Wikipedia is not going to be the best source for this. While I typically hate to use the argument "anyone can edit wikipedia" it's true. An edit like that is going to fly under the radar because people believe it. Some heteroromantic asexuals (such as yourself, apparently) identify as straight but many don't. Those who don't typically have been harmed, in some form or fashion, by a heteronormative society. Nobody wants to be hurt for being different, but those of us who are seek a community. Heteroromantic asexuals are as queer as anyone else in our community and can wear their labels however they please. And you can take that to the bank from this aromantic asexual trans man who once identified as a heteroromantic asexual woman but still wasn't straight. April 29, 2020 at 12:23AM

Everyone is different. I had a partner once, and I really liked sex, and initiated it often, but when that relationship ended, that was actually when I began to realise that I was asexual, that is I don't have sexual attraction. I happen to enjoy sex, but I don't feel any urge to go out and get some. I haven't had it in 5 years and I'm fine with that. I think, based on seeing some of the conversations on this sub, that I'm a fairly unusual type of asexual, and your husband is a more common type, more sex neutral. April 29, 2020 at 12:20AM

I knew I was different when I was about 13-14, but didn’t find the term asexual till I was about 24 April 29, 2020 at 12:14AM

Well I haven't been in a relationship and I don't know many (any) asexuals so I'm just speaking from my personal experience but I feel like all people even asexuals still "desire" sex, its more we still get sexually aroused, but not really for anyone or anything. Will he ever initiate it though, I feel is a person to person thing. I personally would never just because, the thought of intimacy with someone is very awkward to me and it makes me uncomfortable. Pretty much all physical contact makes me uncomfortable. I think about having sex, and it feels like a crazy fantasy, something I'd love to do but I feel like I never will (sounds stupid I know) because my own personal issues with physical contact and just not seeing people in a serial way. Maybe he doesn't feel comfortable initiating it even if he wants to have sex with you. April 29, 2020 at 12:13AM

I agree with the other comments April 29, 2020 at 12:13AM

Ok incel :) April 29, 2020 at 12:12AM

What? April 29, 2020 at 12:11AM

Everyone is different, you’re going to have to ask him. Maybe ask him what his perfect idea is when it comes to sex and intimacy. Also, Some people are not go-getters when it comes to sex, he might have, and always have trouble initiating but it doesn’t mean he never wants sex. Maybe y’all to him about ways he could signal to you that he is horny without being in that initiating role? It depends on you 2 but it could just be him saying “I’m horny, do you wanna have sex?” In a bland and non-sexy way, but it might be what he needs to get the ball rolling... just an idea but it really comes down to what he wants, expects, and feels comfortable with. April 29, 2020 at 12:10AM

Biromantic asexual. I identified as demisexual for several years because I was deep in the quagmire of denial, but now I know my truth. Woot. April 29, 2020 at 12:08AM

Well, I haven't seen this one before and I like it. April 29, 2020 at 12:06AM

Fantasizing about something is very different than wanting to have that experience in reality. On the other hand, you could even have sex regularly and still be ace. Ultimately you know best what your feelings and experiences are, so a label isn't necessary. Remember that asexuality is a spectrum and if you occasionally experience sexual attraction you could be still ace (e.g grey ace or demisexual ace). If you feel like you need to label yourself, I think you might be a sex positive ace. You don't seem repulsed by sex but curious and willing to explore the possibilities, so I'd go with that if I were you. All in all I'd tell you to explore your sexuality or lack thereof as analytically as possible. Just imagining different scenarios or paying attention to what you feel when seeing a person you consider good looking ought to do the trick, if you don't want to get into potentially awkward situations. Don't be afraid to dig deep! Sexuality is messy and complicate...

