How do you find a balance between leading/initiative and going with the flow?

I was chatting with a friend and he said I always seem confident about taking a certain path or stance, which he said is good, but may come off as too intense when dating.

As a guy I generally take responsibility for planning what a date is going to be like (where we’re going, what we’re doing/eating), which I generally researched beforehand.

And I do try to remain flexible — if she wants to do something different or spur of the moment, I’m usually down, but if we had a reservation for something she wanted to do, I’ll mention time constraints. In general, if things don’t happen they don’t happen, and I try not to sweat it.

So how do you go “in with a plan” but remain flexible enough so you don’t come off as too intense or a tight ass?

How do you appropriately put high effort into dating?

Submitted May 03, 2019 at 05:13PM

I was chatting with a friend and he said I always seem confident about taking a certain path or stance, which he said is good, but may come off as too intense when dating.As a guy I generally take responsibility for planning what a date is going to be like (where we’re going, what we’re doing/eating), which I generally researched beforehand.And I do try to remain flexible — if she wants to do something different or spur of the moment, I’m usually down, but if we had a reservation for something she wanted to do, I’ll mention time constraints. In general, if things don’t happen they don’t happen, and I try not to sweat it.So how do you go “in with a plan” but remain flexible enough so you don’t come off as too intense or a tight ass?How do you appropriately put high effort into dating?