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/u/TatsumakiRonyk on Was looking for a tiny token to represent my sexuality and found this charming, little necklace on Etsy. Since demisexuals don't have a distinct symbol, I hope it's okay for me to represent with a spade.

Oh crud. I've been sporting spades ever since joining the community, even though I'm not aro. May 30, 2019 at 04:39AM

Am I weird for preferring women that are older than me?

23M here (turning 24 in 1.5 months). My preferred age range to date women is from 22-30. Not saying I'd date a 40 year old. But like I would prefer women slightly older than me because they would understand me better + less drama. I am just not a fan of trying to date teens/early-20 year olds. I mean when I look at women dating site profiles, they usually say age-1 to age +10 or so. But is it weird for a male to prefer women older? Submitted May 29, 2019 at 10:41PM 23M here (turning 24 in 1.5 months). My preferred age range to date women is from 22-30. Not saying I'd date a 40 year old. But like I would prefer women slightly older than me because they would understand me better + less drama. I am just not a fan of trying to date teens/early-20 year olds.I mean when I look at women dating site profiles, they usually say age-1 to age +10 or so. But is it weird for a male to prefer women older?

He dated my sister

So I'm in a really nice relationship. My boyfriend is a great guy, but a few days ago I was hanging out with people not from my normal friend group. They briefly brought up the fact that my boyfriend dated my sister... I was shocked. We have been dating for a while and I've told him before I didn't care about his past relationships. So I might be in the wrong, but isn't that something you tell your partner. I have asked him about it, he did admit he dated her and it was before we met. He didn't know we were related until two months after we started dating or so. Plenty of time has past, am I in the wrong to think he should have told me? It is upsetting to find out from someone other than him. What do you guys think or any advice on how to react to this? Submitted May 29, 2019 at 10:56PM So I'm in a really nice relationship. My boyfriend is a great guy, but a few days ago I was hanging out with people not from my normal friend group. They briefly brought u...

Vacation for second date

Hi guys, recently went on a solid first date with a guy 10 day back. We ended up sleeping together on the first date and in the morning asked when he could see me again. A week after our date he invites me to a beach house with several of his friends for 2-3 days. ​ I'm pretty spontaneous and have in past have had guy into me to the point where they want me to fly out to see them, text/call everyday after one date - not as a fling, but as a potential girlfriend (just for context). however with this one I'm actually nervous because I quite like him, he didn't call/text everyday after our date and I'm trying to get a male perspective. thanks! Submitted May 29, 2019 at 11:23PM Hi guys,recently went on a solid first date with a guy 10 day back. We ended up sleeping together on the first date and in the morning asked when he could see me again. A week after our date he invites me to a beach house with several of his friends for 2-3 days.​I'm pretty spontaneous ...

I can't get this stupid girl out of my head!

I know she doesn't like me it's obvious but I can't figure out how to get her out of my head. I try to stay busy at work but I'm always annoyed by the thought of her. I try to play video games but then I get distracted and do something stupid to screw myself in the game. I try studying but it gets boring fast. The only thing that works is drinking or getting high but I can't do that stuff forever. I tried following a bunch of hot girls on Instagram but I always lose interest fast. I need help getting her out! It's over it's done, I don't know why I keep torturing myself with the thought of her. Submitted May 29, 2019 at 11:27PM I know she doesn't like me it's obvious but I can't figure out how to get her out of my head. I try to stay busy at work but I'm always annoyed by the thought of her. I try to play video games but then I get distracted and do something stupid to screw myself in the game. I try studying but it gets boring fa...

How does one start properly dating

I'm going to keep this plain and simple. I'm a guy and I'm curious on how I start dating cause I'm not the type of person who likes clubs or places like that and I'm unsure about dating apps due to things I've heard from friends etc. I have literally zero experience so any advice would be neato. Submitted May 29, 2019 at 11:56PM I'm going to keep this plain and simple. I'm a guy and I'm curious on how I start dating cause I'm not the type of person who likes clubs or places like that and I'm unsure about dating apps due to things I've heard from friends etc.I have literally zero experience so any advice would be neato.

