Are my (17M) feelings justified over another guy (18M)

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So I apologize in advance for sucking you into my (17M) teenage drama, it's just that I'm not out of the closet to my parents and don't talk to them about relationship issues since I'm not close to them. So basically, I have no one to talk to about these kinds of things. Currently, I am studying abroad in Spain which I am grateful for. I arrived this past Saturday. I met this guy, let's call him Adam (18M). Adam is eighteen and moving to New England, where I live, for school. Adam and I hit it off instantly. We have similar personalities and can talk for hours. He's one of the kindest people I have ever met. Quite frankly, I have never fallen so hard for someone or been this infatuated, especially someone I have only known for three/four days. Many of our mutual friends told me that he was flirting with me, he's very touchy with me, and he even sent me the heart emojis a few times when we texted. Also, I had to go to the hospital a few days ago for food poisoning and he was talking about sending me a "get-well" package and was incredibly worried.

Today, I texted him asking if he was gay/bi. I assumed that he was and I wanted to ask him out. I was crushed when he replied saying he was straight. I understand that he can't change that and I am not trying to shame him for that by any means. I feel so crushed because it has been over five years since I've felt such strong feelings for someone and I feel a bit lead-on by him which makes me feel hurt. I'm having this tendency to blame myself for what happened. I feel depressed beyond repair. It's been so difficult for me to hide my melancholy feelings and pretend to be happy when we hang out and I have to put on an act which is killing me to the point where I just want to avoid everyone.

How do I deal with this? Are my feelings justified or am I being immature and should suck it up?

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TL;DR: I feel really connected to a boy– more than ever in my life. I kept thinking he's flirting with me. I got my hopes up and wanted to ask him out. Turns out he's straight and I'm absolutely crushed.



Submitted June 27, 2019 at 11:50PM

Hi reddit!​So I apologize in advance for sucking you into my (17M) teenage drama, it's just that I'm not out of the closet to my parents and don't talk to them about relationship issues since I'm not close to them. So basically, I have no one to talk to about these kinds of things. Currently, I am studying abroad in Spain which I am grateful for. I arrived this past Saturday. I met this guy, let's call him Adam (18M). Adam is eighteen and moving to New England, where I live, for school. Adam and I hit it off instantly. We have similar personalities and can talk for hours. He's one of the kindest people I have ever met. Quite frankly, I have never fallen so hard for someone or been this infatuated, especially someone I have only known for three/four days. Many of our mutual friends told me that he was flirting with me, he's very touchy with me, and he even sent me the heart emojis a few times when we texted. Also, I had to go to the hospital a few days ago for food poisoning and he was talking about sending me a "get-well" package and was incredibly worried.Today, I texted him asking if he was gay/bi. I assumed that he was and I wanted to ask him out. I was crushed when he replied saying he was straight. I understand that he can't change that and I am not trying to shame him for that by any means. I feel so crushed because it has been over five years since I've felt such strong feelings for someone and I feel a bit lead-on by him which makes me feel hurt. I'm having this tendency to blame myself for what happened. I feel depressed beyond repair. It's been so difficult for me to hide my melancholy feelings and pretend to be happy when we hang out and I have to put on an act which is killing me to the point where I just want to avoid everyone.How do I deal with this? Are my feelings justified or am I being immature and should suck it up?​TL;DR: I feel really connected to a boy– more than ever in my life. I kept thinking he's flirting with me. I got my hopes up and wanted to ask him out. Turns out he's straight and I'm absolutely crushed.
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