Well, the title can preface everything... I'm quite a needy person although I don't consider myself as clingy. I like some conversations during the day and going out at least once a week. My boyfriend have been together for almost 7 months and in general things were great. I have some problems with anxiety and depression that are being treated with meds and therapy, but those problems(and testing medication) don't really help. So, the problem is, I feel frustrated because I end up seeing myself in a bad light every time I ask for attention... For exemple: He studies full time, I work and study, so usually he has more free time. But suddenly he wanted to cancel our plans on the weekend (only one day) because he needs to read some texts for uni. Mind you that we don't text much either because he's busy reading as well... While I work 8 hours a day and have uni at night, have my final project and 2 essays to deliver on the next week, but I'm managing to make tim...

Some background, when we first got together we would do everything. Kissing, sensual touching, sex, oral, etc. He would just start touching me and one thing lead to another and we would have the best sex. But it only lasted 5-6 months. Then it's like he got tired of me. He took a break from me last year and we stayed in different places. He would come over to have great sex with me and then leave. But now that we are offical again its back to next to nothing. We have sex maybe once a week if in super lucky but usually ends up being around 2-3 a month. This is incredibly low for me. And its usually me begging for him to have sex with me. I cant remember the last time we just started kissing and then lead it into sex. It makes me feel unattractive. I dont know if hes suffering with anything but last time I asked he said it was because he sees me to much and it's not really exciting or like hes been missing me. It makes me feel shitty. Like I wish I could disappear for a week ...

Alright so i apologize if i break any rules here its my first time posting and im not sure how to go about this. First of all, i have known my roommate for less than a year, and we met through work. We dont work together anymore because i found a new job. But anyway we signed a 12 month lease in January for a 2 bedroom apartment. I was excited about this as id finally be moving out of my moms. Anyway, the first month wasnt bad. We got a bunch of our stuff organized and it isnt the nicest apartment or complex but it fit our budgets at the time. Her boyfriend, who i should mention was released from prison last year and is still a felon and gang member, would stay over once in a while and i didn't think anything of it as i would have some friends over here and there too. And i mean i met the guy before and he didnt seem bad but i know im an idiot for getting myself into this situation in the first place but i didn't know what i was really in for. Anyway, The second month he sta...

I (22M) met this lovely young lady (20F) that is currently in school. She is military like me, and she is just fucking amazing. I dont know how she isn't in a relationship yet. Everything I want she has. I just told her that I can't start anything with her cause I can't control my feelings that well. I am legit scared shitless to be hurt again (Cheated on by someone who I love with all my heart). I can't let myself get to far cause it'll drive me fucking crazy. I'm paranoid as fuck every time someone that can make me better as a person comes into my life. I NEED help to overcome this agonizing fear of getting fucked over. Cause I know it will break me like my last relationship did if I were to get hurt again. I know this stems from how I was raised throughout my childhood. I never felt loved by anyone. I was in the childrens aid society (CAS) that helps kids who's parents can't look after them because they aren't fit for parenting. So I was tossed...

My husband (31M) and I (26F) have been married for 3 years now and have an incredible relationship, we are so happy together and are perfect for each other in every way. My mom has always been EXTREMELY vocal about her feelings on my relationships and she has extremely skewed views on how relationships should be. She doesn’t believe that partners should have a life outside of each other which I am starkly against, she doesn’t even think that I should “expose” him to my single friends. I’m very close with my parents (they live nearby and I work with my mom so I see her a lot) so we do chit chat a lot but I’ve learned to gloss over the topic of my marriage as she will turn everything into a fight (she literally chewed me out once because I brought up an exciting work meeting my husband had with a woman who was 20 years his senior). I have had countless conversations with her but very little has changed, yes it’s gotten slightly better but this is mostly due to me not telling her much an...

I've (24 M) been using Tinder for a few months just to experiment with really and I've noticed an interesting phenomenon. I find lot of times I will match with a girl then when I go to message her I often get no response. Objectively I think I'm a pretty good looking guy (humble too) and have had pretty good success in real world dating, so it just seems a little bizarre to me and my guy friends have noticed it too. If someone messages me I'll always give them a response at least out of politeness. At first I thought they were bots but most actually look like legit accounts. Also there's nothing creepy or anything in my bio description, just saying a little bit about myself and hobbies etc. Is Tinder just a total waste of time (most probable reason I'm thinking) if you're genuinely looking to meet someone. This post probably sounds salty but I'd like to hear your perspective. Thank you! ​ ​ tl;dr Am I wasting my time on Tinder? Submitted April 0...