What are some things you wish you could tell the opposite sex about dating?

I've come to the conclusion that my influence on the dating market is essentially nil, so I don't crusade and give people unsolicited advice, but the urge is sometimes still there. What do you see and wish you could say? Submitted May 30, 2019 at 12:01AM I've come to the conclusion that my influence on the dating market is essentially nil, so I don't crusade and give people unsolicited advice, but the urge is sometimes still there.What do you see and wish you could say?

I can't get rid of my feelings

So ive talked to this girl for a long time had our ups and downs (period where we both stopped talking to each other) and well i've always liked her and couldnt get her out of my stupid head. well she came out as bi and started dating a girl almost 2 months ago and we still talk daily almost all day. the problem is shes in a relationship and i cant get rid of my feelings. she thinks I dont like her anymore even though i do. she said she was "attached" to me because of how much i know about her. also because of how long we have talked. its so hard to get rid of the feelings mostly because of how consistently we talk and i dont know what to do Submitted May 30, 2019 at 12:14AM So ive talked to this girl for a long time had our ups and downs (period where we both stopped talking to each other) and well i've always liked her and couldnt get her out of my stupid head. well she came out as bi and started dating a girl almost 2 months ago and we still talk daily almos...

I am officially done with online dating (creepy methhead convo)

Ive been pushed over the line. https://imgur.com/a/6RRWMsT EDIT: HE SAID MORE (UPDATE) http://imgur.com/gallery/ueYrUGL Submitted May 30, 2019 at 12:22AM Ive been pushed over the line.http://bit.ly/2WdWVlN HE SAID MORE (UPDATE)http://bit.ly/2I6diqS

What should I do on a 4th date movie night at my place?

I've been out of the dating game for a while, I kind of forget how all this stuff works. I've invited him over to my place for a movie night - one of the big things we have in common is that we like the same movies... Scary movies! Thing is - I just have a loveseat? And He's been to my place before, so he knows this. We've had one kiss, but it was a bit of an awkward first kiss - I kind of froze up! I guess he's okay with that because he is coming back over. When we are watching the movie should I hold his hand? Should I ... snuggle up on the loveseat with him?? Would there be smooching during the movie?? Submitted May 30, 2019 at 01:05AM I've been out of the dating game for a while, I kind of forget how all this stuff works. I've invited him over to my place for a movie night - one of the big things we have in common is that we like the same movies... Scary movies!Thing is - I just have a loveseat? And He's been to my place before, so he knows ...

Realizing you're the problem

Hey r/dating . Sorry if this is the wrong place for this rant. I haven't had a second date in six months. I'm a somewhat conventionally attractive woman, take care of myself, etc. and on dating apps, I get tons of matches pretty easily, and even sometimes in public or when I'm out with my friends, I'm approached and asked for my number. However, it's after someone meets me in person for a date that things tend to go south and I get politely rejected or ghosted. The pattern tends to go as follows; I match with someone, they seem super interested, we talk for a couple days on the app or via text, one of us asks to meet up in person (I like to take the initiative sometimes and am fairy confident), the date goes okay/good in my opinion, but then I either never hear from them again, or when I try to reach out, I get a polite message indicating they are not interested in seeing me again. And if this clarifies, some of them I slept with after, some I didn't. So, I...

What is talking

I have been messaging this guy (we have mutual friends and know each other from college) for over a month. We hung out a couple times one-on-one. We text every day. Do normal guys text this often? Is he just very outgoing? Is this what "talking to" someone is? Didn't want to include too much detail but I was just wondering since I don't have many people to ask. Submitted May 30, 2019 at 01:18AM I have been messaging this guy (we have mutual friends and know each other from college) for over a month. We hung out a couple times one-on-one. We text every day. Do normal guys text this often? Is he just very outgoing? Is this what "talking to" someone is? Didn't want to include too much detail but I was just wondering since I don't have many people to ask.

