My (21F) boyfriend (20M) and I have been dating for 9 months. He and his friends play video games online pretty regularly. I don’t have a problem with him playing video games all the time since it’s his main social outlet and he has a lot of fun. With that being said, the one thing that makes me super uncomfortable is the fact that one of his friends’ moms plays video games with them regularly and has become a part of their friend group. She calls them by nicknames and joshes around with them as if she were their age. That part is a little weird for me, but I don’t think I would give it much mind if it were just that. What weirds me out is the fact that she makes it a point to get into the music that they listen to, travels to see concerts with them, and attends parties and other social outings with their group of friends. I have told him in the past that I think it’s odd behavior and am surprised that it’s not uncomfortable for him (a college student) to be hanging out with someon...

Like the title says, I have self-esteem issues that comes along with my depression. It's gotten a lot better recently, but I'm finding myself scared to be in relationships because of it. I feel like I'm just too unattractive, too introverted, too awkward, too boring, etc. I just moved into college and when I compare myself to the other, more attractive guys here, I just get discouraged. I've been in plenty of relationships before, and my exes have told me that I'm very attractive and that I was a good boyfriend, but I feel like I wasn't acting like how a good boyfriend should act? I was just very awkward in terms of physical contact and I felt like I was very boring to talk to. So while it would be nice to start a relationship up again, I feel like I'm just too lame for one, and I guess not deserving of one? The obvious answer is to start seeing a therapist and get medicated for my depression, which I am working on doing soon, but I still just feel like I...

I (19M) have a best friend (19F) who is moving away tomorrow and I'm trying to process things emotionally. We've been friends since elementary school (for around 10 years or so) She means a lot to me and her moving away is going to take me a long time to process. This is a friend who has helped me through thick and thin. I had no friends in elementary school and she was the only one who was a real friend to me. She's helped me through so much—she helped me come to terms with being transgender (I'm a trans guy) and with being bisexual. She's helped me through a bad home life and through having transphobic/homophobic parents. She's given me hope when I lost all hope. I struggle with depression and anxiety and she's always been there for me. She is my only friend that I have and I care about her very much. I am happy knowing that she is doing what she wants to do in life. Thank you to everyone who read this. If anyone has any suggestions as to how I can cop...

we were together for about two months before we broke up for a while. since, we’ve gotten back together and it’s been almost a year. it’s an amazing, healthy, and happy relationship now, but before we broke up it wasn’t, and the farther away from it we get the more i look back at it and resent him a little. i asked him out in high school because i liked him a lot, and he agreed and we started a relationship. he never paid attention to me, so everyday i’d be just watching him have fun and mess around with everyone in class and never really give me the time of day unless he had to. if i ever asked him about it he told me he was going through a hard time so he was being distant to people, when i was clearly the only one he was being distant with. he rarely texted me and if he did he would barely respond. we would plan dates and then day-of he’d bail. the two dates we went on were only 3 hours long, and the last one we had our first kiss. it was my first kiss ever so at the time it meant...

My ex broke things off in a really harsh way. I was a mess and completely heartbroken. It took a really long time for me to get over it. Recently, my texted me out of the blue asking to talk. I never responded because I didn't think anything good would come of it. He moved to another country to for grad school, so I doubt he'd be asking to get back together, but part of me is going crazy wondering what he wanted to talk about and kicking myself for not responding, but the other part of me knows I can't get sucked back into that and I need to just let him/it go, no matter how much I care for him. Do you guys have any advice? tl;dr: My ex who broke my heart contacted me after moving to another country and I didn't respond. Submitted September 08, 2019 at 11:53PM My ex broke things off in a really harsh way. I was a mess and completely heartbroken. It took a really long time for me to get over it.Recently, my texted me out of the blue asking to talk. I never resp...

