I've been searching love on dating sites for quite some time and after all of these years I always still keep attracting girls that I find really unattractive, these are always serious/interested/active in a conversation but then I am not interested and so I reject them and it also happens that girls I am interested in and that I like are rejecting me or are just not serious at all / not enough or barely active / barely communicating with me and so on... ​ How am I suppose to find the woman i'de marry with then? ​ It's always like that and if I'll keep having the same experience on dating sites I won't ever find her (not from the internet anyway). ​ What are your thoughts? Submitted May 03, 2019 at 07:02AM I've been searching love on dating sites for quite some time and after all of these years I always still keep attracting girls that I find really unattractive, these are always serious/interested/active in a conversation but then I am not interest

Hey guys, please excuse any typos or errors as I’m on my phone. TLDR at the end I’ve been seeing this guy on and off for 4 months then took a break (moved to the other side of the world) and then recently started seeing each other again. He’s a nice guy and we do get along, but for some reason I have this niggling voice in me telling me to ask “big” questions. To steer the relationship talk a bit, things like so what do you look for in a partner, likes/dislikes, dated or? He’s in an extremely busy and high stress job so his time is almost always packed and it’s just going to get worse. He’s not like anybody else I’ve dated (which I think is a good thing), and we definitely do have chemistry. We share values, have the same sense of humour, he’s kind etc, In all honesty I just think I’m worrying and by me rushing it and not going with it I might ruin it. Only issue is in my previous relationship I did just that and ended up hurt because I saw it as much more serious than he did. How

So, my coworker is very attractive and I got the drift that she likes me. She always walks up to me and stands close to me and starts asking me about myself and what not. Everytime we are talking I can sense that she likes me but I’m kinda new to all of this so I’m still not sure. Not to mentions she always smiles at me but she does that to everyone else so I can’t tell. Whenever I think about being with her it seems possible but hard because she is 40 and I’m 19. Do you think she likes me or is it just manners and kindness? Also, if I were to ask her out hang, you think she would want to you know what? I know this not a lot of details but I’m just curious to see what you guys think I should do. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 07:40AM So, my coworker is very attractive and I got the drift that she likes me. She always walks up to me and stands close to me and starts asking me about myself and what not. Everytime we are talking I can sense that she likes me but I’m kinda new to all of

Hello, I'm probably only one so stupid and naive here hoping to find serious relationship on online dating sites. Seriously that hookup standard now makes me sick since 90% of guys who text me only want hookup, only small amount of guys who texted wanted serious relationship but godamnit now people standards are so high on dating sites that it's really hard to find someone you could meet their standards. And also lot of people are using dating sites just for their ego boost, you get into Russian roulette when you can't stop swiping, it gets kind of addicting game to play, you can't stop swiping and messing with people around since everything there is so easy, you dislike someone you can block or ignore them, you can play this endlessly, you are getting master of playing mind games with others. I hope I'm not only one with bad experiences here. :/ Submitted May 03, 2019 at 08:04AM Hello, I'm probably only one so stupid and naive here hoping to find seri

A couple of months ago, I (31m) was at the mall and saw this stunning girl that was in the same shop with me. She was with her family, and so was I, so I did not approach her, but I remember thinking how beautiful she was, and just could not keep my eyes of her! ​ Two days later she appears on my "people you may know" facebook section, with 2 common friends, so I add her and ask her if she was the girl from the mall. She said "yes", so we start joking and talking about this. We chatted some more, in the days that followed, so I ask her out and she accepts. She even gave me her number, but when the day comes, and I text her for confirmation she says (out of the blue) that she just got out of a long relationship, and although "it's just an innocent date" (her words) she is not ready to see me. I told her it's ok, that I understand her decision but that I'm really sorry I will not see her, and in case she changes her mind, the invitation is sti

So I’m recently out of a long term relationship and decided to get back on the single scene and meet some new girls for drinks, dates whatever. Tried some of the dating apps, tinder, bumble and Happn for a bit and they are all pretty terrible, matched with people that I had basically no connection to and nothing really went anywhere. Thought to give Hinge a go and am loving it, speaking to a lot of cool people who are all super easy to chat to. Now the part that I feel bad about, I’m definitely not looking for a relationship, just want to meet some new people because it’s been so long since I was single. Hinge markets itself as not being for hookups, and I’m not necessarily looking to just sleep with people but I know I don’t want anything serious. So is using Hinge to look for something more casual a dick move? And any advice / thoughts about what I should do next? Submitted May 03, 2019 at 09:23AM So I’m recently out of a long term relationship and decided to get back on the s

