Idk yet, I’ve never gotten the chance to cuddle with a partner before :( September 24, 2021 at 11:41PM

The Magnus archives! Not a book, Its a horror podcast but it’s very good the main character is ace and has a romance with another character that is central to the story. There’s a few fics on ao3 about them that really helped me come to terms with being ace. Might be confusing though if you haven’t listened to the podcast. September 24, 2021 at 11:41PM

People aren't naturally resistant to new ideas though. We can be very curious about them in fact, because our brains are literally wired to seek out novelty! No, this pattern occurs because we live in a society that actively demonizes anyone who falls outside the allocishet boundaries that have been put up for the sake of social cohesion. It's learned behavior. This is also why we have people who reject bigotry against their own part of the LGBTQIA+ umbrella but not the others; they haven't examined the beliefs they learned from a society that taught them to hate all of us, even though they had to work through internalized negatively to accept themselves. They make the mistake of stopping at their own comfort and ignoring the rest. September 24, 2021 at 11:38PM

a great part of the lgbta+ fight was/is about being proud of who you love and want to become intimate (sexually) with. queer sex/love is a symbol of power, i reckon. so that's why it is so praised. but you cannot talk about sex without talking about asexuality (same with love and aromanticism). i just wish people would understand how related those are. i'm aroace and i want my identity to be known. oh, and by the way, i'm sorry for your trauma, but i'm glad you got to understand yourself. you're strong :) September 24, 2021 at 11:37PM

When I touch myself down there I pretty much feel nothing, it's like touching other ports of my body. When I'm touched is not always that it feels good , but still not that good. I should mention I'm a virgin. Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:28AM When I touch myself down there I pretty much feel nothing, it's like touching other ports of my body. When I'm touched is not always that it feels good , but still not that good.I should mention I'm a virgin.

I’m the guy. I have never been in a sexual relationship before due to my Catholic upbringing. I had some anxiety getting intimate with my partner of 2 weeks but managed to last for hours to my surprise. The first night I didn’t reach an orgasm and I thought it was maybe my nerves. Now it’s been three nights straight that I can’t reach an orgasm no matter what we do. I can reach an orgasm by myself, in my own home, but the same tricks don’t work when I’m with her. So far it’s only been her climaxing several times, which brings me satisfaction. We are both selfless lovers who want to please the other so it’s frustrating that I can’t climax to show her she’s enough for me, and I really am having a good time with her. A little more background info. I had been watching porn multiple times a day over the years, but have stopped since meeting her. I can maintain an erection for hours when I’m with her. Stay active and I’m in really good shape, but I may be in a performance trap of really t...

Down a rabbit hole of extreme sex and or porn and find I need more extreme material or sex to get off now. I enjoy it still but feel this might not be leading to a healthy place...thoughts? Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:45AM Down a rabbit hole of extreme sex and or porn and find I need more extreme material or sex to get off now. I enjoy it still but feel this might not be leading to a healthy place...thoughts?

I got licked and fucked and god damn. Happy fucking friday yall. i love my man so much now he will be getting a favor back;) Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:52AM I got licked and fucked and god damn. Happy fucking friday yall. i love my man so much now he will be getting a favor back;)

OK I'm sure it does but wondering if it's a thing that has a name. Something like a double ended dildo you would put into a butt/other-hole and fuck the other end (with a pussy), with like a middle section/base that would stop it from disappearing up into the butthole. I guess it's basically pegging but with added fun Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:55AM OK I'm sure it does but wondering if it's a thing that has a name. Something like a double ended dildo you would put into a butt/other-hole and fuck the other end (with a pussy), with like a middle section/base that would stop it from disappearing up into the butthole. I guess it's basically pegging but with added fun

It’s kind of bizarre. I’m (27F) talking to this guy (33) who shows a lot of interest and we send some voice messages, talk about meeting up for a walk, and he’s all “Is it weird to say that it would be nice to randomly wake up spooning you” and I think that’s cute. He wants to hang but then he’s too tired, fair. But now he is kind of ignoring me but stating he’s not ignoring he’s just “in the 3D”… I’m just like OK dude, I’ve been trying to hang out IRL, what are some assumptions of why he won’t meet up with me??? I’m probably a little more than fairly attractive and I have an endless sense of humor and I have no red flags. It’s not an age thing either, nor is it that he’s super busy. I’m just ??? Submitted September 24, 2021 at 11:53PM It’s kind of bizarre. I’m (27F) talking to this guy (33) who shows a lot of interest and we send some voice messages, talk about meeting up for a walk, and he’s all “Is it weird to say that it would be nice to randomly wake up spooning you” and I ...

