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Confusing signals and insecure about if she likes me back

So there is a girl from school that I like. Here is the whole story, without to much detail to stay anonymous So our first real interaction was after a couple of months when we were in the same class. We just mixed in like everybody else did and sort of became friends. So we talked a couple times, joked around. Just like everyone else did. So a few weeks later there was a house party en everyone would stay over. So I tried to interact with her a lot that evening, just talking and joking around. So she then jokingly said out of the blue, how much would you pay me to suck you dick. And I am just like uhhmmm a 100. Not a very clear response back So everyone a bit drunk went to bed. I took a bed, and she joined. So I was like ‘nicee’. Butt a other dude came in the room and jumped in the bed and just wouldn’t leave. But she insisted to let me sleep in the middle. So we are laying there just talking a bit. And she asks, how big is your dick, and I say like ... inches. And she reacts like...

[26M] Looking for New Ideas & Dating Advice

Hi all, I'm a 26 year old guy with a great sales job and a great network of friends. I'm not awkward at all, very social and very confident with myself. However, it's been over 10 years since I've had a relationship and secretly, I'm very lonely. My upbringing was rough, and I had to grow up too quickly. I had to deal with alot of things that a pre-teen / teenager shouldn't have to deal with. All my friends (men & women) tell me that I'm not going to find a girl younger than 35 who is at my maturity level. While I appreciate the compliment, I also don't want to accept that. I feel robbed of my childhood and more than anything, I want to reclaim that by dating someone my age. So a couple years ago, I swallowed my pride and started to do things like online dating apps (5-6) and responding to personal ads on Reddit. Both have been resounding failures. I understand rejection is a part of life, and I have a good professional perspective on that due t...

Am I overthinking? Dating advice

I went on a date with this guy who’s in med school and it went amazing. At the end of the date he asked me when he could see me again, and we said two weeks. It’s only been a few days since the date but he does this thing where he won’t respond to my messages until hours later, despite posting things on his social media often. Am I tripping and just chill out or should I know that he’s probably interested just not that much? Or is it just that he’s probably busy and can’t keep up a convo at the moment . Submitted February 17, 2020 at 11:59PM I went on a date with this guy who’s in med school and it went amazing. At the end of the date he asked me when he could see me again, and we said two weeks. It’s only been a few days since the date but he does this thing where he won’t respond to my messages until hours later, despite posting things on his social media often. Am I tripping and just chill out or should I know that he’s probably interested just not that much? Or is it just th...

What am I (24f) doing so wrong that no man ever seems interested in me?

I am a 24 year old female (as seen from my title haha). I have never been asked out and as a result, I’m a kissless virgin in my mid-20s, which is something that I have grown to be very embarrassed about (even my conservative family members make fun of me for it). I have read a lot of other threads on Reddit where the OP is in a similar position as me, and top answers are always something along the lines of, “Guys are shy, especially around attractive women, just go make the first move!!” I really hoped that would be the case for me, but I am quickly learning that if a guy acts “shy”, in many cases he may just not be interested. I learned that in my early 20s while asking out guys who acted “shy” and aloof around me, and getting rejected cuz they could probably tell I liked them, which resulted in them acting like that around me. Even then, I tried not to let that discourage me, and I kept trying to approach guys that I thought were cute and were around my age. Please note that by ...

Asking a girl I just met out

Hey all, I want to ask out a girl I met for the first time this weekend. We had followed eachother a few weeks ago on social media and I got hyped up by two of my female friends to DM her out of the blue, having not met. She said she was busy on the day I proposed initially, I offered another day that might work better, and she said she was really busy that day too with classes and labs. I left it in her court if she wanted to get coffee sometime. I know I messed up with DMing her out of the blue before we officially met, but I'm wondering what the ladies out there think of me possibly asking her out in person, and saying something about not putting my best foot forward before? Better left as it sits? Btw: when we met over the weekend, we were in a group of mutual friends and I introduced myself and we joked around a bit and I helped her carry things to her car since the group she was staying with for the weekend was packing up to head back to school. (We go to the same univer...

