Should I bother approaching her?

I'm turning 24 in a month. Just finished my Master's degree a year ago today (woohoo!) and got a job at a good medical device company. I've never had a gf, kissed, had sex, any of that stuff. I haven't really wanted to rush into anything and I have very high standards, so I am of the mindset of "if it happens it happens, and if not then that's fine too."

There's a girl at my company who I see around relatively often, either in the cafeteria or walking down the hall when I get into work. Our company is split into 4 main buildings, and we work in different buildings. I don't even know her name or what department she works in, but I know she's not in my building. She is very attractive and seems like a nice, classy lady.

There was a good 1 week stretch where we'd pass by each other every single day at random times. It got to the point where she'd glance at me, smile, and look down. I have been reluctant to say anything to her since there's always a bunch of people around us and I don't want to single her out by only saying hi to her and nobody else around us.

Now every time we're in the same general area, she seems to notice me. When we're in the cafeteria, she'll be getting something and as soon as I notice she's there, she turns around and glances at me, and then gets back to what she's doing. She never seems distressed. If anything, she seems amused by it.

Recently my friends and I started eating lunch in a new building to change things up, and it turns out that's likely where she works there because she came in there a few times to grab a snack. Ironically, I haven't seen her around much in the last few weeks since then. Maybe once a week at the most.

One of my friends who is a girl joked that she probably noticed I've been "following her" and that's why I haven't seen her as often. Even though she was joking around, I'm nervous because I don't know if this girl likes me or is creeped out that we see each other so often. I feel like I could be playing with fire, since we work at the same company.

I've never really bothered to try with women before, and can't recall the last time I actually asked someone out.

I really wanted to be able to try with this girl when I got the right opportunity (when it was only the 2 of us walking by in the hall I was thinking of saying how we see each other around really often and then asking if she wanted to meet for lunch if the conversation went well) but now I feel like I put myself in a bad situation and should have acted earlier.

I don't know what to do anymore. Should I just forget her and move on?

Submitted May 03, 2019 at 02:00PM

I'm turning 24 in a month. Just finished my Master's degree a year ago today (woohoo!) and got a job at a good medical device company. I've never had a gf, kissed, had sex, any of that stuff. I haven't really wanted to rush into anything and I have very high standards, so I am of the mindset of "if it happens it happens, and if not then that's fine too."There's a girl at my company who I see around relatively often, either in the cafeteria or walking down the hall when I get into work. Our company is split into 4 main buildings, and we work in different buildings. I don't even know her name or what department she works in, but I know she's not in my building. She is very attractive and seems like a nice, classy lady.There was a good 1 week stretch where we'd pass by each other every single day at random times. It got to the point where she'd glance at me, smile, and look down. I have been reluctant to say anything to her since there's always a bunch of people around us and I don't want to single her out by only saying hi to her and nobody else around us.Now every time we're in the same general area, she seems to notice me. When we're in the cafeteria, she'll be getting something and as soon as I notice she's there, she turns around and glances at me, and then gets back to what she's doing. She never seems distressed. If anything, she seems amused by it.Recently my friends and I started eating lunch in a new building to change things up, and it turns out that's likely where she works there because she came in there a few times to grab a snack. Ironically, I haven't seen her around much in the last few weeks since then. Maybe once a week at the most.One of my friends who is a girl joked that she probably noticed I've been "following her" and that's why I haven't seen her as often. Even though she was joking around, I'm nervous because I don't know if this girl likes me or is creeped out that we see each other so often. I feel like I could be playing with fire, since we work at the same company.I've never really bothered to try with women before, and can't recall the last time I actually asked someone out.I really wanted to be able to try with this girl when I got the right opportunity (when it was only the 2 of us walking by in the hall I was thinking of saying how we see each other around really often and then asking if she wanted to meet for lunch if the conversation went well) but now I feel like I put myself in a bad situation and should have acted earlier.I don't know what to do anymore. Should I just forget her and move on?