Throwaway, also on mobile, yada yada. We’ll call my girlfriend A. A and I moved in together a couple weeks ago after dating for almost 2 years. She has a 100lb dog and a cat. Well behaved, I loved them, and A is typically a responsible and amazing pet owner. The issue I’m posting about is COMPLETELY out of character and I’m so mad I literally don’t know what to do next. I’m pet sitting for 2 weeks and staying at the persons house, which started last night. A got off work around 6, went home to feed the pets and walk the dog, then went to drink at a friend’s house around 7. She got too drunk and sent me a text at 3AM saying she was staying there - totally fine, obviously that’s better than driving drunk. My phone didn’t charge over night and my charger wasn’t working this morning, so around 3PM today, I headed back to our place to get a charger and some other things. In the car, my charger miraculously starts working and I can get my phone to turn on, so I call A and tell her I’m he...

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. He had been asking me to move in since four months of dating, but I started moving in in July. I'm still in the process of transferring things over from my parents. My boyfriend's roommate is also one of his best friends and lives primarily in the basement. The home is owned by my boyfriend. I've noticed that the roommate leaves messes and doesn't clean at all. My boyfriend has complained about this, but I happily clean the house. My boyfriend's roommate has been dating his girlfriend for around 4 months. Over this period, they have had explosive fights...one of which landed him in the ER. They drink frequently and are sometimes up into the morning. The drinking is no problem, but the fights that follow and the mess is not okay. My boyfriend received a text message from his roommate asking if his girlfriend can move in because her current roommate is moving out and otherwise she will have to move back home. He s...

To preface: I generally show myself as a level headed person. I try to see both sides of arguments, I am able to empathize with the worst people, and I realise the worst parts about me and actively try to change myself to be the best person I can be. Unfortunately that comes from a very toxic mindset. I've always been one to fish for attention, specifically good attention. I want as many people to like me as possible and hatred or no attention scares me, although i still know that I cant get everyone to like me but that doesnt stop me from trying. My ego is massive, younger me thought I was better than everyone else, I've grown up but that doesnt mean I'm not naturally, and instinctively, selfish. I am not very confident at all, my self esteem is low from semi-constantly realizing how not great I am. I'm always thinking about what other people are thinking, in general. I mean at any moment I look at people and wonder what they are thinking (specifically what they think...

I 26/f and my bf is 28/m. Been dating for a year. We planned to get a nice room today and everything was ready to go. He told me last night he was nervous about it (not his first time having sex) because it's my first time. He said it was a big deal for him. Today he lets me know he wants to wait till next month for my bday to make it more special. He kept saying "idkkk...just another time". What the hell is going on? Lol he really wanted to do this other times and couldn't wait and now that we were, he backed out. TL;DR...bf changed his mind on sleeping with me after dating me for a year. Submitted September 09, 2019 at 12:08AM I 26/f and my bf is 28/m. Been dating for a year.We planned to get a nice room today and everything was ready to go. He told me last night he was nervous about it (not his first time having sex) because it's my first time. He said it was a big deal for him.Today he lets me know he wants to wait till next month for my bday to make...

So my wife and I have been separated since January but are trying to work through things with bouts of success and failure. right now I think both of us are trying hard to reconcile and things have been better. She originally was the one who demanded I leave her and our two kids and walk away with nothing. I moved in with a friend and spent 5 months there. Tried a week at the house and it was toxic and terrible so I found my own place. Have been living there since early June and get the kids every Tuesday night and then either a Friday or Saturday night from 3 pm to 3 pm. We still do a lot of things together as a family and I really enjoy it. I’m sad she’s still convinced I’m this abusive controlling person. I’ve been in therapy since last October. Latest fight is about a mutual friend. He was my old roommate from college who we did a lot of things with when we were together. During this separation I’ve leaned on him to vent and express frustration. Same with one of our other mutua...

