Confused with guy and don’t know what to do with dating normal. 31(f)

**SO SORRY FOR LONG POST. DONT WANT ANYONE ELSE TO KNOW HOW STRESSED IM MAKING MYSELF OVER THIS.
So, I met a guy off a dating app(military). I’ll start off saying I’ve been single for a year and a half after a rough breakup. Anyways, I needed time to heal and work on what a healthy relationship was. At this moment, I’m emotionally ready for a relationship but I still have life circumstances I want to sort out before I slide into a serious relationship.
Hence, why I am open to long distance for now And continue with the real point of this post.. I went on a military one because as a veteran, I vibe with veterans and military better. I had been going on bumble dates and i was over meeting a bunch of dudes I wouldn’t want more than a couple drinks with. And I happened to come across him..a sincerely good dude. I started talking to him eight weeks ago. I’m in Florida. He’s stationed in Cali. We talked every day through out the day and it’s going really well. I fly out to meet him last week. I kept it for three days to not be overwhelming. It went great in my opinion. We are both kinda awkward with flirting but we both made it clear we enjoyed it(i think). He even texted me after I left we should definitely do it again and he enjoyed my company as well. So before I let all my crazy out, he does work a lot and I know the texting every day throughout the day wasn’t going to keep up. I’m just making myself insane overanalyzing things. Can’t help it🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ And I have noticed dudes chill with communication after meeting or feeling more comfortable where you stand. I’m a texting fanatic..I’m working on it.
He is going to training for four months so he has a lot going on. I get that. So , obviously not anytime soon will A relationship be starting (if this would progress to one) I kinda like it because like I said, I need time to organize stuff in my life before I actually try to pursue something. My sane side knows there’s no reasons to rush anything at all. Even if this doesn’t go anywhere, ain’t like I’m actively looking to talk to anyone else for a while.
I hadn’t been on that site since the 3rd because honestly I enjoyed him enough and I don’t care to talk to other guys while I found someone I like. Dumb me signed in yesterday and saw that he was on the day before. Kinda bummed me out even though I shouldn’t really be bummed. I know but with the texting slowing down , kinda just not sure what to do.
My question (after all this drawn out explanation of my situation) is should I just straight up make it clear my intentions that I’m not looking to rush but def would like to see where it goes (i promise I’m chill in real life even though I’m appearing as an overanalyzing psycho, I’d chill if I knew he liked me or not. Just Looking for certainty and assurance🙋🏼‍♀️) and I was going to throw out an offer to hang out one night before his school starts(I’m going camping with friends near where he is going to school and we could go to a bar for a few hours ) OR just deal with this agonizing suffering (overdramatic) with wondering if he will offer up something and maybe have to delete his number to avoid temptation of double texting him ?



Submitted May 30, 2019 at 04:07AM

**SO SORRY FOR LONG POST. DONT WANT ANYONE ELSE TO KNOW HOW STRESSED IM MAKING MYSELF OVER THIS.So, I met a guy off a dating app(military). I’ll start off saying I’ve been single for a year and a half after a rough breakup. Anyways, I needed time to heal and work on what a healthy relationship was. At this moment, I’m emotionally ready for a relationship but I still have life circumstances I want to sort out before I slide into a serious relationship.Hence, why I am open to long distance for now And continue with the real point of this post.. I went on a military one because as a veteran, I vibe with veterans and military better. I had been going on bumble dates and i was over meeting a bunch of dudes I wouldn’t want more than a couple drinks with. And I happened to come across him..a sincerely good dude. I started talking to him eight weeks ago. I’m in Florida. He’s stationed in Cali. We talked every day through out the day and it’s going really well. I fly out to meet him last week. I kept it for three days to not be overwhelming. It went great in my opinion. We are both kinda awkward with flirting but we both made it clear we enjoyed it(i think). He even texted me after I left we should definitely do it again and he enjoyed my company as well. So before I let all my crazy out, he does work a lot and I know the texting every day throughout the day wasn’t going to keep up. I’m just making myself insane overanalyzing things. Can’t help it🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ And I have noticed dudes chill with communication after meeting or feeling more comfortable where you stand. I’m a texting fanatic..I’m working on it.He is going to training for four months so he has a lot going on. I get that. So , obviously not anytime soon will A relationship be starting (if this would progress to one) I kinda like it because like I said, I need time to organize stuff in my life before I actually try to pursue something. My sane side knows there’s no reasons to rush anything at all. Even if this doesn’t go anywhere, ain’t like I’m actively looking to talk to anyone else for a while.I hadn’t been on that site since the 3rd because honestly I enjoyed him enough and I don’t care to talk to other guys while I found someone I like. Dumb me signed in yesterday and saw that he was on the day before. Kinda bummed me out even though I shouldn’t really be bummed. I know but with the texting slowing down , kinda just not sure what to do.My question (after all this drawn out explanation of my situation) is should I just straight up make it clear my intentions that I’m not looking to rush but def would like to see where it goes (i promise I’m chill in real life even though I’m appearing as an overanalyzing psycho, I’d chill if I knew he liked me or not. Just Looking for certainty and assurance🙋🏼‍♀️) and I was going to throw out an offer to hang out one night before his school starts(I’m going camping with friends near where he is going to school and we could go to a bar for a few hours ) OR just deal with this agonizing suffering (overdramatic) with wondering if he will offer up something and maybe have to delete his number to avoid temptation of double texting him ?
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