My new gf [21] of a couple months asked me [21M] to get something for her at her house one day, while looking for it I opened one of her drawers and under some clothes I found a male vibrating ring with lube... before all this I had asked her if she’s ever used any toys or anything and she said no and that those kinds of things freak her out.. I’m just confused now as to why she still has the thing when she tells me her past relationships were so bad.. and also why she would lie to me about that kind of thing... I’m a very understanding person.. I just don’t know how to bring it up without seeming nosy.. I want her to tell me but I don’t think she ever will.. I know this is a newer relationship but she says she’ll tell me anything and that she’ll never hide things from me.. I already have trust issues from my past ex of two years and just don’t want little things like this to stop me from trusting her.. I’d just like a little advice on how I can move forward with her... TL;DR: My gf ...

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years with plans to move out of state. Less than 2 months away from the move (and after months of me applying for jobs there) he told me he no longer wants to move. His reason is money (he makes more in our current city). We had made plans to move, buy a house, get engaged and later have kids. By staying, this is pushing the entire timeline, which I understand as he is not ready. There hasn’t been much of a discussion, he just told me he was staying and he’d like me to stay with him. I personally did not see a future where we currently live (very expensive, almost no social life, poor work environment/commute for me). I love him and want to stay together I’m feeling stuck in something where I did not get any part in the decision making. I’m trying to process the news and see this as a new “adventure” but it’s not really working right now. Looking for some advice if anyone been in a similar situation and if they’ve been able to ke...

I’ve dealt with depression at various points throughout my life, and I’ve considered my sisters (28f, 25f) my best friends but I try not to let them know because anytime I have broached the subject, I am accused of attention-seeking. But two weekends ago, I was with both sisters (which is rare, because I live in Colorado and they live on either coast) and when we were drinking, I finally told them how I’ve been struggling. In such a state, I told my oldest sister about past suicide attempts and my current episode. After we all parted back to our respective hometowns, I began receiving texts from her asking if I’d found a therapist, demanding that I set up an appointment with one and give her all the information, that when I found one I had to call her after each appointment, that I had to set up regular appointments and give her access to my calendar, etc. I feel like this is a huge invasion of my privacy. To be fair, therapy wouldn’t be a bad idea. I used student health services wh...

(Throwaway for obvious reasons) So I broke up with my gf of a year yesterday. Both of us are pretty young, I’m 17, she’s 19. I feel like I’m ready to start hooking up and talking with other girls. I’m not looking for a relationship, just a good time. How soon is too soon to start making moves? I feel like I should be sad about the end of my last relationship but the breakup was pretty friendly and amicable so I don’t feel very upset. I just would hate for her to here that I hooked up with several girls like a week after we broke up. So, how soon is too soon? tl;dr broke up with my gf, want to know when it’s acceptable to hook up with someone else Submitted April 05, 2019 at 09:18PM (Throwaway for obvious reasons)So I broke up with my gf of a year yesterday. Both of us are pretty young, I’m 17, she’s 19.I feel like I’m ready to start hooking up and talking with other girls. I’m not looking for a relationship, just a good time.How soon is too soon to start making moves? I fee...

Oookay so, throwaway account in case this dude has reddit, and also my first post here, sorry if it's too long! My friend(24F) and I(25F) have been best friends since we were 12. We went through school together, we've lived together, I spoil her child, we go on our vacations together every year. We are going on vacation together in a few weeks, actually. And she wants to get a place together soon. We are as close as two friends can be and it's been relatively fine until recently. Recently my friend had a bad bad BAD breakup with her husband (they've been dating since they were 13), and dealt with it by jumping headfirst into a relationship with this random dude (25M) that she met through a friend. ​ I wasn't too happy about it, rebound relationships aren't ever really good, but out of respect for her and her wobbly mental state, I kept that to myself and went out to eat with them. Within ten minutes of being in this man's car, he shouted something really ...

