Meeting online date on friday, what if I'm not what he expected?

So basically I (20f) matched with a 23m (I'll call him John) on hinge. I haven't really been on a real date with someone I've met from dating apps/online. Here are some of the things I've been pondering over in my head the past few days, please help.

- John and I have been texting for the past week, everyday actually and it seems like we're hitting it off. I'm worried that we shouldn't have been texting so much because what if we don't have anything to talk about? I'm not super worried about it but it's still in the back of my mind.

- Also, I'm 4'8. I don't really look my age and my height doesn't help either haha... He's 5'11. What if he sees me and is disappointed in how short I am? I mean our heights are listed on our profiles but I keep worrying that he didn't actually see my height in my profile and assumes I'm a more average height.

- From what I can tell from texting him and through his socials, he seems like such a smart, nice and genuine guy. I've kind of had bad experiences with guys in the past. Most of them wanted me for sex and I failed to see that in the beginning because I was confusing the attention they were giving to my body as them actually liking me. My main point is that I tend to get wrapped up in my head and get attached very easily to the idea/fantasy/fairytale of things (hence me being used for sex). I'm really trying to not like John so much because we haven't even met and I feel like there's definitely a cap on how well you can really know someone through a screen.

- I also deal with depression and social anxiety. I wouldn't say it's very severe and it's also pretty manageable right now, sort of. I'm on antidepressants though. When do I tell him about this? I want to tell him on the first date so that he knows what he could be dealing with and can better decide whether or not to continue dating me. Is it moving way too fast to disclose something like that on the first date?

- We're getting dinner at a poke place so it'll be pretty casual. I've seen so many people online saying that dinner dates aren't necessarily a good option. I'm nervous that the date won't go well since it sort of puts the pressure of having to put on an engaging conversation for an hour or so. I don't want him to feel trapped or anything.

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He actually lives about an hour away and he's driving down here to meet me for dinner. We matched because he happened to be in town when I downloaded hinge. I guess you can tell that I don't have that much experience with dating haha.. I just want something serious and I've been hurt a lot which is why I'm so worried, thank you for reading!!

Submitted May 30, 2019 at 01:53AM

So basically I (20f) matched with a 23m (I'll call him John) on hinge. I haven't really been on a real date with someone I've met from dating apps/online. Here are some of the things I've been pondering over in my head the past few days, please help.- John and I have been texting for the past week, everyday actually and it seems like we're hitting it off. I'm worried that we shouldn't have been texting so much because what if we don't have anything to talk about? I'm not super worried about it but it's still in the back of my mind.- Also, I'm 4'8. I don't really look my age and my height doesn't help either haha... He's 5'11. What if he sees me and is disappointed in how short I am? I mean our heights are listed on our profiles but I keep worrying that he didn't actually see my height in my profile and assumes I'm a more average height.- From what I can tell from texting him and through his socials, he seems like such a smart, nice and genuine guy. I've kind of had bad experiences with guys in the past. Most of them wanted me for sex and I failed to see that in the beginning because I was confusing the attention they were giving to my body as them actually liking me. My main point is that I tend to get wrapped up in my head and get attached very easily to the idea/fantasy/fairytale of things (hence me being used for sex). I'm really trying to not like John so much because we haven't even met and I feel like there's definitely a cap on how well you can really know someone through a screen.- I also deal with depression and social anxiety. I wouldn't say it's very severe and it's also pretty manageable right now, sort of. I'm on antidepressants though. When do I tell him about this? I want to tell him on the first date so that he knows what he could be dealing with and can better decide whether or not to continue dating me. Is it moving way too fast to disclose something like that on the first date?- We're getting dinner at a poke place so it'll be pretty casual. I've seen so many people online saying that dinner dates aren't necessarily a good option. I'm nervous that the date won't go well since it sort of puts the pressure of having to put on an engaging conversation for an hour or so. I don't want him to feel trapped or anything.​He actually lives about an hour away and he's driving down here to meet me for dinner. We matched because he happened to be in town when I downloaded hinge. I guess you can tell that I don't have that much experience with dating haha.. I just want something serious and I've been hurt a lot which is why I'm so worried, thank you for reading!!