Guys who use hinge, what opening lines have gotten you the most responses? Girls who use hinge, what openers have you been most receptive to?

I feel I am good looking, fit, have a decent profile and am trying to improve myself. I have had some success with hinge but it is very sporadic. Lately I have gotten nothing. I use the same copy-paste message because I feel most girls don't respond anyways and that most are on it for validation. Nevertheless, I'm just wondering about lines with success rates from both genders... Submitted May 30, 2019 at 01:42AM I feel I am good looking, fit, have a decent profile and am trying to improve myself. I have had some success with hinge but it is very sporadic. Lately I have gotten nothing. I use the same copy-paste message because I feel most girls don't respond anyways and that most are on it for validation. Nevertheless, I'm just wondering about lines with success rates from both genders...

Meeting online date on friday, what if I'm not what he expected?

So basically I (20f) matched with a 23m (I'll call him John) on hinge. I haven't really been on a real date with someone I've met from dating apps/online. Here are some of the things I've been pondering over in my head the past few days, please help. - John and I have been texting for the past week, everyday actually and it seems like we're hitting it off. I'm worried that we shouldn't have been texting so much because what if we don't have anything to talk about? I'm not super worried about it but it's still in the back of my mind. - Also, I'm 4'8. I don't really look my age and my height doesn't help either haha... He's 5'11. What if he sees me and is disappointed in how short I am? I mean our heights are listed on our profiles but I keep worrying that he didn't actually see my height in my profile and assumes I'm a more average height. - From what I can tell from texting him and through his socials, he seems...

Have I been ghosted?

Hey everyone, I have a question about this guy that I have been texting. He keeps disappearing for weeks on end. Reasons he elicits are at one hand, reasonable but at the same time, I am paranoid that he may be a liar or *gulp* catfishing. I have talked to him on the phone so I know he is a real person. A couple of weeks ago, his dad got ill and was in the hospital. Then he disappeared again and his grandmother died. He has disappeared again. I didn't really think of it so much because I was super busy and thought whatever. But now I am kinda weirded out by this. Part of me wants to find out more and figure out if he is legit or not. Any advice? Submitted May 30, 2019 at 01:58AM Hey everyone,I have a question about this guy that I have been texting. He keeps disappearing for weeks on end. Reasons he elicits are at one hand, reasonable but at the same time, I am paranoid that he may be a liar or *gulp* catfishing. I have talked to him on the phone so I know he is a real pers...

I never realized how much time it takes to actually date?

I [20M] just recently got out of my first relationship with my ex of 2 months. It was definitely a new experience for me and I enjoyed some parts and got annoyed some parts of the whole process. But one thing that got to me was realizing how much time it actually takes to be able make things into an actual relationship. I only was able to see my ex once a week, because I had school and work. We would go on dates and I’d spend the night each week. Once we became official tho it was still only once a week, and after a while, the relationship didn’t feel like a relationship. It felt more like friends who kissed and hung out once a week. We never really got into sex yet. I thought once a week would be great but I’m realizing that most people at my age when dating see each other at least 3-4 times a week. This is kinda making me a bit anxious because my girl and I broke it off because we couldn’t see each other that much and it was only the beginning of our relationship. We couldn’t even...

I’m feeling super depressed because he isn’t over his ex...

