I think our first kiss ruined it

Okay guys, I’ve (m23) been dating this girl(f22) for a couple of weeks. We’ve been on two dates before, and they’ve been super great. She’s seemed very very into me, and have been writing to me everyday in Snapchat etc. so for our third date she invited me over. I’m a shy guy, and have had some serious issues with approaching romantic situations before. But after experience I’ve gotten better. I’m still not super confident on taking some steps, but I always do after some time.

We laughed, ate and talked the whole evening. After two hours I started making out with her. To be fair to me, I’m not an inexperienced kisser. Ive had bad kisses and good ones. And this was horrible. I’ve made out with lots of girls before and they have never been awkward or bad. But we were completely out of sync. She immediately pushed her tounge in, while I tried to kiss her a bit. And then I tried to match her movements but the she switched. And she kept biting my lip, which can be hot but not constantly. You can’t really make out if someone is holding onto your lip. I don’t think it was her but I think we were out of sync. So I’m not blaming her here

She stops and we do something else for a bit. I later on try to kiss her again and we start making out. This time it’s not as bad, we actually start being synced and all. But I thought: “people kiss differently, so for some it’s just a matter of learning each others “language”. “. So during our second try we started to sync and it became a lot better.

But THEN she bites my lip, stops and tells me that my beard scruff hurts a lot. Which to be fair it does. I mean she was red in the face. I make a little joke, “ yeah imagine how much this hurts for me all the time “, she laughs and then we stop. She says that I need to get an oil for that.

After some time of more talking I just tell her that I need to go home ( which I do ). No kiss at the end and I’m in my way home. She just said, “ I’ll see you another time “. Which really don’t mean much to be fair

I’m seriously doubting myself now. I’ve never had issues making out before, except for my first time. Could this really be all me? Am I a bad kisser? I’ve spontaneously made out with girls before and it’s never been bad? But now I’m totally unsure. My kissing style is usually more kissing at first to see how they kiss, and then gradually more tounge etc. But maybe I’m all off here?

So what do you guys think? Should I blame myself for this? And can I salvage this in some way? I tried to be as cool about it as possible. But the kissing just didn’t work.

Tldr Our first kiss sucked. Things went awkward. Not sure what to make of it. Am I the bad kisser or is this just a compatibility issue? And can I salvage it?

Submitted February 18, 2020 at 12:16AM

Okay guys, I’ve (m23) been dating this girl(f22) for a couple of weeks. We’ve been on two dates before, and they’ve been super great. She’s seemed very very into me, and have been writing to me everyday in Snapchat etc. so for our third date she invited me over. I’m a shy guy, and have had some serious issues with approaching romantic situations before. But after experience I’ve gotten better. I’m still not super confident on taking some steps, but I always do after some time.We laughed, ate and talked the whole evening. After two hours I started making out with her. To be fair to me, I’m not an inexperienced kisser. Ive had bad kisses and good ones. And this was horrible. I’ve made out with lots of girls before and they have never been awkward or bad. But we were completely out of sync. She immediately pushed her tounge in, while I tried to kiss her a bit. And then I tried to match her movements but the she switched. And she kept biting my lip, which can be hot but not constantly. You can’t really make out if someone is holding onto your lip. I don’t think it was her but I think we were out of sync. So I’m not blaming her hereShe stops and we do something else for a bit. I later on try to kiss her again and we start making out. This time it’s not as bad, we actually start being synced and all. But I thought: “people kiss differently, so for some it’s just a matter of learning each others “language”. “. So during our second try we started to sync and it became a lot better.But THEN she bites my lip, stops and tells me that my beard scruff hurts a lot. Which to be fair it does. I mean she was red in the face. I make a little joke, “ yeah imagine how much this hurts for me all the time “, she laughs and then we stop. She says that I need to get an oil for that.After some time of more talking I just tell her that I need to go home ( which I do ). No kiss at the end and I’m in my way home. She just said, “ I’ll see you another time “. Which really don’t mean much to be fairI’m seriously doubting myself now. I’ve never had issues making out before, except for my first time. Could this really be all me? Am I a bad kisser? I’ve spontaneously made out with girls before and it’s never been bad? But now I’m totally unsure. My kissing style is usually more kissing at first to see how they kiss, and then gradually more tounge etc. But maybe I’m all off here?So what do you guys think? Should I blame myself for this? And can I salvage this in some way? I tried to be as cool about it as possible. But the kissing just didn’t work.Tldr Our first kiss sucked. Things went awkward. Not sure what to make of it. Am I the bad kisser or is this just a compatibility issue? And can I salvage it?