I have been dating a girl I met three months back, and I have been seriously considering if she is that cliché "the one". I gave her a ring I had been saving for a girl I wanted to go "steady" with (I'm old fashioned, hush), which I thought she was that girl. Now I just don't know how to feel or what to do. Backstory: My ex(?) girlfriend and I fit together so perfectly. We both suffer from Fibromyalgia and several other diseases that are an offshoot of it. We love the same books, TV shows, movies, music, hobbies, etc. We've both been through a lot mentally, and honestly she just understands me very well. She can usually figure out what I thinking or planning by my facial expressions or tiny hints I give away when speaking. We haven't had any fights, and there has only been one problem that I would say is moderately important, but wouldn't break us up. She's an extremely bad texter, she forgets to reply and often can't think of a reply...

My GF has a pretty large sexual history and was saying how she doesn't like sex if she doesn't have an orgasm She says I am really good at sex but is stressing to much that she isn't good enough for me and she says that I am doing everything right it's just her overthinking and stressing Any advice? Submitted April 05, 2019 at 08:24PM My GF has a pretty large sexual history and was saying how she doesn't like sex if she doesn't have an orgasm She says I am really good at sex but is stressing to much that she isn't good enough for me and she says that I am doing everything right it's just her overthinking and stressing Any advice?

Pretty straight forward, my girlfriend and I are interested in going further with her cock sucking, and we're looking for any insight, advice or tips from you lovely folks, rather than us just blindly stumbling ahead/trying to mimic porn. She's been working a lot at deep throating me, is almost all the way there, and has been enjoying having me push her further down onto me. We've also had her lay on her back at the edge of the bed while I gently face fuck her, or she guides me in. Submitted April 05, 2019 at 08:28PM Pretty straight forward, my girlfriend and I are interested in going further with her cock sucking, and we're looking for any insight, advice or tips from you lovely folks, rather than us just blindly stumbling ahead/trying to mimic porn.She's been working a lot at deep throating me, is almost all the way there, and has been enjoying having me push her further down onto me. We've also had her lay on her back at the edge of the bed while I g...

Hubby wants to have sex at night, but I’m tired. If we do have sex, I have a hard time waking up the next morning and I’m sleepy all day. I really want to get it on with him at night. Any solutions? Submitted April 05, 2019 at 08:37PM Hubby wants to have sex at night, but I’m tired. If we do have sex, I have a hard time waking up the next morning and I’m sleepy all day.I really want to get it on with him at night. Any solutions?

Hey guys, I need help. I'll try to explain this. There is this girl in my class, basically she is just so beautiful and nice to everyone. I kind of developed feelings for her last year, but it was nothing much at first. Few weeks ago I started to like her, but like hard. As you can assume I am not a very good looking guy and I was always a bit weird and she is like the best looking girl ever. I accepted the fact that I don't have a chance with her. Few days ago my friend tells me he saw her with a guy on a date and I was like ok, then he said that he thinks she really likes me. He noticed how she looks at me frequently and always laughs at my jokes. He told me I should try to elevate things between us because the thing between that guy and her won't go far. I kind of tried to remember something that could tell me if she likes me. I remember a few thing but it's still unclear to me. Right now I don't know what to do. I don't know do I even like her, I'm sure...

Would love to get some advice from you guys :) Is it possible to ever fall in love with someone else? I've been texting this long-distance guy on and off* for almost 10 years now (since I was 15) and he is the only guy I ever liked. EVER. I never had any other crush, never looked at any other guy & never even imagined being with someone else. So I'm really worried I'd never like anyone again and I don't know how to fix that. *The reason for this being "on&off" is because he is often flakey & indecisive - gets and loses interest in me once in a while. And yes, I'm aware that is crazy and toxic that's why I'm trying to end our chats once and for all and finally move on. Submitted April 05, 2019 at 08:27PM Would love to get some advice from you guys :) Is it possible to ever fall in love with someone else?I've been texting this long-distance guy on and off* for almost 10 years now (since I was 15) and he is the only guy I ever...

