TL;DR; : I've been with my wife for a long time and love her deeply but am terrified to share with her that sometimes have bisexual fantasies. How do I come to grips with myself and share with her while causing her the lease amount of pain? When I[m] was young I experimented sexually with a friend[m]. My memories of it were of innocent exploration. Finding out of what felt good to ourselves and making each other feel good. It involved mutually masturbating and some oral too. It eventually stopped. My friend and I went to separate schools and didn't see each other often anymore. I never developed a trust level deep enough to experiment with a guy friend of mine like that again. At some point I read in a book that what I had done was okay, that actually it was quite common, and that it didn't indicate one way or the other if I was gay or bi or straight. I took that perspective to heart because in my family it became clear over time that being gay meant something was wron...

Hello! TLDR will be at the bottom. ​ So, my step dad has been around most of my life. Him and my mom met when I was three. When I was younger, it was fine, however we no longer even co-exist anymore. I have to spend more and more time away from home because being around him and feeling unsafe is becoming more and more common. I also have had a lot of feelings come up lately about him and as a result, am in the process of finding a psychologist. My previous psychologist shut down her practice. ​ A memory came up recently and it triggered a very different mindset about my home situation. My mom stayed with someone who she thought would hit me. She would never let him do it (one time he just about elevated, but she stepped in), but knowing that she chose to stay with him even with the risk kind of puts a damper on our relationship. I have been thinking about this a lot lately. ​ His treatment of me has been pretty abysmal. When my sister (his daughter) was born, it was like a switc...

Tl;dr : my grandma accused my mum of stealing money (she didn’t), and now they’re not talking. My grandpa has broken his hip and will need my mum’s support to be able to stay at home with grandma. I am planning on going to their house to set the record straight and tell grandma she has to let my mum back in so she can support grandpa. ​ Some background on my grandparents: they are quite old and frail and have been for most of my life. She has rheumatoid arthritis and is frequently in a lot of pain, and he has dementia (he’s otherwise quite independent and looks after my grandma fairly well). I’ve never been really close to them, but my mum has always had a good relationship with her parents (at least as an adult – they had a much less positive relationship when she was young). ​ Ever since my great aunt (grandma’s sister) died a few years ago, my mum has been giving her parents some support with financial stuff (they are decently affluent, but got into a situation where they weren...

So I’m 14 (M) and I met this girl at a summer camp two weeks ago. So anyway I’m into her and the camps ending tomorrow and I want to ask her out, but I’m not sure if that’s weird given the short time frame we’ve known each other and the fact that we’re going to different high schools. I am certain that she doesn’t have a boyfriend, and we’ve talked a fair bit over the two weeks. I’m probably overthinking the shit out of it but whatever, is it gonna be weird if I ask her out? ​ TL;DR: Only known a girl for two weeks, not sure if it's weird to ask her out. Submitted June 27, 2019 at 11:49PM So I’m 14 (M) and I met this girl at a summer camp two weeks ago. So anyway I’m into her and the camps ending tomorrow and I want to ask her out, but I’m not sure if that’s weird given the short time frame we’ve known each other and the fact that we’re going to different high schools. I am certain that she doesn’t have a boyfriend, and we’ve talked a fair bit over the two weeks. I’m proba...

It’s been over 4 years since I {M21} became friends with two strangers (wich we didn’t know the age, gender, Nationality of each other for the first 4 months) from London{F22} and Cairo{F16}, we had the same humor and got along very well. Over the time L became like somewhat an protective older sister towards C. For L I was more like a very good friend... but C, it was pretty clear for L and me she liked me more then just a best friend. C and I are literally soulmates, She is the most adorable Girl I have ever met, she’s someone I just want to protect at all cost, she is so innocent (tho she says it isn’t true trying to prove me wrong but just proofing my point) for years I tried to force myself to look at her more like a litte sister. But about 1 1/2 years ago she literally confessed to me that she loves me but I probably see her just as a friend and this may make it awkward between us but she just had to get it off her heart... so I just let all my feelings out too, that everythin...