I’ve been talking to this girl no less than a week. She lives about an hour away and is wanting to see me. I want to see her too but just don’t know if I’m rushing things or not How soon is too soon to go on a first date? Anything helps Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:01AM I’ve been talking to this girl no less than a week. She lives about an hour away and is wanting to see me. I want to see her too but just don’t know if I’m rushing things or notHow soon is too soon to go on a first date? Anything helps

I (21F) have gotten a lot of duds in the online dating world. Many guys just want suggestive photos so they swoon me with compliments and promises and end up ghosting me if I don’t abide. What is the best way to decline when a guy asks me for a photo of my butt or something? Especially to all the other women out there, what do you do if a guy asks for pictures and it’s been only a few days of talking or you barely know him? I don’t like sending photos so early because you never know who will end up seeing them. Some people actually post this stuff online. Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:04AM I (21F) have gotten a lot of duds in the online dating world. Many guys just want suggestive photos so they swoon me with compliments and promises and end up ghosting me if I don’t abide. What is the best way to decline when a guy asks me for a photo of my butt or something? Especially to all the other women out there, what do you do if a guy asks for pictures and it’s been only a few day...

I’ve come to realise over my experiences of talking with certain women that if they speak up about a certain behaviour or situation in your life that they are concerned of or want to ask about usually it’s because it’s something they are insecure about themselves. While red flags are real and can be glaring, and while we can all have negative traits to work on, do not confuse insecurity with a negative trait. Some people will project something you are ‘doing’ that they consider bad for a relationship onto you; think why they would pick up on it. It’s very likely more to do with the fact that they’re experiencing those issues and battles in their own lives, hence why they’re able to pick up on it in the first place. One of the most obvious examples of this is money. If a persons first question to you is about money, it is likely because they have little of it themselves; not because you don’t. Be wary of those that always pick up on negatives about you. It’s usually not them pickin...

So there's this girl in my biology class, that I've never met before this year. She's extremely nice to me, nicer than most people have ever been to me, and she complimented me a few times, and I can't tell if she's actually into me. I don't want to ask her out until I know, because I don't want to ruin our new friendship. What do I do Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:05AM So there's this girl in my biology class, that I've never met before this year. She's extremely nice to me, nicer than most people have ever been to me, and she complimented me a few times, and I can't tell if she's actually into me. I don't want to ask her out until I know, because I don't want to ruin our new friendship. What do I do

It was pretty instant, the first time we met I felt the attraction and not just with my eyes but something deeper, fuller. Through work we naturally spent a lot of time conversing - mostly virtually but more recently in person. She’s not shy I could tell she took a liking to me. After a few months of working together in person and virtually, we went to happy hour after work - seemingly normal but in all reality the vibe said it was a date. Our faces gravitated towards each other and our eyes locked. She discussed her life, exs, and she told me what she is looking for - casual sex with someone she likes (me??). I can barely resist her- she’s definitely my type and so cute and we can talk intimately for hours getting to know each other. I want to bring her lips to mine meeting softly and slowly while I softly grip her head with one hand. But am I missing something? I have no experience with older women. I fear that she’ll break my heart in the beginning or ill breaks hers later down th...

I'll pop on to add: they don't have to understand exactly what it is. But being open minded and respecting your identity and your story is key. I told mine and she just hopped on board, I know she doesn't know much about the spectrum and I'm not Aro (demi) but, she was completely validating in the struggle of trying to date when my identity doesn't and won't involve sex in a world that seems to only think of and prioritize sex. Best of luck looking for a new, appropriate, and helpful therapist. September 24, 2021 at 11:36PM

You're right. Because the majority of the lgtbq is not hetero or straight, many decided to make those people at fault of their discrimination or problems even when it's not even a half of the norm the ones who cause trouble, nor the ones who caused it to them in first place. It's all personal. There is a line that was traced in those terms even when it pushes out other hetero asexual or trans/non binary straight people out of the lgtbq and makes the division between both parts worse. People simply don't care enough to think about that and somehow is ok because you can't care about everyone. But if they really say they fight for equality they should at least acknowledge it. It's an issue for asexual people, for trans people and for everyone in the long term. If someone is hetero/straight it seems they can't have an opinion or they are somewhat considered the opressors even when a considerable part of the lgtbq hasn't really faced that oppression themse...

I don't know if it does, but I feel like it should be out there somewhere? September 24, 2021 at 11:35PM

Big spoon always when cuddling with friends but both is fine by me with a romantic partner. I have no idea why. Its just a weird comfort thing. September 24, 2021 at 11:34PM

I have en edgy-ish esthetic and had it even before I was ace, no clue to why so many other aces also have this style September 24, 2021 at 11:34PM