What’s up with that? I don’t know. Tomorrow I’m in for a surprise I guess. UPDATE: she’s not as cute as her pictures but definitely not a nope. Date went great. We planned to go the movies but I suggested we get drinks cuz we were getting along well and we ended up having a great time and great makeout sessions. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 10:20AM What’s up with that? I don’t know. Tomorrow I’m in for a surprise I guess.UPDATE: she’s not as cute as her pictures but definitely not a nope. Date went great. We planned to go the movies but I suggested we get drinks cuz we were getting along well and we ended up having a great time and great makeout sessions.

I have a girlfriend and man, do I love her. I love her so much but lately it feels like she doesn’t love me. What do I do? Submitted May 03, 2019 at 10:44AM I have a girlfriend and man, do I love her. I love her so much but lately it feels like she doesn’t love me. What do I do?

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I had a conversation that's kind of irked me. I stayed at a hostel a couple of nights ago and had a long chat with a Canadian girl about all sorts of things; traveling, politics, coconut water, the works. But eventually the conversation got to relationships and I asked how long she'd been single, and she said (with a heavy sigh and a downward look) about a year and a half. She said she was over it and wanted to be back in a committed relationship again. Naturally she asked me if I had been single for a while and I said about 9 years (yeah.) She seemed kind of shocked and asked me if I enjoyed the casual lifestyle. I asked, 'what do you mean? I said I've been single. That means I haven't been with anyone for that length of time.' And she said that technically you can be single and have a lot of hookups because that's how it works. But until now it hasn't occurred to me that people call themselves single when they actually mean having a different person

After 2 months of being in a close relationship with my boyfriend[24M], he told me that he is actually a personal space guy. Apparently he was a personal-space-defender his whole life and he has never been in a serious close relationship with anyone before, because he was just refusing to share his personal space. It was hard for me to process that information because I never got to know that side of him, he was very welcoming with me from the first day we met. He told me I am the only person he let that close to him for such a long time, in his entire life , and he doesn't understand how was that possible. This information made me feel very special, but also scared and confused in the same time. He didn't try to change our relationship, he didn't ask for a break or something, he just explained me that he is going to need a walk alone with his own thoughts from time to time. I don't know what to do now in order to not overwhelm him with my presence and make the rela

How do I know she’s genuine? So my ex of over a year texted me today after I told her to not text me unless she is serious about working things. She texted me a month after that today saying she has 3 weeks left of school and she hopes I’m still willing to give her a chance. If I still do how can I reply ? Some context She broke up with me over a year ago because of ldr and me being way too needy in the end. For months I begged and pleaded Until eventually she blocked me everywhere besides phone. Recently she has been reaching out via text but every time I tried to set a date she would cancel or just ghost so I asked her where do I stand why do you keep reaching out but then doing all this and she said atm in her life she can’t purse anything but friendship so I simply told her I can’t be her friend but if she ever changes her mind and wants to work on things to give me a call. We have been talking a little small talk but she still seems off like takes all day to reply etc. Sub

A couple of months ago I fell in love with this really sweet girl I read the same course with. She was really nice, we had much in common and got along on basically every point you can think of. Unfortunately, this was the first time I dated a girl, I made some terrible mistakes, and she moved on after the first date. She said she wanted to be my friend but no more. 2,5 months later, I sensed some different behaviour from not her, but her friends in my college class (my old crush reads a different program). They started to behave really nice to me, like they were saying "she has changed her mind". I thought that I was stupidly fantasizing and didn't think very much about it. But my gut feeling was right. A couple of days ago (3 months after she said no) we met at a party and the first thing she did was to give me a two-armed hug and the biggest smile she could give. I was thinking "what the hell", I was completely sure that she was gonna ghost me. She ended th