Hello, I wanted some advice for how to best address this situation. Some background, I had a housewarming party about a week ago where I invited a lot of my friends as well as my younger brother. He’s my best friend and he just moved into my city so he came and helped set up before the party. My friend also came a little early before the party started, and so it was a few of us hanging out before more people showed up. Immediately I knew she was flirting with him, it was fairly obvious. And I love my friend, I do, but she does not know how to flirt well. It is very “high school.” She was giggling, flipping her hair, and talking about how he must be “so strong” because he was in the military. I was mortified for her and him, and I had no idea what to do. I ended up greeting more people who showed up, but I silently checked with my bro that he was ok, he gave me that head nod that everything was fine. I came back and he was then outside by the grill and my friend was in the living ro...

Hi reddit! ​ So I apologize in advance for sucking you into my (17M) teenage drama, it's just that I'm not out of the closet to my parents and don't talk to them about relationship issues since I'm not close to them. So basically, I have no one to talk to about these kinds of things. Currently, I am studying abroad in Spain which I am grateful for. I arrived this past Saturday. I met this guy, let's call him Adam (18M). Adam is eighteen and moving to New England, where I live, for school. Adam and I hit it off instantly. We have similar personalities and can talk for hours. He's one of the kindest people I have ever met. Quite frankly, I have never fallen so hard for someone or been this infatuated, especially someone I have only known for three/four days. Many of our mutual friends told me that he was flirting with me, he's very touchy with me, and he even sent me the heart emojis a few times when we texted. Also, I had to go to the hospital a few days a...

I met her a little over three years ago. I had just finished post-grad and was job hunting nationally, she had just gotten out of a very serious long-distance relationship. As a result, neither one of us were looking for anything serious. However, the first month we dated was like a fairy tale, and I fell for her quickly. About a month in, she breaks the news that she is so averse to commitment that she isn’t even willing to date anyone exclusively, and has been seeing another guy. I believe she and I met first so it was around the same month length. I didn’t take this well. I told her I had no interest in sharing, so unless she was willing to break it off with Other Dude, I was out. She hates ultimatums and put her defenses up. We argued for a day or two. Naturally, a few days later I got a job offer in fly-over country and took it. I figured since I was leaving anyway, let’s just make the best of the last month. We made an uneasy truce and thankfully the last month was even better...

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. He confided in me very early on in the relationship that he's struggled with severe depression in the past and sought therapy and the like to overcome it, but he sometimes still goes through a depressive cycle every now and again. ​ I have never dealt with mental illness myself (and consider myself very lucky for that). When he enters these depressive cycles, the only thing i know how to do is to support him, let him vent, and try to remain as positive as possible. Recently, he doesn't seem to be coming out of these cycles as well and what I've done in the past to help is not cutting it anymore. I keep telling him that he needs to help me help him and have suggested seeking therapy again. ​ He seems to be in such a horrible state recently that all of these attempts to help are being met with negativity and anger. Every time I try to talk to him about concerns or potential solutions, he believes I'm blaming...

I am going through a old phone and saw I had a few left over notes and thought this would be cool / good to share in case others out there feel this way or need help expressing them selves to their significant other. I was in this relationship for a little longer then 3 years. I feel alone mentally and physically I don't feel loved I feel like I can't talk to you I feel like you are my old self You never fight for my love , leaving me with the feeling that you don't really love me at all You give up so easy and walk away so easy, again that feels like you don't really understand or love me You say I don't do anything for you and it truly kills me inside You talk about leaving me and that truly kills me inside We don't agree on politics at all and because of that we can only fight about it We don't agree on religion and as much as that normally doesn't bother me I feel like you are always changing it and not just true to yourself, I don't ...

Just to preface this, it is a me issue, my boyfriend has done nothing wrong and I realize this is an issue I have stemming from insecurities and past issues and I am looking for advice on how to help myself with this issue. We’ve been dating for almost 6 months now and I’ve met some of his friends. He has some female friends that I get jealous of. One in particular. I know the jealously is stemming from my insecurities and I completely trust my boyfriend. I think what really made me jealous though is he once mentioned that she used to have a “crush” on him. I know he didn’t mean to make me jealous or anything because it was part of a story he was telling me. I am one of his first serious girlfriends so I know he didn’t think about it before saying it and I don’t want him to feel like he has to be careful of what he says around me. I just would like some advice on how to handle my jealousy without creating a problem for me or my boyfriend. TL;DR! I am jealous of my boyfriends female ...