When you start getting the butterflies when you think about him, but realize he still has feelings for someone else. Someone else with whom he has memories and so much more time to have loved together. I’m a young woman [21] and I really like this super adorable guy, and we went out three times. But he started talking about his exes and how they had a rough breakup. And about how his ex drunk texts him that she wants to be friends and that she misses him. This drives me crazy with insecurity, jealousy, and loneliness! And now I’m getting all these subtle hints that he is still into her. I don’t know what to say, other than that i feel so sad about the lost opportunity our relationship could have been. Moreover, I’m not 100% if he wants to see me again. Last time I asked and he said “sure,” which just made me feel like crap. I’ve realized I am someone who needs reassurance and a little bit of doting, overly sappy love from whoever I am with. I love the constant text messages and go...

trying not to be clingy after an extremely codependent relationship

hi y’all. im currently talking to this wonderful guy. goofy, kind, ambitious, and extremely patient and understanding. i’ve been in one “real” relationship prior to this that ended in december. however, that previous relationship was extremely extremely codependent. i’d focus on all of his problems and try to fix them while completely neglecting my own issues, i’d try to save our sinking relationship by throwing my own mental health aside and doing whatever it took (which is why we broke up... we both realized that’s not ok) he wanted to know where i was at all times and would get pissy if i didn’t tell him, there were a lot of trust issues that i’ve (thankfully) worked out with a therapist after we broke up. i’m not completely 100%, but i do want to get back in the game. so this new guy: i met him on tinder and he’s the sweetest lil goofball i’ve ever met. he goes to the college in planning on attending and we both live in the same area. i don’t wanna fuck this up though because i r...

Anyone else annoyed with how much people talk about ghosting?

Probably just me, but it seems like every day there are multiple threads about “ghosting” and it’s getting a bit much. The definition is so loose it could mean anything from someone not returning a message after a short exchange on tinder/bumble to someone not texting after a first date to someone up and disappearing after several dates (which in my opinion is the only kind of ghosting really worth any brain space). Maybe I’m getting old and crusty (28), but if someone likes you, they show it. If they don’t like you, they don’t show it, and if they’re hot and cold you probably don’t want to be with them anyway. I’ve been told I’ve “ghosted” someone after not returning a SINGLE text message where I just wasn’t too interested and figured they weren’t either and so the conversation died out naturally. Especially before a first date, I really don’t think there’s any reason to have anything more formal than that without it considered ghosting. Does anyone else agree? It’s just getting o...

I’m too young to be worried about being single.

Hi, (M18) basically I’ve never had a girlfriend. For as long as I can remember I’ve had serious crushes and major attempts at dating but they haven’t panned out. I’m a decent looking guy, kinda short (5’3) but I honestly don’t feel that my looks are the issue (which in most cases it really isn’t). I have an okay level of self confidence, when I first meet people I can be very timid and reserved but that’s just my personality. I take a lot of pride in my appearance, ensuring I’m always clean and moderately dressed. Going through high school watching all your closest friends going in and out of relationships while you’re struggling just to get a text back. Side note, this is weird as fuck trying to explain myself like this but fuck it whatever. Anyway, to make this shorter, I’m a painfully mediocre dude with my most notable traits being loyalty, empathy, and humor. This feels SUPER pretentious but yeah. All throughout high school “You’ll find someone” or “relax just let it happen” which...

Trail of pathological liars/cheaters; how do I trust again?

(Please forgive me, this is my very first reddit post and this will be a lengthy read but definitely worth it!!) A little background: I'm a 40 swf, never been married, single mom of the most amazing daughter in the world. I have been celibate the last 12 years (exclude a rape incident). I was in a long distance relationship in 2017, my first relationship in 10 years, and was finally making plans to marry and build a life together. Unfortunately he was killed in a car accident the 29th of December that year. It's been very tough since, but I do want to start thinking about moving forward. Unfortunately I don't know how after the following relationships have happened... ​ My first long term relationship with Ex#1, I was 17 and he was 19, was 3 years and he cheated on me the entire time, abused me verbally, physically and financially. In 2001 I have my beautiful daughter, her father was never in the picture. 2 months after having my daughter I met Ex#2 at my parents resta...

How did you finally start loving yourself again?