Hey nice ppl of reddit , im a M24 I’ve been dating this beautiful girl for more than a year now and at first she really loved me like so much because i was really nice to her “ and still am “ and i really love her too but sometimes she says that i only love her for sex so one time I decided not to have sex with her and yet again she got mad at me for making this decision ! We fixed thing afterwards but lately im being friendzoned hard 😂 like if she is punishing me !and she have a bad attitude when talking to me , we always argue over lame things and she say awful thing to me but i know she’s just mad and doesn’t mean it And it have been like this for 4 months now and I don’t really know what to do We see each other like usual and all , but no intimacy what so ever , not even a kiss ! The only reason im baring this is that i still love her and will always do💕 but i really want her to get back the way she was because this is so painful to deal with How can i make it up to her ?

Hi everyone, I am still in awe of what just happened. I just had an almost out-of-body experience with my teenage crush - as silly as it sounds. My story sounds like it came out of the cheesiest and most insane rom-com but I wanted to share with you all because I wanted to say: DREAMS DO COME TRUE. I had a crush on this guy since I was 14. He was the classic looking-cute kind of guy that you check out at the same "spot" every weekend or so, where all the kids hangs out. I was obsessed with him, I would drool everytime I'd see him with his friends - I thought he was the coolest guy I'd ever seen in my life. We never got to talk, I was super awkward with not a lot of experience and I was freaking the fuck out whenever he was near me. You know, very immature kid-dy stuff. All my friends would know about him but nothing ever came out of it. I stopped seeing him after high school. Fast forward 7 years, I bump into him in a party. I was with a couple of friends from sch

I would like to have some one night stands with girls from clubs - typical I know. However I’m not quite sure how I actually do this? I know some people just get behind girls and they sometimes start dancing and grinding but I find that so creepy and disgusting. How do people do it? Tinder is shit. There’s not much else to say.. All my girl-friends at university are very platonic and I’m close with them, so I couldn’t see any of them if I tried. How do I do this? Submitted May 03, 2019 at 01:39PM I would like to have some one night stands with girls from clubs - typical I know. However I’m not quite sure how I actually do this? I know some people just get behind girls and they sometimes start dancing and grinding but I find that so creepy and disgusting. How do people do it?Tinder is shit. There’s not much else to say..All my girl-friends at university are very platonic and I’m close with them, so I couldn’t see any of them if I tried.How do I do this?

I met this girl a couple of months ago at a school related event. We began talking online and discovered we have quite a few things in common so I decided to ask her out. She accepted but we had to cancel the date at the last moment due to exhaustion and fatigue invoked by her. I must admit I found this a little fishy but, as I had a pretty positive feeling about the situation, I decided not to bail out and continue pursuing this date. We continued chatting online and, since we had to go through finals, I thought this wouldn't be the best time to ask her out again. I eventually did it after the exams finished only to find out she's in a bad place right now due to her ex that cheated on her. She never said she doesn't want to go out with me, she just let me know she firstly has to come to terms with herself and start being functional again. I can thoroughly understand this since I went through something similar myself. So, what should I do (except for the obvious - wait f

I'm turning 24 in a month. Just finished my Master's degree a year ago today (woohoo!) and got a job at a good medical device company. I've never had a gf, kissed, had sex, any of that stuff. I haven't really wanted to rush into anything and I have very high standards, so I am of the mindset of "if it happens it happens, and if not then that's fine too." There's a girl at my company who I see around relatively often, either in the cafeteria or walking down the hall when I get into work. Our company is split into 4 main buildings, and we work in different buildings. I don't even know her name or what department she works in, but I know she's not in my building. She is very attractive and seems like a nice, classy lady. There was a good 1 week stretch where we'd pass by each other every single day at random times. It got to the point where she'd glance at me, smile, and look down. I have been reluctant to say anything to her since ther

​ Worst feeling ever... ​ Met up today for a coffee with a girl i had been chatting to off tinder for a couple weeks. When I first met her she seemed heaps cool and everything i expected... we had a good chat and despite walking through same rain to get where we wanted, everything i thought went fine? We spoke heaps and i thought we got along. ​ Then randomly after about and 1 Hour and 15 minutes... she's like just "Guess we better head off." and from there she went home and i left. Straight away I got the vibe that she just wasn't keen which i was a surprised because i thought everything was going okay. ​ I message her when i get back home just to say like 'thanks for hanging out etc'. She asked what i thought of her and i said you were awesome and everything... and then she said she thought i was 'nervous' (which i was surprised coz i was talking just as much as her and conversation were flowing smoothly i felt). Anyways, i could straight awa

