Aesthetically attracted August 22, 2021 at 12:02AM

I'm so sorry. That's a hard place to be in. There isn't anything wrong with you. What you feel and want is perfectly valid. As someone else said, there are compatibility issues at play, but no on is wrong. Unfortunately, that doesn't make things hurt less or make them that much better. Your partner sounds like a wonderful person and I hope the two of you can come to an understanding or compromise so neither of you feel wounded. Sending you good vibes. August 22, 2021 at 12:01AM

I feel that way a lot and I don’t think it makes you or me an awful person. We just want what we want (or don’t want what we don’t want). Just had a really bad day a couple of days ago - felt like everything was wrong all day - really depressed but just for a day and then back to normal. I live alone with my cat and am a lot happier than when I was in a toxic relationship. I didn’t know I was ace until I was out of that relationship for over 5 years so did the whole dating thing for a (very) long time assuming the problem was that I was always with the wrong person. Anyway, I really could relate to everything you said and I don’t know what the future holds but I have hope that maybe we can find someone that we click with in a non sexual way. August 22, 2021 at 12:00AM

Like, after hearing about the term asexuality? August 21, 2021 at 11:57PM

I'm just surprised these towns aren't in Arkansas! I swear to god I remember there being a town there we came across in my youth named "Toadsuck" August 21, 2021 at 11:55PM

I thought I was bi at first but a couple months or something later I found out what ace was August 21, 2021 at 11:54PM

I'm a cis guy but I have a lot of female friends and get told “I don't count as a guy”. Reckon we're quite similar with attraction patterns. I can see people as attractive, but usually need to establish a safe, close friendship with anyone before they'd occur to me as potential partners or sexually attractive. August 21, 2021 at 11:51PM

obviously you dont get what I'm saying, so I'm. just going to leave it alone. God forbid if I just state an opinion. And I meant GenZ. My brain skips over shit sometimes. August 21, 2021 at 11:45PM

Happy cake day! also, I remember being bugged to much about it that I named a random guy off of the top of my head to fit in. It really sucked. August 21, 2021 at 11:45PM

EXACTLY!!! That's what I'm trying to saaayyyyy!! It's frustrating to see sex everywhere! 😔 It's like it's so damn annoying. I just want to see many people in platonic loving relationships, or even people in romantic relationships where there doesn't have to be a graphic sex scene. That ideology that sex sells, is just incredibly disgusting to me and hopefully that ideology will cease to exist. August 21, 2021 at 11:44PM

This! As a afab person, growing up I wanted to be friends with the guys but people always assumed we were dating. It destroyed so many friendships for me. All I wanted was friends. It was always adults doing that and then kids my age started doing that because they learned it from their parents. It sucked so much. Plus, its creepy. Why would people assume literal CHILDREN are dating?????? August 21, 2021 at 11:44PM

Making sex jokes doesn’t invalidate asexuality. I am aegosexual and joke/talk about sex, ( my mind is a dirty kinky place ) a lot of my fellow aegos do as well. It doesn’t make us any less ace. August 21, 2021 at 11:43PM

About 2 years for me. I identified the possibility then forced myself into several doomed relationships trying to prove myself wrong. Coming to terms with it has been seriously liberating. August 21, 2021 at 11:42PM

Couldn't agree more August 21, 2021 at 11:42PM

I remember so many people would bug me about crushes that I just ended up telling them that it was a guy friend to fit in. Idk if he knew or not but we weren't really close by the end of middle school because of different friend groups. I remember trying to force myself to have a crush so much but it never worked out. I felt left out until I realized people like me were out there. August 21, 2021 at 11:41PM

What portrayal? August 21, 2021 at 11:40PM

Blame big business and the adage sex sells. Western culture has brainwashed us with the idea that sexual attraction = love. Publishers won't publish a story with platonic relationships only, they demand that there be a sexual nuance. Everywhere you look in western culture, sexual attractiveness is highly valued. I spent years with the idea that when the right person ces along I will magically be sexually attracted to them and NEED to have sex with them. And I guess some people don't ever have to question that narrative. But they didn't create it. August 21, 2021 at 11:37PM

The only way to become and remain pure is to shave yourself and cover yourself in hand sanitiser: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xyvxE35X8Ow&ab_channel=PaulieIASIP ​ None of that is ace related. August 21, 2021 at 11:37PM

Dang that is a nice design August 21, 2021 at 11:36PM

I was a big fan of FIFA at school and university. I played every game from 2002 to 06 and from 11 to 16. Also I played FIFA 18 and 19, but then I didn't listen to playlist at all. I simply switched it off in settings. So I don't even know what was there. 😊 August 21, 2021 at 11:34PM

My siblings which are women do and all the women surrounding me do. August 21, 2021 at 11:34PM

Yes women do. I fell onto a rant post about how women don't feel sexual attraction and I explained it to the poster that women unless they are ace do in fact feel sexual attraction. August 21, 2021 at 11:33PM

They sound like terrible people. I hope you were able to get the school to do something about them. August 21, 2021 at 11:33PM