Went on first date with tentative second date

Hi all, Went on a date with someone I knew years ago in HS. We matched on Tinder (said he had always had a crush on me).. Texted for a day or so and set up a date. Once setting up the date we did not text all week. Date was great, laughed a lot. Meaningful conversation. Felt nice to catch up on life after not seeing each other for a while. Lasted about 4 hours and 4 rounds of drinks. No kiss - but I just feel like the timing wasn't right because we were just re-getting to know each other. On my way home he texted and told me to let him know when I got home safe. I texted him, told him i was home, had a great time and that drinks were on me next time! He said "sooooo you're saying next time is a thing?" I said umm yeahhh (being cute). He said sounds good with me and told me this time it was my pick (he picked first date). I picked the place and asked him what day worked for him.. He said "tentatively Thursday". Today is Monday - our tentative date is T...

I think our first kiss ruined it

Okay guys, I’ve (m23) been dating this girl(f22) for a couple of weeks. We’ve been on two dates before, and they’ve been super great. She’s seemed very very into me, and have been writing to me everyday in Snapchat etc. so for our third date she invited me over. I’m a shy guy, and have had some serious issues with approaching romantic situations before. But after experience I’ve gotten better. I’m still not super confident on taking some steps, but I always do after some time. We laughed, ate and talked the whole evening. After two hours I started making out with her. To be fair to me, I’m not an inexperienced kisser. Ive had bad kisses and good ones. And this was horrible. I’ve made out with lots of girls before and they have never been awkward or bad. But we were completely out of sync. She immediately pushed her tounge in, while I tried to kiss her a bit. And then I tried to match her movements but the she switched. And she kept biting my lip, which can be hot but not constantly. ...

Dating app users, why do you message infrequently but still keep a convo going?

Over the years, I’ve had matches that would exchange a few messages and stop responding. I figured the conversation fizzled out, and they lost interest, and usually that’s how it be on dating apps. But sometimes a match (women for me, but this could apply to either gender), would hit me up the next day or the day after with one or two messages. My question is, why? At this point the convo has lost momentum, and I feel like both myself and the other person don’t really have interest any more. Is it because they’re bored? I find it annoying sometimes because then I become unsure if they are interested or not. Submitted February 18, 2020 at 12:16AM Over the years, I’ve had matches that would exchange a few messages and stop responding. I figured the conversation fizzled out, and they lost interest, and usually that’s how it be on dating apps.But sometimes a match (women for me, but this could apply to either gender), would hit me up the next day or the day after with one or two ...

Girl [20F] I’m interested in, who I [24M] just met, put me on her close friends list on ig. Idk if this means anything or what?

So I have no idea where to post this so maybe this sub is not even the appropriate place, but it’s the best I could think of. I’m on my last year of university and I’m a transfer student who is a bit older than the other students (I’m 24, about to 25 in a few months while the average age of students seems to be 19-21). Although you may think it’s not a huge age gap, I still feel out of touch with some of the behaviors of the girls I meet, who are a couple years younger than me, particularly when it comes to social media. I met this girl last week and i thought she was decently cute, she seemed like she may have been interested in me judging from her behavior and nonverbals. We followed each other on ig and just today went she posted a story I noticed it had a green ring around it, which meant I was on her close friends list. Is this something that some people just do with everyone? She has a decent amount of followers. I’ve never put anyone on my close friends list, but I have noticed...

I (18F) am crushing on my employer (38M)

After replying to an ad for a job, I got an e-mail back. This week we are meeting for an interview and from his Linkin profile he so my type. What do I do?? Do I try to seduce him when we meet for our interview, or just sublet flirting? Please help!! Submitted February 18, 2020 at 12:22AM After replying to an ad for a job, I got an e-mail back. This week we are meeting for an interview and from his Linkin profile he so my type.What do I do?? Do I try to seduce him when we meet for our interview, or just sublet flirting?Please help!!

Birthday ideas for a girl I've only very recently started dating?