Yo yo whats up party people, i'll try to keep this short and sweet. ​ So I matched with a girl a while ago, SHE gives me her number on the app after like 3 exchanges. I ask her if she wants to hang out, she says yes, and we settle on the weekend. The way we settled on the weekend was we both decided we couldn't really go to a bar and get hammered together if we both had to drive so I said maybe next(?). She then says something along the lines of "if it's easier for you, you can just bring drinks to my place, i'll order pizza, and if you end up drinking too much, just stay over". ​ Cool. Weekend rolls around, I said whats up and now she starts with the BS. "Oh something came up", bet so I let it rock for a few hours. I stupidly texted her later "Did you deal with it?" being thirsty af and she says yeah it's all cool but she has to wake up early. Rejectionregistered.jpg. ​ I don't answer and hear nothing for a week and she text

I'm, 20[M], curious about why the girls I match with rarely message me. Especially when I see that they swiped right after I did, creating the match. Any insight on this? Im genuinely confused Submitted May 03, 2019 at 03:44PM I'm, 20[M], curious about why the girls I match with rarely message me. Especially when I see that they swiped right after I did, creating the match. Any insight on this? Im genuinely confused

Disclaimer: This is not actually about me, let me know if I should delete. Thanks Just curious on others opinions on this. My bf's half brother (late 20s) is dating a woman (age unknown) who is separated. BF doesn't approve, I think it's fine. What do you think? Extra info: We don't know any details of how long she has been separated or if in the process of getting a divorce. Found out last night while bf was talking to half-bros mom, so we don't know anything about the woman really. My bfs ex-wife had an affair, so his disapproval totally makes sense. My thoughts tend towards more separation is the step before divorce. And, I don't want to form opinions before all the facts, like if the woman and her spouse are in agreement that it's ok to date others. Thanks! Edit: This question is purely me being curious, not looking for reasons to convince bf I'm right or anything. We have different thoughts due to different life experiences and that's fi

I hope that this is appropriate for this subreddit, as this is my first post on reddit (throwaway). I apologize for any errors I make in advance. Ever since my first real relationship when I was 16, I haven't had one healthy relationship and have been tormented with awful thoughts nearly everyday about how our relationship ended so long ago. After a less than amicable split, she spread rumors that I stalked her and would beat her during/after our relationship. She was quite popular and held a good amount of clout with the other girls at school, so all the other girls I could've dated believed her and helped her torment me. What they didn't know is that I really loved her. I wanted her back and really hadn't done much of anything bad towards her but I was consistently treated like a creep at school, and thus didn't date again out of fear until my freshman year of college. But the thing is, all of those relationships have been shallow flings that always end up with

Hey Reddit, I'm curious on how dating has changed for you as you age. What are the main differences in 'general' dating from your 20's to 30's. Even older, i'd love to hear from you! Things like date choices, how long you wait to be intimate, if you've noticed the speed of dating has changed and what you were looking for in a relationship in your 20's compared to 30's, the type of partner you would choose then vs now. I'd love to hear some thoughts on this! Thanks for taking the time to read. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:15PM Hey Reddit,I'm curious on how dating has changed for you as you age.What are the main differences in 'general' dating from your 20's to 30's. Even older, i'd love to hear from you!Things like date choices, how long you wait to be intimate, if you've noticed the speed of dating has changed and what you were looking for in a relationship in your 20's compared to 30's, the type of

I matched with this girl on Bumble like 2 months ago. Initially we texted for some time, then I asked her out, but due to busy periods we didn't do anything for basically 2 months. Or most likely we both didn't want to put any effort into this (I was, and still am a bit, worried about the age difference). So we weren't talking for weeks, when last week she texts me out of the blue. So I ask her out and we finally met last Tuesday (3 days ago). The date was nice. Some drinks, bit of touching (no kissing) and some fun stuff. The next day I text her some stuff about what she told me the evening before, then I tell her that it was great meeting her and that I'd like to go out again, maybe doing this and that. In the end I tell her that I'll be free from Friday on, and if she is up to it, she should let me know when she is free as well. She replies that she felt the same about meeting me, and that she'll let me know. We talk a bit more about random stuff, and th

