I guess I’m fine with “single” as is. I mean, you could be married but in name only - does that change how you answer the status question on an application? You could be in a relationship - but is that monogamous? Poly? Do we need sub categories to further clarify? I have been single for all but six months of my life. It impacts how I file my taxes, how I plan my finances, and how I feel in a world that seems normalized for couples. Whether I’d like to be partnered or not, those things don’t change. I guess I go back to something I said elsewhere today - labels are useful, but they don’t tell the whole story. They never can. August 14, 2021 at 12:00AM

Somebody goofed around with their sexuality too much August 13, 2021 at 11:59PM

Mostly asexuals are single August 13, 2021 at 11:58PM

I disagree. I don’t think that sexual attraction dilutes what’s beautiful in the world. I’d venture a guess that some allos would argue the opposite. I often forget that there are billions of people on this rock and that means there are billions of ways to experience life. Just as none of us here in the community experiences asexuality the same way, we will never truly see the world exactly as someone else does. And that’s a pretty trippy, amazing thing. Maybe, in that sense we’re already living the multiverse - intensely and beautifully and uniquely. August 13, 2021 at 11:54PM

If you don't want a relationship in general, you could point out that their derision is in fact calling Paul a liar in I Corinthians 7:7–8, that you have the gift of celibacy. If you do want a relationship but just not sex, you can highlight the "mutual consent" part of I Corinthians 7:5, which itself indicates that some people are fine with that, then point out the "gift of celibacy" thing described in I Corinthians 7:7–8 to reinforce that yes, lack of sex something some people are fine with. To really smack them on their collective noses, you can mention that their sitting in the seat of scoffers is not exactly a fruit of the Spirit (cf. Psalm 1:1). If they persist in the ageism, whether by looking down on you as too young or by protesting your scolding, then you can point to I Timothy 4:12. I hope this helps you engage them per their own alleged standards! August 13, 2021 at 11:51PM

You're being sexually harassed. It's not okay just because you're a man and you don't have to tolerate it. You can definitely shut it down politely and pointedly. "I don't appreciate you making comments about my body and grabbing at me. Please stop or I'll be walking away from this conversation." If it's work events and there are coworkers making comments you should take it to HR and stick to facts. "___ made ___ comments about me and touched my body without my permission despite my asking them to stop." Just remember that you setting boundaries is not making a scene and neither is you telling someone firmly to stop touching or objectifying you. You're allowed to say that you don't like what's happening or how you're being touched. I've told coworkers before that I prefer to not be touched at all because of some overly friendly people I worked with. August 13, 2021 at 11:48PM

This is ether really discouraging or really encouraging depending how you look at it August 13, 2021 at 11:48PM

I feel this hard. I used to love being aego before I knew that was me. Romantic novels and smut and art used to be cute and fun to see but at some point something clicked off for me and now it makes me feel bad sometimes. It’s like “oh people actually do stuff like fall in love and have sex for real they actually do it and not just read about it” August 13, 2021 at 11:46PM

give me a good reason to be proud. August 13, 2021 at 11:41PM

So I realised that I'm demisexual which is controversially considered part of asexuality. I started noticing that the thought of having sex with anyone I didn't know (or have a very deep emotional bond with) made me feel gross and irked and I started to realize that I couldn't get turned on at all by people I didn't have that bond with, regardless of circumstance. That's when I started to look into it more and found Demi sexuality August 13, 2021 at 11:40PM

a rational thought August 13, 2021 at 11:36PM

Thank you for clarification and I 1000% agree. I was raised in that same type of environment. 'Desire' may have been a better word choice, I think. Just wanting to be there for their partner in whatever way that meant to the partner. Not like "I need this so X or this because Y" and putting that pressure on the Ace partner. I appreciate your time and answers! August 13, 2021 at 11:36PM

Literally have this happening above this post oml August 13, 2021 at 11:35PM

Sorry, who shouldn’t what? I’m not sure if you mean Reddit shouldn’t target ads to you directly, or that aces shouldn’t have sex? It feels like whatever ad system is being used just looks for sex talk and shows what it thinks is an appropriate ad. Since we tend to talk about it a lot - even when we’re talking about not doing it - I guess what you really need is smarter AI! August 13, 2021 at 11:34PM

awesome! glad i could help :D August 13, 2021 at 11:30PM

thanks for the link! i've been looking for a good ace ring, and this one is perfect! August 13, 2021 at 11:28PM

They shouldn't. I'm not in a relationship, I never have been, I won't be in probably the next five years, and even then, I won't do more than romantic stuff. August 13, 2021 at 11:27PM

thank u! it's from shein ! August 13, 2021 at 11:27PM

There’s some firsthand descriptions on the subreddit’s Experiences page: https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/wiki/experiences ? August 13, 2021 at 11:27PM

https://ca.shein.com/Stainless-Steel-Round-Ring-p-2015291-cat-1759.html thanks! i got it from shein :) August 13, 2021 at 11:25PM

i can relate to that, it made me question if i even was ace. but i’ve managed to come to terms with myself, if you ever want to talk my dms are open :) August 13, 2021 at 11:24PM

By the way, if someone actually sees the word "asexual" and their gut response to it is tasteless sexual advance, you can safely bet a trillion dollars that it’s 100% intended aphobia. I think you already know that though, since you're considering the hypothetical scenario of the most utopian rose-tinted case and not this exact case. August 13, 2021 at 11:19PM

most people do not believe asexuality is real, meanwhile I can't believe sexual attraction is a thing 🙃 August 13, 2021 at 11:15PM