Because bis get aces because exclusion so they look it up? November 28, 2020 at 11:53PM

Really? How so? November 28, 2020 at 11:52PM

I feel exactly the same. I love cuddling and kissing a partner but just the thought of being naked or having sex with someone is uncomfortable at best. I don't know how this hasn't occured to me earlier that this isn't how most people are but hey November 28, 2020 at 11:51PM

Hey! Saw your comment on my thread, really feel for you man and I can definitely empathise with all those feelings of sadness and rejection you're getting. My advice as a person in a similar situation is to keep up communication with your SO, like if you have questions about the situation you've gotta ask otherwise you'll end up creating the wrong answers and fixating on those yourself. I'd say the first thing you gotta do is figure out how much sex means to you in a relationship or if you would value any kind on non sexual intimacy on a similar level? Cos if that's the case you could work together on (re)building up a strong foundation of intimate connections together on a non sexual level. This ties into the communication, so as you're craving to be touched maybe you need to express this to her as she's not helping you here, would just a good morning kiss/hug and cuddles when sat together fulfil this for you? And seen as though you have posted in r/asex...

The best way is either popcorn night or being a rebel kid and staying awake. November 28, 2020 at 11:50PM

You’re right, it is better to stay safe than sorry. I’ll go to a youth center next week, hopefully it’s not closed due to corona! Thank you for caring:) November 28, 2020 at 11:43PM

Aww it's cute! November 28, 2020 at 11:43PM

Has she told you she's asexual? November 28, 2020 at 11:43PM

Thanks:) It’s always nice to find new communities that you can relate to. It’s also comforting knowing people have been in similar situations as me, even though it’s sad that we have to go trough it in the first place of course. I needed to hear this, sometimes I’m just too naive or just don’t realize the reality of the situation, but I do need to be more careful. I too hope that I one day can have a safe and healthy relationship with sex. What I do know for now is that this just isn’t the best time for it, and I’m going to prioritize taking care of myself first. And if someone shows up in my life I’ll take it from there. November 28, 2020 at 11:42PM

Couldn't think of a worse way to spend a night November 28, 2020 at 11:42PM

Excuse the fuck out of me? My roommate was raped and I can safely say he did not enjoy it. And I’m allo as fuck and would still have severe issues with anyone just walking up and treating me like a sex object November 28, 2020 at 11:41PM

Broadly, I think the two are conflated by most, because they're used to the heteronormative take that men have a dick and women have a pussy. Due to an increasing nuance in the gender discussion, this two have become increasingly separated. I think that if a single human alive can separate the two entirely, it's evidence enough that the two cannot be irrevocably entangled from one-another. For me, preference is based on presentation , in that I tend to prefer folks who are more femme, regardless of what they're packing because most options are their own delight. On the other side of that, I've seen folks who identify as "cocksexual" or "gynophilic" in that they are ambivalent to your gender orientation for romance but sexually have a genital preference. November 28, 2020 at 11:40PM

I'm glad to hear you are doing better :) November 28, 2020 at 11:40PM

I HAVE to try this November 28, 2020 at 11:36PM

It was virtual (covid) so I don't know if assault counts. November 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

I developed an addiction. But for a long time I was content only masturbating every month or so. I do have these feelings that abstinence makes me pure. But it's only because i want to have sex with someone i trust and havent met anyone who I do. I'm not ace November 28, 2020 at 11:34PM

Yo, try r/DeadBedrooms . This is not the place for this. It doesn't even sound like an asexuality problem, though of course I'm not your partner so I can't know for sure. Good luck, but, please, do not come here with unsolicited potential harmful advice anymore. November 28, 2020 at 11:34PM

Thanks, it's just a sort of habit to apologize yk? XD November 28, 2020 at 11:32PM

Don't treat yourself like that. The other person should have respected you and your wishes. You probably wouldn't say I should have known better. November 28, 2020 at 11:27PM

Don't apologize for having a sense of humor November 28, 2020 at 11:27PM

Your being sarcastic right November 28, 2020 at 11:27PM

Ha ha! that's funny! Thanks for pointing that out, someone should've made a joke about that! November 28, 2020 at 11:26PM

I dont mind going outside with friends, but i would rather be inside November 28, 2020 at 11:25PM