I (27F) recently moved to a new city and I am having a culture shock when it comes to online dating here and it's playing a number on my self-esteem. Here's the situation that keeps happening. I don't have trouble getting dates. People tend to like how straightforward and communicative I am in our original messages. My work is interesting and I'm pretty successful within my field. I'm very clear from the get-go I am looking for a serious relationship. However, it has happened multiple times where I have been dating people for longer periods (sometimes even two months) and I begin to grow suspicious they aren't actually attracted to me due to a comment here or there. After confrontation, it's confirmed. I don't meet the "ideal" body type, and therefore I am "average." However, I have a stellar personality, so they keep me around. This is both incredibly frustrating and demoralizing for me. In the past, I could go on dates and general

Hey, Male 35 years old here. 4 years ago I went into a hibernation/mun mode and stopped dating and seeing girl to work on my personal projects and career. I used to at least talk with girls in supermarket, bookstores and go on dates. But being away from girls for such a long period of time has made my self-esteem to plummet. I recently decided to do some changes in my life. Diet, excessive, meditation and I stopped watching porn and masturbating. Now I want to get back into the dating scene and especially talking with girls in supermarkets, supermalls, parts, you name it. Problem is that I get paralyzed by fear of going up to a girl and give her a compliment. Every day I promise myself to at least talk with 1 girl that I find attractive while I’m shopping etc. But my nerves break down and I go into a paralyzed state. My brain plays out all positive outcomes before each approach. But I’m just too nervous. Problem is, I need to stop this and take some action. Any tips to get co

I am a dude (26M) who has recently started a relationship with an amazing girl (26F). ​ She is so great. I think she's adorable, we match up very well in terms of life goals/direction and personality, and she seems just as into me as I am in her. However the only thing that bothers me is her pictures are pretty horrible. For some reason she comes out really weird in photographs and she seems like a completely different person. It might just be that both her and I are awful at taking pictures but I always feel bad when I catch myself thinking she is not as attractive when looking at a photo. Also when a friend or relative asks for a photo and they seem visibly disappointed because she just comes out really bad. ​ Obviously I did not divulge this thought to my girlfriend. ​ Anyone else have an experience like this? I really want to show off my girlfriend to my friends and relatives across the world but I (stupidly) feel kind of embarrassed when all I have is unflattering phot

I was chatting with a friend and he said I always seem confident about taking a certain path or stance, which he said is good, but may come off as too intense when dating. As a guy I generally take responsibility for planning what a date is going to be like (where we’re going, what we’re doing/eating), which I generally researched beforehand. And I do try to remain flexible — if she wants to do something different or spur of the moment, I’m usually down, but if we had a reservation for something she wanted to do, I’ll mention time constraints. In general, if things don’t happen they don’t happen, and I try not to sweat it. So how do you go “in with a plan” but remain flexible enough so you don’t come off as too intense or a tight ass? How do you appropriately put high effort into dating? Submitted May 03, 2019 at 05:13PM I was chatting with a friend and he said I always seem confident about taking a certain path or stance, which he said is good, but may come off as too inten

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in the following scenarios: 1) if his ex is prettier than you 2) if his ex is similar to you 3) if his ex is uglier than you Submitted May 03, 2019 at 05:26PM in the following scenarios:1) if his ex is prettier than you 2) if his ex is similar to you 3) if his ex is uglier than you

I found out my crush has a 4 year old child(we are both 21). I have never dealt with this before but I could care less she's a mother. I care for as much as possible, and her daughter when the time comes to meet her. The advice I need on is how do I prepare. Right now I'm still texting her before I go back to Georgia for the summer (we're gonna see a movie, and hopefully a date after) I don't wanna remove time from her daughter(I have a big guilt trip on stuff). Any tips and advice would be good. Ask for details, and I will give you details. Thanks for reading and helping. :) Submitted May 03, 2019 at 05:30PM I found out my crush has a 4 year old child(we are both 21). I have never dealt with this before but I could care less she's a mother. I care for as much as possible, and her daughter when the time comes to meet her.The advice I need on is how do I prepare. Right now I'm still texting her before I go back to Georgia for the summer (we're gonna s