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i don’t know if this is the right subreddit but i’m 13 and have never hung out/ dated a girl

i know, i hear a lot of people say that i shouldn’t worry about that but i have a friend who is 2 years younger than me and he hangs out with girls all the time. and it makes me feel really dumb that i’ve never had a girlfriend and i’m older yet alone hung out with one. and he makes fun of me for it too.. should i be worried about this? i’ve never asked a girl out simply cause i’m not confident enough. it feels like all of my friends have had girlfriends and all of that except me Submitted May 29, 2019 at 07:59AM i know, i hear a lot of people say that i shouldn’t worry about that but i have a friend who is 2 years younger than me and he hangs out with girls all the time. and it makes me feel really dumb that i’ve never had a girlfriend and i’m older yet alone hung out with one. and he makes fun of me for it too.. should i be worried about this? i’ve never asked a girl out simply cause i’m not confident enough. it feels like all of my friends have had girlfriends and all of that...

I saw her again today.

I haven't seen her in like a few months. We both got out of the subway walking to school (college). She was with another guy, probably just a classmate. When I look at her my heart beats harder and I get it warm. I haven't had that in a long time. I am not someone who goes up to girls and talks easily. She looks like she is from arabic origin like me. But I don't see her often as it is a big school. I am still there at school. Thinking about her. School is almost over. I hope I see her again. Submitted May 29, 2019 at 11:28AM I haven't seen her in like a few months. We both got out of the subway walking to school (college). She was with another guy, probably just a classmate. When I look at her my heart beats harder and I get it warm. I haven't had that in a long time. I am not someone who goes up to girls and talks easily. She looks like she is from arabic origin like me. But I don't see her often as it is a big school. I am still there at school. Thinki...

The story of us.

We used to talk about our future all the time, like we had a clue. Unfortunately, we've never planned that one day I'd be losing you. But I promise.. I promise. That in another life, I would be yours, I would be your girl, I'd be with you forever. That we'd get to keep all our promises. That it would just be us, just us against the world. That in another life, I would make you stay, never go. Never leave. Just so that, I don't have to say.. I will never have to say, that you were the one.. The one that got away. Submitted May 29, 2019 at 02:05PM We used to talk about our future all the time, like we had a clue. Unfortunately, we've never planned that one day I'd be losing you.But I promise.. I promise. That in another life, I would be yours, I would be your girl, I'd be with you forever. That we'd get to keep all our promises. That it would just be us, just us against the world. That in another life, I would make you stay, never go. Never lea...

He doesnt see us getting in a relationship in the forseeable future... how long does that mean?

Ill start off by saying that we have a strong connection and get along amazing. We love spending time together. We have such a good time when we're together and I can feel that were both falling inlove the more time we spend together. He has issues that he doesnt open up about and he says that he can barely be there for himself and needs to learn how to deal with it before getting into a serious relationship. I get it, but I also worry. Im worried that I'm going to get hurt. Im also worried that in some sick way, hes lying about everything. He's so special to me. Ive never found anyone like him before. Im only 20, but ive always found it SO hard to connect with people and with him its always just been so easy. Hes so sweet and caring with me. Hes an old soul and also uses old phrases. He's also brutally honest, and he doesnt want to get my hopes up. He told me at one point that he doesnt see himself working things out for 6-12 months. I dont mind doing what we have bee...

Obsessed

I was just guessing at numbers and figures. The ever so complicated you that I will always love. I've been consistently pulling your puzzles apart like millions of questions of science, of existence.. Of everything.. There will always be a science of you and the constant progress of knowing how happy I am to have you in my life. Words are never enough. Words could never suffice. Words could not speak as loud as my heart. You'd tell me you love me. You'd always come back and haunt me. Every minute. Everyday. Oh and I rush to the start! The beginning. Like it's the very first time. I promise you I will forever be.. Running in circles. Willing to forever be chasing our tails. To forever be loving you.. To always be coming back as we are. Inseparable. Inlove. Obsessed. Submitted May 29, 2019 at 02:16PM I was just guessing at numbers and figures. The ever so complicated you that I will always love. I've been consistently pulling your puzzles apart like millions ...

