can give my parents blood-related grandkids cuz then my parents can’t complain about never getting any grandkids cuz of my decision to be child free 😌 February 01, 2021 at 11:40PM

Once again, you're talking to a Canadian. Our Maple Leaf is a simple icon, but far more complicated to draw than an ace spade. I don't think it's as complicated as you're trying to make it sound. February 01, 2021 at 11:36PM

💪😎 February 01, 2021 at 11:31PM

Masturbation has nothing to do with sexual attraction, so for her to say that you masturbating makes you a less asexual person is wildly false. It’s gatekeeping too which is equally as ridiculous February 01, 2021 at 11:30PM

I completely understand that. I really, really understand that. I see how much others need sex, how much of a dealbreaker it is to not want it. I don't get it, and I absolutely hate it . Now, mine's more out of curiosity. I want to know what makes it so great! How does it feel so great? Anytime I think of myself in any real sexual situation, though, all I'm left with is the childish feeling of, "Ew. That's gross." I really truly understand how you feel. I wish that I could help you somehow. If you ever want to chat, I am more than willing. <3 It's easy to loath yourself with this kind of thing. February 01, 2021 at 11:29PM

OH MY GOODNESS. You are the only other person that I’ve seen that gets pizza with Alfredo sauce as opposed to tomato sauce. It’s sooooo good. If I had to give a top three favorite goods, it’s mac and cheese (pasta, as a broader category), Pringles (give me every Pringles flavor out there, blindfold me and I guarantee I can tell you the flavor), and Coke slushies. February 01, 2021 at 11:26PM

100% There's just something nice about the way that they look, and it's almost fascinating how beautiful things like that can be. No arousal, no real attraction. Just an appreciation of the symmetry and form. Or maybe I'm crazy. But I get it. You could just stare at them without any sort of real attraction. They're pretty. February 01, 2021 at 11:26PM

:O February 01, 2021 at 11:24PM

“Thirst trap” refers to the idea that people get “thirsty” for someone they find attractive. It’s another way of saying “drooling over”. Essentially someone shows off how “hot”, “sexy”, and/or “good looking” they are in an obvious way and it’s meant to get people to go crazy over it, hence the “trap” part. February 01, 2021 at 11:24PM

Alfredo is my absolute favorite. I buy jars of alfredo specifically for dipping chips in. I could eat noodles with alfredo for weeks and not get tired of it. Instead of tomato sauce, I get alfredo sauce on my pizza. Honestly, like three of my top five favorite things are cheese and the other two are video games. I might like cheese too much. I personally don't like ricotta, but it's a texture thing, not a flavor thing. February 01, 2021 at 11:24PM

Where are you going to find a man who doesn’t want sex? Do I exist?? (Note sex indifferen) February 01, 2021 at 11:18PM

So I'm imagining this being used in situation of partner asking for sex and this used as reply, but because it's an uno reversal, are you technically telling your partner to go fuck themselves? February 01, 2021 at 11:13PM

What's weird is that I really did appreciate a nice rack for a while, and then I saw what was underneath and boy was I disappointed. February 01, 2021 at 11:09PM