I[M24] asked out a girl[F25] on valentines day, and we're very much into each other. As it turns out, her birthday is this Wednesday. I was thinking of getting her something not too expensive, like a skin care package with a letter inside, flowers, followed by dinner + movie. Now, the thing is that while she did say she's wants to be in a relationship with me, she wants some time for closure for her previous relationship. I said she could take as long as she likes, but we act like significant others all the time, like making out every time we meet. So, in summary, because I've only been dating her recently, I'm a bit lost on how much I should do for her. I'm thinking I should "act" like she's already my girlfriend, and treat her as such. Thoughts? Submitted February 18, 2020 at 12:25AM I[M24] asked out a girl[F25] on valentines day, and we're very much into each other. As it turns out, her birthday is this Wednesday. I was thinking of gett...

Should you tell a new girl you lost your nerve last time you were on a bed together so you didn't go for any intimacy?

She said something like "we're not doing anything are we" when we got on the bed and I lost my nerve and said "we're not doing anything" even though I wanted to. Next time we meet, should I tell her that I lost my nerve last time and I actually was interested? Or does this just look weak? Submitted February 18, 2020 at 12:29AM She said something like "we're not doing anything are we" when we got on the bed and I lost my nerve and said "we're not doing anything" even though I wanted to.Next time we meet, should I tell her that I lost my nerve last time and I actually was interested? Or does this just look weak?

[Update] I think he’s flirting with me but he has a girlfriend

So I posted this a month and a half ago “This guy from my school started snap chatting me and at first I just went along with it, not thinking too much about it. But for over 3 months we have been snapping every day and snapping a lot and became #1 best friends on snap (which is a really big deal). Thing is, he has a girlfriend and idk what he’s trying to do with me and I’m not trying to be a home wrecker either. He also told me that he would hookup with me if he didn’t have a girl... so like I said idk what’s going on in his head. Thanks” But now him and his girlfriend have broken up and we have been #1 mutual best friends consecutively for about a month. We’ve hooked up a couple times after I found out they broke up and I feel like I like him but I don’t know how he feels. I asked what we were doing and he just said “I don’t know” and asked what I wanted. At first I was like I don’t know either but finally I was like “well do you wanna date” and his response was “idk I just got o...

Please help me i need to understand why it always fizzles out.

So i always get the initial attraction part down. A girl eyes me, i sense it, i confidently go up to her and I set something up. Whether we hang at the gym, or some coffee or whatever. But when it comes time to that first meeting i can see that at first they are interested in me, but then when we hang out i get too nervous and excited and its hard for me to keep up conversation. I think thats what makes the chance for it to evolve fizzle out. But im not sure. Im still an early 20s kissless virgin in college so that contributes to my anxiety. I also have no self love LOL. But yea i just cant keep going on like this, im so sick of the hope that i can finally have a gf, to where we hang out and i get too excited, and then shit fizzles out to where were not even talking anymore. i Kinda wanna give up on dating and life bro, its so tough to get so close everytime but yet so far. And i dont even know if its because we arent compatible or its something im doing wrong. Help me out guys. ...

I (29F) doubting if I am really compatible with (24M)

I absolutely love this sub and the advice on here so I thought I would post here. So I have been seeing someone for about 9 months now. We started as casual as I really didn’t expect it to be serious and wasn’t sure if I wanted something serious myself. We quickly began to spend 4 days together a week and becoming really close. 6 months later, he broke up with me when I was under a lot of stress because of a big career change I am still dealing with and I was kinda pushing him away as I didn’t feel adequate support from him although I straight up told him I wanted his support as my boyfriend one week before the break up. He contacted me two weeks later really regretful saying he wanted to give it another go and be supportive. I was really reluctant as I felt it would be hard to trust him but he assured me he would show me he really cares and that he is committed and that the trust would build up. Okay cool. Now : It’s been 2 months since we’ve been back together and he’s been indeed ...

How to have a FWB/casual relationship?