State of mind

I still find your hair in my bed and in my clothes. Your scent, your warmth, you. Everything that's you.. In my mouth, in my nose.. In my head.. In my heart.. Oh who knows? If you'll still be there when it's all said and done, Or if I'll just find less from now on. From now on.. I am alone.. I still have no windows. In my room.. or my halls.. In my mind.. In my heart.. I was hoping I could look through yours. Sitting in a chair next to your front door.. As I watch you do your makeup on the floor.. Watching, remembering, hoping, praying.. With a heavy heart, thinking.. Every time. Every day. Every second Every minute. I wonder how I'd carry on without you? Submitted May 29, 2019 at 02:27PM I still find your hair in my bed and in my clothes. Your scent, your warmth, you. Everything that's you.. In my mouth, in my nose.. In my head.. In my heart.. Oh who knows? If you'll still be there when it's all said and done, Or if I'll just find less from ...

Can a person never find mutual love?

As long as I lived, I’ve never experienced mutual love at all. Not ever will I think I will find someone to make my life worth more than what it is now. I just don’t see it happening as I am becoming depressed again, and it’s hit like a train. Submitted May 29, 2019 at 09:24PM As long as I lived, I’ve never experienced mutual love at all. Not ever will I think I will find someone to make my life worth more than what it is now. I just don’t see it happening as I am becoming depressed again, and it’s hit like a train.

I don’t seem to love anyone but why is this

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How can you tell the difference between love and lust

So I have never had relationship experience but I'm asking this question for future reference or just for understanding how can a person tell ifthey are truely in love and it is not based off of lust or the sudden emotions you get when you first meet someone or if you have a crush ? I'm not saying those things can't be there but how could you tell or is there no way to tell the difference ? I really thank everyone for there response in advance 😊🙏❤️. Submitted May 29, 2019 at 10:59PM So I have never had relationship experience but I'm asking this question for future reference or just for understanding how can a person tell ifthey are truely in love and it is not based off of lust or the sudden emotions you get when you first meet someone or if you have a crush ? I'm not saying those things can't be there but how could you tell or is there no way to tell the difference ? I really thank everyone for there response in advance 😊🙏❤️.

Riding in uber

So I was out with my girlfriend getting some drinks and we decided to get an uber. When the uber arrives she gets in the front and leaves me in the back all by myself. Obviously this bothered me and she can't understand why. I said so you would rather ride next to a stranger then next to your boyfriend. She said no I just don't think it's a big deal. Is it just me or is this completely rude? Submitted May 29, 2019 at 11:52PM So I was out with my girlfriend getting some drinks and we decided to get an uber. When the uber arrives she gets in the front and leaves me in the back all by myself. Obviously this bothered me and she can't understand why. I said so you would rather ride next to a stranger then next to your boyfriend. She said no I just don't think it's a big deal. Is it just me or is this completely rude?

Crush

He started sitting behind me in study hall! And my friend started trying to talk to him (when I'm around) after I told her I liked him. She's trying to kill me 😂 I'm scared out of nowhere I'm just gonna start blushing (I blush a lot, I don't know why) Submitted May 29, 2019 at 11:55PM He started sitting behind me in study hall! And my friend started trying to talk to him (when I'm around) after I told her I liked him. She's trying to kill me 😂 I'm scared out of nowhere I'm just gonna start blushing (I blush a lot, I don't know why)

I knew i had limited time

I knew what you were going to look like, how you were going to act. You wouldnt believe me if i told you about my wicked intuition. It tells me so much. It got a couple things wrong, but it was so close. I knew who you were going to be. I also knew you werent going to be nice to me. That i would have to fight and beg for your attention, your affection. You surprised me in the first few months, but my intuition is never wrong. I knew that no matter how horrible you became i wouldnt leave, it told me so. Its been about three weeks since i left. Its been about three months sit you decided i was no longer worth trying for. You have no idea how much i miss your hugs, and i hope you never know. People ask me if i loved you. Is eight months enough time to fall in love? You didnt want to be friends and thats okay. I cant force you, i dont want to. When i first saw you, when i realised who you were and why i kept staring at you, i knew that no matter what happened your happiness was a priori...

