Date with my crush

After asking her three times she finally said yes and we went out last weekend. The first time I asked her she said she “wasn’t dating” a mutual friend of ours told me the reason she wasn’t dating is because she is in therapy, I think she has a hard time connecting with men. I asked her a second time a month later and she said yes, because of my persistence, then she ghosted me when the time came for the date. I asked her again a week later and we set a date.

I picked her up, I was as nervous as I have ever been, I told her about my nervousness, she told me she had a panic attack and almost canceled me again. Then she told me about how she saw me at an event a week prior and intentionally tried to avoid me and I didn’t even see her there. The date went well, we spent four or 5 hours together, talked a lot. The waiter at the restaurant came to our table a few times and we kept telling her we haven’t even looked at the menu because we were so busy talking.

The next day I texted her a few times with no response, at the end of the day I told her that I will take her ignoring me as a sign that she isn’t interested and that I am an adult who can handle rejection. She texted me the next day telling me that as much as she wants to be different she doesn’t know how and that her ignoring me isn’t intentional and is the reason she is in therapy, and she agreed to go on a second date with me but as I am traveling and she will be as well, the date isn’t for a few weeks.

I haven’t stopped thinking about her, wondering what to make of all this, wishing I wasn’t crushing so hard on someone who may just end up ghosting me again. I have also been listening to the songs she played for me in the car. I also have known this girl for years but never had s conversation with her until I asked her on the date.

What do I make of all this? Anyone have any feedback? Part of me thinks she was so nervous because she really likes me, otherwise she wouldn’t care, also the hiding from me at the event we were both at, I mean she had to really put some work into avoiding me at that thing. But then she ignores me. Don’t know what to make of it. I think I should work at it because I really like her a lot, more than I have ever liked anyone. She’s weird like me.

Submitted May 30, 2019 at 05:48AM

After asking her three times she finally said yes and we went out last weekend. The first time I asked her she said she “wasn’t dating” a mutual friend of ours told me the reason she wasn’t dating is because she is in therapy, I think she has a hard time connecting with men. I asked her a second time a month later and she said yes, because of my persistence, then she ghosted me when the time came for the date. I asked her again a week later and we set a date.I picked her up, I was as nervous as I have ever been, I told her about my nervousness, she told me she had a panic attack and almost canceled me again. Then she told me about how she saw me at an event a week prior and intentionally tried to avoid me and I didn’t even see her there. The date went well, we spent four or 5 hours together, talked a lot. The waiter at the restaurant came to our table a few times and we kept telling her we haven’t even looked at the menu because we were so busy talking.The next day I texted her a few times with no response, at the end of the day I told her that I will take her ignoring me as a sign that she isn’t interested and that I am an adult who can handle rejection. She texted me the next day telling me that as much as she wants to be different she doesn’t know how and that her ignoring me isn’t intentional and is the reason she is in therapy, and she agreed to go on a second date with me but as I am traveling and she will be as well, the date isn’t for a few weeks.I haven’t stopped thinking about her, wondering what to make of all this, wishing I wasn’t crushing so hard on someone who may just end up ghosting me again. I have also been listening to the songs she played for me in the car. I also have known this girl for years but never had s conversation with her until I asked her on the date.What do I make of all this? Anyone have any feedback? Part of me thinks she was so nervous because she really likes me, otherwise she wouldn’t care, also the hiding from me at the event we were both at, I mean she had to really put some work into avoiding me at that thing. But then she ignores me. Don’t know what to make of it. I think I should work at it because I really like her a lot, more than I have ever liked anyone. She’s weird like me.