I am looking for a long term relationship. But, while I’m looking, it’s nice to have sex. My neighbor is only 25 and doesn’t know what he wants. We’ve started hooking up and the sex is good, which is hard to find! However, I’ve never just hooked up with someone casually before (aside from while traveling) without at least the intention of it possibly being more. I’m finding I kinda like him, and don’t know how to keep those feelings away and just enjoy the sex. He doesn’t text me unless he wants to hook up, and I’ve been finding myself getting sad about that/wanting to text him about stuff. I really want to make this casual/FWB relationship work because I don’t want to give up the convenient and good sex! Any tips for how best to do this and not let myself get all attached or sad that it’s nothing more? Or is it not going to work for me? Submitted February 18, 2020 at 12:24AM I am looking for a long term relationship. But, while I’m looking, it’s nice to have sex. My neighbor ...

This just oozed nice guys when I saw it

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OP was bitching about random guys messaging her "Good Morning Beautiful"

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r/dating adventures

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Reoccuring crush on friend of over 10 years

I have had this reoccuring crush on one of my female best friends for a long time. It can go away for months or even years and then one interaction and BAM it's back again. I'm not entirely sure what to do about it because in our early 20s I wrote her a note telling her how I felt and got rejected and I understood completely. We went back to the way things were and it was cool, but every so often it would come back again and I would talk myself out of it, had a couple relationships since then but it just started again and I noticed these subtle things shes been doing semi recently and I'm probably overthinking it. She will randomly lean on me to fix her shoe or whatever, grab my arm when excited about something happening in the game we were playing (the one she wanted me to be on her team after I said I wasn't playing. Btw it's not a team game) This is years after that note and we are two totally different people in our early 30s, now am I stupid for thinking I hav...

ED only with girls I want to date

I've (31M) got ED whenever I'm with a girl I think there's a chance I'd want to date them. On rare occasions it's something casual I'm usually fine (although usually take Viagra and still not 100%). Sometimes it can be fine after a while, but usually I feel like if I've done a bad job and often get ghosted or dumped after that. It wasn't as bad when I was younger and I've had a couple of relationships where we've been really sexual and quite rough. I can't see that a girl like that would want to be with me after the first time, but also don't want a relationship with someone I'm not sexually compatible with. What do? Submitted February 17, 2020 at 11:43PM I've (31M) got ED whenever I'm with a girl I think there's a chance I'd want to date them. On rare occasions it's something casual I'm usually fine (although usually take Viagra and still not 100%).Sometimes it can be fine after a while, but usually ...

Can sb please help me out ?

18(m) and gotten myself into a dilemma . I met that girl in cafeteria at school , that sort of kept giving me glances which I returned , but since I don't have balls to simply approach her ,that kept going on for 2 months . When I went out with the bois to do some clubbing , to my surprise guess who there, of the girl. So, I really wanted to approach her at that point but since I was super drunk(2nd time being drunk) I felt that approaching her in that intoxicated state would do more harm than good.The worst part is that her friends and my friends sort got into a dancing circle and I was standing 2 people next to her for almost the entire evening.While I was sort of regularly looking over to her but not the other way around(I know it's creepy to look and it's a bad habit,trying to get rid of it) So we danced in the circle until I deciced to nap on the club couch . After we got outside and I started to feel like a f*cking dumbass for not approaching her, when one of the b...

Why even agree to go on a second date with a guy if you have zero attraction towards him?

Why even lead him on? Why even just purposely ignore his messages when you haven't answered him in days, because you're too scared to just say you're not interested, and just keeping the poor guy guessing, and always thinking what's wrong with them? Only women do this crap. And they have no issues doing it to multiple men...time, and time again. As if they're completely immune to it. Submitted February 18, 2020 at 12:15AM Why even lead him on? Why even just purposely ignore his messages when you haven't answered him in days, because you're too scared to just say you're not interested, and just keeping the poor guy guessing, and always thinking what's wrong with them?Only women do this crap. And they have no issues doing it to multiple men...time, and time again. As if they're completely immune to it.