Remember whatever someone you are interested in tries to ‘pick up on’ could merely be their own insecurity and not necessarily a bad trait about you.

I’ve come to realise over my experiences of talking with certain women that if they speak up about a certain behaviour or situation in your life that they are concerned of or want to ask about usually it’s because it’s something they are insecure about themselves.

While red flags are real and can be glaring, and while we can all have negative traits to work on, do not confuse insecurity with a negative trait.

Some people will project something you are ‘doing’ that they consider bad for a relationship onto you; think why they would pick up on it.

It’s very likely more to do with the fact that they’re experiencing those issues and battles in their own lives, hence why they’re able to pick up on it in the first place. One of the most obvious examples of this is money. If a persons first question to you is about money, it is likely because they have little of it themselves; not because you don’t.

Be wary of those that always pick up on negatives about you. It’s usually not them picking up on negatives; but more of what they are insecure about and why they would not continue to date you and further a relationship with you. Or an excuse to get out of the awkwardness of their disinterest in you altogether.

All their loss.

Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:05AM

I’ve come to realise over my experiences of talking with certain women that if they speak up about a certain behaviour or situation in your life that they are concerned of or want to ask about usually it’s because it’s something they are insecure about themselves.While red flags are real and can be glaring, and while we can all have negative traits to work on, do not confuse insecurity with a negative trait.Some people will project something you are ‘doing’ that they consider bad for a relationship onto you; think why they would pick up on it.It’s very likely more to do with the fact that they’re experiencing those issues and battles in their own lives, hence why they’re able to pick up on it in the first place. One of the most obvious examples of this is money. If a persons first question to you is about money, it is likely because they have little of it themselves; not because you don’t.Be wary of those that always pick up on negatives about you. It’s usually not them picking up on negatives; but more of what they are insecure about and why they would not continue to date you and further a relationship with you. Or an excuse to get out of the awkwardness of their disinterest in you altogether.All their loss.