Did I blow it or am I just overthinking it?

Hi Reddit,

I need some advice and I hope this is the right place to post.

I (25M) recently hooked up with a friend of a friend (~27F) at a bar during a night out with mutual friends and it unfortunately ended rather unceremoniously due to a lack of self-confidence on my part. To provide some brief background on myself, I just ended a 3 year relationship a few months back and I have always suffered from social anxiety despite being somewhat extroverted, so getting back into the swing of things has been rough for me personally. Basically, I was intimidated by the fact that this stunning girl was seemingly taking an interest in me out of nowhere (I had only met her once before).

Without going into an exhaustive amount of detail, we hooked up in front of our friends and alone for a half hour before my anxiety got the better of me and I suggested we rejoin the group. Now here’s the worse part, I was so mad at myself that I fucking left her to go get some air with some friends and by the time we were all ready to come back inside the bar, I had been gone too long and everyone had left, thus ending the night. Now, I’ll say this, I think I’m a good looking guy and I’m not completely inept, but I feel I really fucked this one up which is eating at me because I was actually really into this girl, despite probably coming off as aloof.

Since that night, I did reach out to her. I tried to see if she would be interested in a one-on-one date and she understandably suggested going out again with a group of friends to a quieter place instead. So (finally) my question: am I wrong to assume I still even have a chance with her or was her response a polite way of letting me down easy? As friends of a mutual friend, I’m sure we’ll cross paths again, but damn do I wish that night ended differently. Anyway, thanks for listening r/dating. Any insight would be appreciated.

P.S: Also, if you’re a redditor and reading this, E, I hope this at least provides some context for why I was strange that night lol. I swear I won’t be as lame if there’s a next time.

Submitted May 03, 2019 at 07:53PM

Hi Reddit,I need some advice and I hope this is the right place to post.I (25M) recently hooked up with a friend of a friend (~27F) at a bar during a night out with mutual friends and it unfortunately ended rather unceremoniously due to a lack of self-confidence on my part. To provide some brief background on myself, I just ended a 3 year relationship a few months back and I have always suffered from social anxiety despite being somewhat extroverted, so getting back into the swing of things has been rough for me personally. Basically, I was intimidated by the fact that this stunning girl was seemingly taking an interest in me out of nowhere (I had only met her once before).Without going into an exhaustive amount of detail, we hooked up in front of our friends and alone for a half hour before my anxiety got the better of me and I suggested we rejoin the group. Now here’s the worse part, I was so mad at myself that I fucking left her to go get some air with some friends and by the time we were all ready to come back inside the bar, I had been gone too long and everyone had left, thus ending the night. Now, I’ll say this, I think I’m a good looking guy and I’m not completely inept, but I feel I really fucked this one up which is eating at me because I was actually really into this girl, despite probably coming off as aloof.Since that night, I did reach out to her. I tried to see if she would be interested in a one-on-one date and she understandably suggested going out again with a group of friends to a quieter place instead. So (finally) my question: am I wrong to assume I still even have a chance with her or was her response a polite way of letting me down easy? As friends of a mutual friend, I’m sure we’ll cross paths again, but damn do I wish that night ended differently. Anyway, thanks for listening r/dating. Any insight would be appreciated.P.S: Also, if you’re a redditor and reading this, E, I hope this at least provides some context for why I was strange that night lol. I swear I won’t be as lame if there’s a next time.