My [17F] boyfriend [18M] is going to another concert for one of our favorite artists without me, I can't afford to go

Now, I know this might seem really insignificant. If it is, feel free to let me know - I won't take it harshly. I just want someone else's opinion on whether this is an issue or not.

So my boyfriend of 1 year went to a concert with his sister a few months ago to see our favorite band of all time. He briefly told me his sister may be getting tickets, and he wants to go. Afterwards I asked if he ended up getting them, and he did. His family is pretty well off, much better than I am and they pretty much paid for everything for him. (For backstory, I have a horribly abusive dad and when I was 15 we got out. My mom got a new boyfriend a year ago and since wants nothing to do with me, so I pay for everything myself with my part-time job while in high school and saving for college next year. Needless to say, I have basically no family and I don't have much money for fun things; the tickets to see this band were about $700 each.) He knows i've never been to a concert before, and that it's my favorite band.

Anyway, he had to drive about 15 hours to see said artist (his parents drove them down, parents paid for gas, hotel and everything) and I really tried to be happy for him. I felt like I was missing out and had to face the realization that I'll probably never have the money to do anything like that. But nevertheless, I stayed really positive and encouraged him to have fun the whole time.

Flash forward to now, he has been talking about saving up for a Disneyland trip for next year. For him it would be easy, and I would have to save up a lot but it's something he really wanted to do together, so I was hopeful and told him I could try. Last week he started reconsidering, saying it would be too expensive for him and he didn't wanna miss any classes, etc. I'm like "cool, I understand, if you can't do it no big deal, we can plan for a later time." Turns out he got tickets to go with our mutual friends to an Elton John concert, another one of our favorite artists, instead.

I talked to him and told him I was a little upset. I brought up the concert from a few months ago and how it feels pretty unfair he keeps going to these things knowing I want to, but also knowing I can't afford to go with him. We talked about it for a while and he said he wishes he could do something about it but he can't. He's still going to the concert.

So, am I overreacting about this? Do I just have to deal with "being dealt a bad hand in life" or whatever? Or is it a legitimate concern? Thanks for reading, y'all.

TL;DR: Boyfriend keeps going to concerts for our favorite artists without me knowing I can't afford to go.

Submitted June 28, 2019 at 12:16AM

Now, I know this might seem really insignificant. If it is, feel free to let me know - I won't take it harshly. I just want someone else's opinion on whether this is an issue or not.So my boyfriend of 1 year went to a concert with his sister a few months ago to see our favorite band of all time. He briefly told me his sister may be getting tickets, and he wants to go. Afterwards I asked if he ended up getting them, and he did. His family is pretty well off, much better than I am and they pretty much paid for everything for him. (For backstory, I have a horribly abusive dad and when I was 15 we got out. My mom got a new boyfriend a year ago and since wants nothing to do with me, so I pay for everything myself with my part-time job while in high school and saving for college next year. Needless to say, I have basically no family and I don't have much money for fun things; the tickets to see this band were about $700 each.) He knows i've never been to a concert before, and that it's my favorite band.Anyway, he had to drive about 15 hours to see said artist (his parents drove them down, parents paid for gas, hotel and everything) and I really tried to be happy for him. I felt like I was missing out and had to face the realization that I'll probably never have the money to do anything like that. But nevertheless, I stayed really positive and encouraged him to have fun the whole time.Flash forward to now, he has been talking about saving up for a Disneyland trip for next year. For him it would be easy, and I would have to save up a lot but it's something he really wanted to do together, so I was hopeful and told him I could try. Last week he started reconsidering, saying it would be too expensive for him and he didn't wanna miss any classes, etc. I'm like "cool, I understand, if you can't do it no big deal, we can plan for a later time." Turns out he got tickets to go with our mutual friends to an Elton John concert, another one of our favorite artists, instead.I talked to him and told him I was a little upset. I brought up the concert from a few months ago and how it feels pretty unfair he keeps going to these things knowing I want to, but also knowing I can't afford to go with him. We talked about it for a while and he said he wishes he could do something about it but he can't. He's still going to the concert.So, am I overreacting about this? Do I just have to deal with "being dealt a bad hand in life" or whatever? Or is it a legitimate concern? Thanks for reading, y'all.TL;DR: Boyfriend keeps going to concerts for our favorite artists without me knowing I can't afford to go.