I {M21} don’t know anymore what I should do about this complicated situation.

It’s been over 4 years since I {M21} became friends with two strangers (wich we didn’t know the age, gender, Nationality of each other for the first 4 months) from London{F22} and Cairo{F16}, we had the same humor and got along very well.

Over the time L became like somewhat an protective older sister towards C. For L I was more like a very good friend... but C, it was pretty clear for L and me she liked me more then just a best friend. C and I are literally soulmates, She is the most adorable Girl I have ever met, she’s someone I just want to protect at all cost, she is so innocent (tho she says it isn’t true trying to prove me wrong but just proofing my point) for years I tried to force myself to look at her more like a litte sister.

But about 1 1/2 years ago she literally confessed to me that she loves me but I probably see her just as a friend and this may make it awkward between us but she just had to get it off her heart... so I just let all my feelings out too, that everything I said every compliment wasn’t just me being nice or me trying to make her feel better, that everything I said was my honest views. Literally trying to hold in my tears while I poured out my heart, as C was crying of joy and surprise. (L literally having her own party because she was waiting for this to happen for forever)

... tho there’s the problems... she is a Muslim living in a very Muslim (tho not as extreme Religious) family, (wich I personally haven’t really a problem with) but I am a Swiss grown up as a Evangelical-Protestant Christian (tho my beliefs are more Apatheistic aka I don’t really care if there’s a god or not) wich is 5 years older then her. Her parents are very protective of her and even after they found out that I am male (tho To extreme i can understand why) and not Muslim, forced her to break up every contact with me (which she did for 3 days until she made her parents believe she actually did it) her Twin sister, friends and Cousins literally are 100% ok whit me. Knowing they will never accept it we are still just friends. (Just being overly cutesy whit each other)

{and to take away the worries some might have gotten, no there’s nothing sexual or something like that going on in the slightest due to her being to innocent to even actually consider that and me being well aware that she is still underaged and me not being the type of guy who is interested in such kind of things}

TL;DR : I know she actually suffers from this situation but she would get even more hurt if I stopped talking to her. Still... i will do anything to keep her happy and I would do anything to be at her side... tho I don’t want her to get problems with her family, because I know they are good parents and she loves them very much.

I have no idea anymore how to improve this situation. What are your thoughts about it?



Submitted June 27, 2019 at 11:49PM

It’s been over 4 years since I {M21} became friends with two strangers (wich we didn’t know the age, gender, Nationality of each other for the first 4 months) from London{F22} and Cairo{F16}, we had the same humor and got along very well.Over the time L became like somewhat an protective older sister towards C. For L I was more like a very good friend... but C, it was pretty clear for L and me she liked me more then just a best friend. C and I are literally soulmates, She is the most adorable Girl I have ever met, she’s someone I just want to protect at all cost, she is so innocent (tho she says it isn’t true trying to prove me wrong but just proofing my point) for years I tried to force myself to look at her more like a litte sister.But about 1 1/2 years ago she literally confessed to me that she loves me but I probably see her just as a friend and this may make it awkward between us but she just had to get it off her heart... so I just let all my feelings out too, that everything I said every compliment wasn’t just me being nice or me trying to make her feel better, that everything I said was my honest views. Literally trying to hold in my tears while I poured out my heart, as C was crying of joy and surprise. (L literally having her own party because she was waiting for this to happen for forever)... tho there’s the problems... she is a Muslim living in a very Muslim (tho not as extreme Religious) family, (wich I personally haven’t really a problem with) but I am a Swiss grown up as a Evangelical-Protestant Christian (tho my beliefs are more Apatheistic aka I don’t really care if there’s a god or not) wich is 5 years older then her. Her parents are very protective of her and even after they found out that I am male (tho To extreme i can understand why) and not Muslim, forced her to break up every contact with me (which she did for 3 days until she made her parents believe she actually did it) her Twin sister, friends and Cousins literally are 100% ok whit me. Knowing they will never accept it we are still just friends. (Just being overly cutesy whit each other){and to take away the worries some might have gotten, no there’s nothing sexual or something like that going on in the slightest due to her being to innocent to even actually consider that and me being well aware that she is still underaged and me not being the type of guy who is interested in such kind of things}TL;DR : I know she actually suffers from this situation but she would get even more hurt if I stopped talking to her. Still... i will do anything to keep her happy and I would do anything to be at her side... tho I don’t want her to get problems with her family, because I know they are good parents and she loves them very much.I have no idea anymore how to improve this situation. What are your thoughts about it?
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