(30M) I met my first love when I was 17. Had kids at age 20 and 21. I stayed with her until I was 24, but eventually left her after a seven year relationship. I haven't really dated since. I aquired full custody of both of my children and have mostly been focusing on raising them while building my career. My logic for waiting so long to start dating is that I will have much better options later in life if I don't have young children and am more financially stable. Sometimes I feel like when the time comes and I do start dating, girls are going to think It's weird that I have only been with one person before. So my question is, is it a turn off to find out a guy has very little experience dating other woman or is it a good thing? Submitted December 31, 2021 at 02:14AM (30M) I met my first love when I was 17. Had kids at age 20 and 21. I stayed with her until I was 24, but eventually left her after a seven year relationship. I haven't really dated since. I aquired ...

That you just 'haven't found the one' December 31, 2021 at 01:35AM

This just made me realize something. There are people who believe people with autism/autists (using both terms because I know different people have different feelings on which fits) cannot feel sexual attraction. There are also people who believe that humans cannot not feel sexual attraction. That heavily implies something about people who believe both statements. Like believing either is bad and people who believe the original have a high chance of looking down on people with autism/autists but the combination of both scares me. December 31, 2021 at 01:33AM

I 31F just broke off my wedding over my ex 33M wedding. Sorry for the post I'm a little tipsy. We were 2 weeks away from the wedding and looking at my fiancee you could see he could've been a virgin. The other day I got a message from his brothers wife. It was a picture of their (my ex and her) daughter. She told me he also has a son but with both kids his parental right were terminated. To make matters worse she posted the whole drama on FB. I was embrassed. He doesn't have a place to go or any money (he's on disability) so I told him he can sleep downstairs. I blocked her bc she kept texting me about the kids. I love kids and want my own. Everyone says I need to kick him out but I feel bad. Am I stupid or an asshole? Plus I told him I'm not with him Submitted December 31, 2021 at 01:15AM I 31F just broke off my wedding over my ex 33M wedding. Sorry for the post I'm a little tipsy. We were 2 weeks away from the wedding and looking at my fiancee you could...

I know some aces are able to enjoy sex without sexual attraction, but how do they? Sexual attraction doesn't really affect enjoyment of sex from what I've heard. The answer is, experimentation. You have to get familiar with your body and what physical sensations are pleasurable to it if you want to enjoy sex. You can do this alone or with a partner, but be open with your partner about what you're going through/feeling. If you thought you'd enjoy something and you didn't, switch up what you're doing/ask then to switch. Consider bringing toys into it as well; sometimes partnered toy playing can help hit the spots people have a hard time stimulating. Eta: don't force yourself to go through with something just because you think you should. That's the fastest path to resentment. Just experiment with different things as long as you want to. December 31, 2021 at 12:45AM

What do you mean by "the conversation got shot down"? Because I can interpret this in two very different ways. Either: they don't know what asexuality really is, you couldn't explain it very well, and the conversation kind of ground to a halt, in which case maybe you can give them some reading material or take them through the steps of how you found out you were ace; or they got angry when you brought it up and you're scared that if you bring it up again they'll get angry again, in which case that's a massive red flag with 'Abuse!' written all over it and I urge you to get help, for instance by googling your country's abuse hotline number and calling it; even if you're not sure that it's abuse, there's no harm in talking to someone about it. December 31, 2021 at 12:44AM

I started drinking at 14, and I became sick of it by the time I was 18. I'm 19 now, and every girl I talk to goes clubbing and drinking at bars and stuff as their only hobby, or activity. I think it's ruining my dating luck, because it's not as if I can hang round with them and just drink water. It would be creepy aswell. Let me know what you think. Any advice would be great Submitted December 31, 2021 at 12:15AM I started drinking at 14, and I became sick of it by the time I was 18. I'm 19 now, and every girl I talk to goes clubbing and drinking at bars and stuff as their only hobby, or activity. I think it's ruining my dating luck, because it's not as if I can hang round with them and just drink water. It would be creepy aswell. Let me know what you think. Any advice would be great