Ooo, gotcha (well, kind of. I've never smoked weed). And a stretched comparison is fine; I'll never really know what it's like, so I can't tell you your comparison is wrong anyway. Thanks!!! April 28, 2020 at 11:37PM

I don't really think the meme implied Asexuals hated love. The love-hating allo would want to be around Ace people (implied aro/ace people) probably because they're less prone to mentioning anything romantic that the love-hating allo hates. The fact that it involves a love-hating allo kind of demands the understanding of your conclusion. April 28, 2020 at 11:37PM

We realize people grow and change here. If Ace feels like the right label right now then use it. If down the line that changes then embrace a new label. It doesn't matter if that change is finding that special someone and becoming Demi, your transition changing how you feel about sex, or your sex repulsion fading. Growth is good, we want you to feel comfortable with your labels. If you use it for 6 months or the next 60 years you're welcome to use it. April 28, 2020 at 11:33PM

Aaron is just great, I loved the show and I also love his acting. He is amazing 😍 April 28, 2020 at 11:32PM

I started noticing signs around like 12, confirmed ace at 14. It’s been like this for years and since figuring out, I haven’t much doubted whether I’m ace. April 28, 2020 at 11:31PM

But also a friendly reminder that ace people can have a sex drive - just lack of sexual attraction April 28, 2020 at 11:25PM

If so, how does it feel? How do you overcome the post-orgasm disappearance of desire to do it? Submitted April 28, 2020 at 11:22PM If so, how does it feel? How do you overcome the post-orgasm disappearance of desire to do it?

This is an odd situation, but here goes. My partner is very well-known by many people. We both have kinks that line up perfectly, and we've talked about them, but she absolutely refuses to actually explore anything beyond the most vanilla sex. It's not that she doesn't want to, it's that she's paranoid about even her most basic sexual preferences leaking- and when I say it like that, it sounds like she's into fringe niche shit, but no. When we started dating, it took about 4-5 months after we started having sex for her to blow me, which is really saying something because I've since learned that it's one of her favorite things to do. Turns out that the prior hesitance was because she was worried I'd be recording somehow while she was busy down below. I understand her fears. I don't want to seem insensitive here. There was an incident a while ago that probably kicked off this paranoia; I don't even know if calling it 'paranoia' is fai...

I don't really know much about bondage, but is there anything that I am able to do by myself? I have an anal vibrator but i'm not sure if there is a way to give myself more pleasure than just masturbating with it in my ass. If anyone can give me any tips that would be amazing :) Submitted April 28, 2020 at 11:38PM I don't really know much about bondage, but is there anything that I am able to do by myself?I have an anal vibrator but i'm not sure if there is a way to give myself more pleasure than just masturbating with it in my ass.If anyone can give me any tips that would be amazing :)

Do women with children find it sexy if their partner talks about sex in code in front of the kids? Like "oh honey I think we need to feed the bunny later." Is it a turn on to bring up future sex in front of the kids in a cryptic way? Submitted April 28, 2020 at 11:49PM Do women with children find it sexy if their partner talks about sex in code in front of the kids? Like "oh honey I think we need to feed the bunny later." Is it a turn on to bring up future sex in front of the kids in a cryptic way?

Hey, guys, I need some advice and don't know who to talk to as it is a bit awkward/personal. I would like answers from both female and males. Just a quick summary about me (don't know if it is relevant) I am a male (M25) and dating for 1 YEAR AND a HALF with my Girlfriend (F26) and we are in love. So here are the questions; When you are in a long relationship and the girl is on the pill do most guys wear a condom or not? (I know its a choice of the couple, but talking from a general way) How much or is there such thing as too much sex? (me and my GF have mainly 3 times a day sometimes more sometimes less and we do it because we feel like and not because we have to or anything). I heard that when a man ejaculates and the sperm come in contact with oxygen it dies and cant swims, is this true? ( I saw this porn a lot and always question it. So the guy cums on the girl the belly or boobs and then proceeded to continue to have sex. Does this mean that the sperm is useless alre...

Every time I’m new in a relationship, I’m always really nervous that I can come on too strong, or that I’m too sexual (F18). I always communicate with my partners about them telling me if they’re comfortable or not, but no matter what, after doing something whether that be just making out or trying something new, I feel like I disrespected them or made them uncomfortable (even if when told me that I didn’t). I don’t know, do you guys think I’m just not ready to get sexual with anyone? Submitted April 28, 2020 at 11:49PM Every time I’m new in a relationship, I’m always really nervous that I can come on too strong, or that I’m too sexual (F18). I always communicate with my partners about them telling me if they’re comfortable or not, but no matter what, after doing something whether that be just making out or trying something new, I feel like I disrespected them or made them uncomfortable (even if when told me that I didn’t). I don’t know, do you guys think I’m just not ready to g...