Sometimes love is right before you and you don't even know it.

(I'm M16) A girl moved to my school last year, from France. She didn't speak English and she was incredibly quiet and often seemed upset. One time I went to the music classroom early after lunch, only to hear the subtle, sweet melody of "a thousand years" coming from the grand piano. I opened the door expecting somebody to be having a music lesson but it was her. Sat alone, as she so often was, she looked up at me and smiled, something I had never seen her do in the 3 months since she had joined. I happened to know this song on violin and so I asked if we could play it together. Now, this is where something happened that has never happened to me in almost 8 years of playing music, such was the connection between us whilst playing that I couldn't help but stare at her as she played; what this connection was is open to debate, but I have an idea... I noticed that tears were slowly falling down her cheek and at that same time I felt my eyes fill with tears. When the...

I love her

I genuinely love my girl so much. She’s sweet and funny and smart . Shes so loyal and I don’t know what I did to deserve a princess like her. Sorry to be gushing, I just got so lucky Submitted May 30, 2019 at 05:26AM I genuinely love my girl so much. She’s sweet and funny and smart . Shes so loyal and I don’t know what I did to deserve a princess like her. Sorry to be gushing, I just got so lucky

Date with my crush

After asking her three times she finally said yes and we went out last weekend. The first time I asked her she said she “wasn’t dating” a mutual friend of ours told me the reason she wasn’t dating is because she is in therapy, I think she has a hard time connecting with men. I asked her a second time a month later and she said yes, because of my persistence, then she ghosted me when the time came for the date. I asked her again a week later and we set a date. I picked her up, I was as nervous as I have ever been, I told her about my nervousness, she told me she had a panic attack and almost canceled me again. Then she told me about how she saw me at an event a week prior and intentionally tried to avoid me and I didn’t even see her there. The date went well, we spent four or 5 hours together, talked a lot. The waiter at the restaurant came to our table a few times and we kept telling her we haven’t even looked at the menu because we were so busy talking. The next day I texted her a ...

DIY Facial Recognition for Porn Is a Dystopian Disaster

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Catfish Fetishists: The Men Who Get Off on Getting Scammed Online

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Catfish Fetishists: The Men Who Get Off on Getting Scammed Online These men willingly hand over their money (as much as hundreds of dollars at a time) to faux con artists who present themselves as beautiful women on social media, but say upfront their pictures are fake. May 29, 2019 at 05:40PM "Continue": http://bit.ly/2EG6gbA #HASHTAGS #blogger, #bloggingtips, #bloggerlife, #bloggersgetsocial, #ontheblog #phxblogger, #phoenixbloggers, #labloggers #theblogissue, #thatsdarling, #darlingmovement, #darlingweekend #thehappynow, #petitejoys, #livethelittlethings, #livecolorfully #fashionista, #fashionblogger, #fashionblog #beautyblogger, #beautycare, #instabeauty, #beautyblog #beautyguru, #beautyproducts, #beautytips, #instamakeup #makeupaddict, #makeupartist, #makeupbyme #hairgoals, #hairinspiration, #instanails, #nailstagram #travelblogger, #travelblog, #travelgram, #travelphoto #travelbloggerlife, #wanderlust, #solotraveler #traveldiaries, #adventure, #i...

She's leaving pretty soon and it's stopping further progress from being made. What to do?

