She asked if I’ve been mini golf/movies/bowling with female friends before and I said yes. She asked if I would continue to do that once we’ve started dating and it made me wonder, I said no I wouldn’t because I’d do those with her or if I was maybe to do it in groups etc. She then said I am essentially dating these girl friends of mine to which I said no because I’ve spoke to them and said I’m not looking to date etc. I wondered what opinions you hold towards this? Should I generally not do these activities with women if I’m to not do them when dating? I don’t pay for the times I meet up with these friends, and before we become friends I tend to tell them I’m not looking to date/have a relationship. Submitted December 04, 2022 at 01:07AM She asked if I’ve been mini golf/movies/bowling with female friends before and I said yes. She asked if I would continue to do that once we’ve started dating and it made me wonder, I said no I wouldn’t because I’d do those with her or if I w...

undoubtedly yes December 04, 2022 at 12:11AM

Good on everyone who read this and gave advice. Y'all are great, thanks. December 04, 2022 at 12:07AM

I work part time temporarily while taking classes, and my coworker is a couple years older than me. So please dont tell me not to date coworkers or anything because this is not a career job - I will be leaving soon. Im really into her , and shes been taking the initiative to text me FIRST, multiple times now. At work she talks to me a good amount. Its a retail job - sometimes she even has me follow her to help customers with her(so theres two of us helping one customer lol). Sometimes she kicks me, throws things at me, or makes jokes with me. sometimes elbows me too when I say something funny. One time she took a chair from me and used it for herself, then took anothr chair and put it next to her. Like she wanted me to sit next to her. So idk. Ive been dropping some hints, and shes been responding to me with emojis, using my name in many texts (sometimes even my full name). She repeats my name a lot in texts - and I repeat hers too. I mentioned how its better when shes there at work...

The issue here, overall, is that Aros, especally in the Western world and America, have a "true love" in their head that is believed to be a mixture of all attractions at a 10 (regardless of changes in personality, physical apperence, age or other factors), willing to sacrifice for your partner (to the point of abuse a lot of times honestly if romcoms/love stories are anything to go by), and the "perfect" life. Because aces and arose do not fit into the fantasy of "true love" by nature, they are demonized. I've seen people say its to be with a person who cheats and/or verbally abuses you then someone who doesn't "love" you. I would argue that "love" differs person to person and attraction to attraction. I'd say if they are with thier partner they do likely love them in someway, but it isn't "true love"/the fantasy of the world that their is one true soul mate and thus its "wrong". It's not jus...

Lots of the LGBTQ community doesn't take acespec seriously so I think the feeling is mutual. December 03, 2022 at 11:18PM