Hello Redditors, I hope you are all doing well and feeling great, and having a great day/evening. I am writing my first post to get some advices on my behavior in general. I have a great social life, really good friends I can count on with but my love life is a disaster. I always put my family first because of financial issues and kinda let me come in the second place. I'm 25 finishing my master's degree. I have never fell in love, despite having dated some guys. I got out of my last relationship two years ago, and didn't date since. Some guys were interested but I don't want flings or casual hookups so I say no. But what's weird, is I never have been in love. I feel like I dated them because I fell comfortable enough to be with them and we got along really great, but that's all. In some parts, I feel like I did it mostly for them than for me. I'm picky on guys I date (mostly on their behavior), but it helps me avoid people that don't fit my expect

I kinda rushed out of class today and we didn't get to go home together and chat like we usually do. Been thinking of that scenario since it happened and hope he doesn't think I'm some asshole now. I'm not sure how to approach him via text granted that the only time I see him is in school. I feel kinda awkward to approach him outside of school. I am going somewhere tomorrow and I was gonna ask if he'd like to join me if he's free. How and where would I start? Also, as an unrelated note, I recently came back from vacation and brought him back a keychain but feel awkward giving it to him when other people are around thinking they'll assume something. How can I get passed this? Also when would be an appropriate time to text him? How do I even start off this conversation? Do I just straight up ask? Submitted May 03, 2019 at 06:38PM I kinda rushed out of class today and we didn't get to go home together and chat like we usually do. Been thinking of tha

I had a girlfriend in highschool. My mom would pick us up and take us home. Her mom was in denial that her daughter and I were having sex. No this isn't an /r/ihavesex post, this is story about how when you're a teen, you should be careful with what happens. ​ My parents when I was a teenager were having a lot of trouble staying together. My dad was cheating on my mom with this bimbo of a woman who is now my step mom. This women doesn't , clean, work, can barely keep herself looking nice, smokes, hard time understanding anything and doesn't like that my mom and dad made up and are trying to stay friends. This was in the last 12 years. ​ When I was about 16, my dad wouldn't talk to me for almost a years to 2 years and it was impossible to get ahold of him. So my mom as well decided to sleep alot and do what she thought was right which was make me happy. So my dad left us. No, I didn't act out, join a gang or anything like that, instead I got a girlfriend. N

No girl seems to like me. 4 girls i liked rejected my outrightly and went forward with my friends or acquaintances (yes all 4 of them). Won't lie, self esteem is very low and i just hate myself. I have acne and spots on my face which Make me hate myself even more. I watch videos of game and pickup on YouTube, get jealous of guys like those at RSD and then wish i was 1% as good as them and this makes me hate myself even further. I can't even get a reply on Facebook. I have done nothing against nobody, a genuine nice guy, but looks like girls only like muscular hunks and douche bags. (Nice guy syndrome ? I don't care. You can abuse me as much as you want). I'm skinny, hitting the gym for 5 months now.. gained little to no muscle.. still more or less the same. Bought new clothes, nothing changed.. the moment i approach women, i sense it in their eyes... "Creep coming up". Read mark manson's stuff... Applied.. nothing worked. The seduction book... Again a no.

Hey everyone, M(20) if i manage to successfully convey my message in this post and make atleast one person feel better, then I'd consider this to be a success. I've been wanting to share this since morning but i now finally have the strength to tell everyone this. I have been single all my life. Had a few chances here and there but i never took them until recently and still failed miserably lol. I consider myself to be a late bloomer but that's because of personal reasons. I'm sure there are many people in the community here who haven't maybe given dating a shot because they're waiting for the right person to enter in their lives or things just didn't work out for them. People who broke up and are single now and find it difficult to bond with someone else. People who suffer from social anxiety, trust issues and what not. All of this leading to depression, wondering whether they'd be single all their lives, the fear of being single haunting you, burde