I met this girl a few months back who, after the past few months, I'm absolutely head over heels for. I've made my intentions clear and she's starting to come around. There could be something great here and we're both starting to realize this, but we're really just on the verge of getting things started. Right now we live pretty close by, but her actual home town is far away. Like half a day's drive worth. I'll have to add that from where we come from this is a monumentally long drive, and is not something that can be done as easily as somewhere in the States. We are both exceptionally close to our own families. I initially planned to keep proceeding as normal since it's too early to talk about settling down and permanent residences before there's any real commitment. "She is still working here," I thought, and that progressing the relationship could put us in a much better frame of mind to talk about this. That changed when I recently f...

Can men give me some insight!

Within a span of 2 weeks, yes two weeks, I managed to fuck up my prospects with a guy I was "dating". The Yale educated Mexican man of my dreams! I had been sending him mixed messages, doing the whole push and pull narrative. Not communicating with him effectively and essentially expecting him to be able to read the underlying messages to my texts messages (I know). I am aware of my faults and have taken a concerted effort to address my communication and attachment issues and was working on said issues before he stepped into the picture. Thing is, he caught me during a very stressful period in my life and my stress and baggage was manifesting itself through my exchanges with him. It culminated in us having an argument about our next "date". I had previously told him I had wanted to be friends but walked back on my decision as I had realized I had made this choice under the stress of exams, college graduation. He was steadfast in his reluctance to not do this. I obl...

Fuck ghosting & fuck slow fade

Fuck ghosting & fuck slow fade Folks, I get it, dating is a numbers game. Admittedly I (30M) started dating later in life (mid 20s) and so perhaps I'm developing social insights late. It's just fucking killing me on the inside that modern people act in such aggregious ways such as to consider 'slow fade' or to 'ghost' somehow the norm. Doing this just brings out every fucking insecurity someone may have in themself. I'm XX and have XX problem, or I'm XX ethnicity, or I'm lacking XX. I don't even need to tell my story because there's a million of them out there, but I just got the 'slow fade' treatment. In summary, folks, please don't ever ghost or fade someone. Be an adult and speak your mind so everyone is clear! Submitted May 30, 2019 at 03:48AM Fuck ghosting & fuck slow fadeFolks, I get it, dating is a numbers game. Admittedly I (30M) started dating later in life (mid 20s) and so perhaps I'm developing soc...

Ghost to Zombie

Sooo, I am aware of ghosting, today I learned a new dating term, zombie. A zombie is a person who originally ghosted you, but then out of nowhere, they contact you! Lol Yep. Anyone else experienced a zombie? lol. This has actually happened to me before, not knowing there is a term for it. Anyway, I rather you ghost me forever and not become a zombie, because if you do become a zombie, odds are I have lost all respect for you lol Submitted May 30, 2019 at 03:54AM Sooo, I am aware of ghosting, today I learned a new dating term, zombie. A zombie is a person who originally ghosted you, but then out of nowhere, they contact you! Lol Yep. Anyone else experienced a zombie? lol. This has actually happened to me before, not knowing there is a term for it. Anyway, I rather you ghost me forever and not become a zombie, because if you do become a zombie, odds are I have lost all respect for you lol

I don’t really drink, and guys seem to take it weirdly on dates - how do I avoid this?

I don’t really drink in general. The chief reasons are: 1) I’m trying to lose weight, and I much prefer to eat, so if I’m getting excess calories or am making caloric room in my day, it’s for food. I do get tequila or vodka sodas (they get the job done for being tipsy, holding something in your hand, and are low cal), but I still get nervous about the calories. I also get munchy when tipsy. 2) I’ve recently come to dislike the taste and smell of hard liquor on me after I’m done drinking and am ready to just relax at home for the night. And while I enjoy the feeling of a buzz, it kind of takes me off track. I have a very, very busy schedule where almost every hour of most of the week is allotted to something. Often, drinking to a buzz = wake up later next day to get adequate sleep = schedule is off for day = hurts productivity. However, I do enjoy the tipsy feeling, am not a recovering alcoholic, enjoy wine with dinner, love a good rosé in the summer on a roof, enjoy taking shots -...