So theres this girl that's literally so cute and sweet and is into all the same stuff I am, I really really like her and we went out a couple times this summer but it was kinda awkward bc anxiety. We slowly stopped talking but recently started talking again and hanging out more. I tried all summer to forget about her but I recently hung out with her and as soon as we started talking and laughing together again all my feelings came flooding back. So that's problem 1, problem 2 is my friend asked her out- except he didn't use the word date and had a panic attack while doing it and she's been flaking out of it so it's been over 3 weeks since he's asked. Hes also been talking w her a lot less since then. So... I really like this girl but I don't know what the hell to do. Is it worth it? Would I be a bad friend? How should I approach it? I've seriously tried to move on but every time she's so damn cute and funny I just can't bring myself to, I...

So I’m going round to my boyfriends house for the first time on Wednesday, for our first evening in together. He’s working from home for the next 3 weeks, so he can have lie- ins if he wants too in the mornings. Anyway, I’m not sure how to ask if he’d like me to stop over or not? Essentially, I need to know because 1. I’d need to pack an overnight bag due to work the next morning 2. I don’t really fancy driving back to my house at midnight as I don’t really like driving at night, and he lives right next to some woods filled with deer. 3. I’ll be really tired to drive late. So, how do I ask him if he’d like me to stop over or not without sounding rude? If I left at 10.00pm it wouldn’t be much of an evening (only 3 hours together) but at least it wouldn’t be too late for me to drive home. I only really need to know so I can prepare. Any help on how I can ask him would be much appreciated! TLDR - boyfriend has asked me to come over for the first time, for the evening, during the we...

My (26f) boyfriend Aaron (31m) has a loyal business partner and best friend, Jamie, since their college days (33m). Jamie has started acting very strange toward me and the three of our personalities complicate things further. And I don’t know what I want Aaron loves me no doubt, but he is emotionally detached and doesn’t know how to properly love a girl, even while he knew he loved me he cheated once physically and numerous way-over-the-line emotionally, combined with passive aggression which he doesn’t consider it a form of aggression. Jamie has always been there for me and listen to me while things with Aaron happened again and again. Lately Jamie has been making remarks when his drunk such as, “I’ll take care of you”, “wherever I go you’ll come with me and I’ll look after you”, and some illicit jokes (non-sexual). Yesterday a group of friends we were drinking and were on the topics of daddy issues, he suddenly remarked “imagine if I married your mother (all my friends know my mo...

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I'm demiromantic asexual the part of the sexual attraction I can't say u anything bcs I never felt it lol but for me I need a looong time to know them first and well I feel romantic attraction for a day to other ahaha like oops but I need a lot of time to get to know that person and then maybe I feel it or maybe no September 09, 2019 at 12:12AM

What do you do? If you're in school/job hunting/high pressure job, the easy thing to say is "Oh, I don't have time for a relationship right now. I want to focus on education/job/career/my llama breeding volunteer work/whatever. Casual dating around is not for me." For guys hitting on you, spend time visibly chatting with friends/family you actally want to connect with. If you need time alone, find a private place with a door. I've gone to a dozen weddings solo, and they mostly didn't bother me unless I was alone at a table in public somewhere. September 09, 2019 at 12:10AM

Yeah, I'm not sure how to interpret it since it's not just some particular feelings (like sexual desire) but everything. I've never been sexually attracted to anyone, I've never felt a romantic attraction either. I can't remember the last time I was actually happy or sad. Someone could literally walk up to me on the street and punch me in the face and I wouldn't get angry at them. I don't get nervous or stressed about anything, but at the same time I don't feel any joy or accomplishment for getting anything done. Clearly there's something not quite right upstairs with me, and I don't know if I'd have a lack of sexual attraction if that were resolved. Not that that would change anything for me at the moment. Even at my lowest point I still think of myself as asexual rather than an allosexual who lacks the desire. If that changes in the future then I'll deal with it then, but for now this is just who I am. September 09, 2019 at 12:08...

Idk how to add it lol I’m new on here 😂😂 I think I found it on here though, it’s comparing different sexualities to Harry Potter houses. September 09, 2019 at 12:03AM

Love that September 09, 2019 at 12:01AM