To start off, i am really worried about my friend. She has severe anxiety and depression that have been further augmented by her situation. Her mother is incredibly overbearing and overprotective. For an unknown reason, she has taken an interest in me. Creepily so. She wants my friend and I to be together and eventually have kids and the like. Neither of us, as far as i can tell, have any interest in this. As i said earlier, she is extremely overprotective of my friend. The only friend her mother permitted her to have contact with during the summer was me. She decided to talk to someone other than me and her mother found out. Now she has no way of contacting her friends except for me and that still goes through her mother. I haven't voiced any concerns or at all questioned the Mother's relationship for fear of damaging her trust because i believe that i need to do everything I can to be there for my friend. As far as i know, there is no physical abuse. But i would definitely c...

Now, I know this might seem really insignificant. If it is, feel free to let me know - I won't take it harshly. I just want someone else's opinion on whether this is an issue or not. So my boyfriend of 1 year went to a concert with his sister a few months ago to see our favorite band of all time. He briefly told me his sister may be getting tickets, and he wants to go. Afterwards I asked if he ended up getting them, and he did. His family is pretty well off, much better than I am and they pretty much paid for everything for him. (For backstory, I have a horribly abusive dad and when I was 15 we got out. My mom got a new boyfriend a year ago and since wants nothing to do with me, so I pay for everything myself with my part-time job while in high school and saving for college next year. Needless to say, I have basically no family and I don't have much money for fun things; the tickets to see this band were about $700 each.) He knows i've never been to a concert before, ...

It never ceases to baffle me that talking about things being better than sex is supposed to be ironic. June 28, 2019 at 12:12AM

Thanks for your reply! I guess i should get the anxiety sorted and then see what happens June 28, 2019 at 12:12AM

Well that went from 0 to 100 in a femtosecond. I'm really sorry that happened to you <3 June 28, 2019 at 12:10AM

Sounds like anxiety to me but I'm no professional on relationships, but anxiety is something I struggle with daily and it sounds like anxiety to me. But you can never really know until you see how things turn out. June 28, 2019 at 12:09AM

I’m really trouble by something and I think I really need others’ opinion on it. The fact is that I can’t stop thinking about a girl. At first sight, it doesn’t seem like an issue. However one year has passed since I think strongly about her. And it’s not the only issues, because I don’t know her and she’s married. Two year ago, I read an article about her. She managed to be elected and, as someone interested in politics, I think I admire her (and maybe power is sexy, don’t know). The fact is when I looked at her I clearly fell in love with her physique. She’s not amazing : most of her pictures aren’t that good. However on some of them she was definitely beautiful and I think I give a face to what attract me in a woman. She has beautiful blue eyes, a great smile, she’s mostly thin, elegant, charming. Girls of my age generally have no charm : they dressed badly and look like little girls or mean girls. Generally politicians aren’t young and I’m more interested in older women, but here...

TL;DR; : I've been with my wife for a long time and love her deeply but am terrified to share with her that sometimes have bisexual fantasies. How do I come to grips with myself and share with her while causing her the lease amount of pain? When I[m] was young I experimented sexually with a friend[m]. My memories of it were of innocent exploration. Finding out of what felt good to ourselves and making each other feel good. It involved mutually masturbating and some oral too. It eventually stopped. My friend and I went to separate schools and didn't see each other often anymore. I never developed a trust level deep enough to experiment with a guy friend of mine like that again. At some point I read in a book that what I had done was okay, that actually it was quite common, and that it didn't indicate one way or the other if I was gay or bi or straight. I took that perspective to heart because in my family it became clear over time that being gay meant something was wron...

I will look into it, much appreciated! June 28, 2019 at 12:07AM

You could also be greysexual, which is not experiencing attraction often June 28, 2019 at 12:05AM

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Aww thank you. <3 June 28, 2019 at 12:00AM