So there's a guy I'm sort of getting to seeing, we've kissed once or twice and have planned to meet up. I unfortunately suffer from coldsores, which fortunately don't often come up. I've kissed him when they're down so I'm fine but my lips are tingling at the minute and if they come up when we're supposed to meet I'll HAVE to tell him. But if they stay down/come up and I avoid him, do I really need to tell him? I've kissed many people and never passed it on I am very sensible, I just don't want him to be put off if I tell him and there's no need. I don't want to tell him when he's never seen one on me and be like ew nope. Tldr; I have coldsores, while they're not yet interfering should I tell him or nay? Submitted April 05, 2019 at 08:17PM So there's a guy I'm sort of getting to seeing, we've kissed once or twice and have planned to meet up.I unfortunately suffer from coldsores, which fortunately don'...

So I met this guy, he's 45, through mutual friends a couple of years ago. As I have previously stated in other posts, I am a devoted single girl in her forties, and I make sure men know this about me immediately so they don't try. This guy, though, had a wedding ring, talked about his wife and son, and so the pressure was off. He was someone I clicked with immediately, we had so much in common, and I was really happy to make a friend. As an aside, yes, he's gorgeous, and if you were to design a man for me, he'd be pretty close to it. But, again, he's married, and I am a single. So a friendship ensued. He did mention the night we met that his wife had recently opened up their marriage, and it put me off for a second, but he also said he wasn't participating in her little experiment. So it wasn't a come on. I told him that didn't sound like open marriage to me, that sounded like infidelity, but ok. ​ He texted me a few times, about books he thought I...

My boyfriend lost his brother a little under a year ago. Every two weeks or so, he will get into these really bad moods where he’s a complete ass. I try to console him and let him know that I’m here if he needs to talk but he does this frustrating thing where he doesn’t want attention but when you don’t give it to him he will get even more irritated. I’ll ask him “hey do you want to be left alone for a while?” And I either get an “idk” or a “stop”. If I continue to talk to him while he’s in his mood he just answers in 1-2 word answers. I have no idea what I can do when he’s in this state, it seems like whatever I do is wrong. Tbh I’m getting pretty tired of it. I understand he’s still grieving but I don’t deserve to be treated like crap. He won’t tell me what exactly is wrong and what I can do to help him or not help him. I don’t deserve to be treated wrong every couple of weeks. If I bring it up then he will spin it on me and use his brother as an excuse so he corners me to where I...

TL;DR [26F] in confusing standpoint with boyfriend [27M] after 7 years together. Both striving to further education with no rush on marriage/starting a family until being financially secure. BF recently started working full time (first FT job since exiting the army 5 years ago), in a stressful field. 6 months into the job, decided life is getting too stressful and first idea was to take a break from the relationship to get some time for himself to destress (I’m pretty laid back, let him do his thing and only voice concerns if communication seems odd between us). Five days after suggesting a break and still no clear idea where he stands after seeing the emotional impact on me and hearing/reading my pleas for trying to see his viewpoint/voicing my viewpoints on all the situations he sees as stressful(all job/family related). Unsure of next step I should take. (More details not shared, just a general overview) TL;DR BF of 7 years lacks communication on relationship standpoint after sugg...

Hey everyone, ​ I'm so sorry this is so long. Maybe I'll get it published someday (just kidding). It could be I just need to write this down somewhere. But I would love, love, love some advice. ​ Thanks so much for reading this. ​ June: HOOK-UP We meet on a dating app and start hooking up. No issues, aside from when I thought I was getting serious with someone and told him I would like to remain friends. He told me he can't transition from a physical to platonic relationship easily. I rapidly realized the other person was horrible for me, left that shitshow, and asked now-bf if we wanted to link up again. He was down. We're exclusive by September. He needed to relocate in October. ​ October: BACKSTORY Before going into an LDR with me, requested an open relationship. That day, he messaged his ex. I told him I wasn't down for an open relationship--just us or nothing. He was 100% down, told me he was a big monogamy guy, though he thought long-distance...

clarification I work 25 hours per week while he works 40. I just went part time about 10 weeks ago to finish my schooling but I'm almost done and going back full time again. This has been ongoing most of our relationship not just lately. Let me start by saying I love my husband. We've been together five years, married for two. No kids. I'm boiling angry right now just thinking about this. He works full time and I work part time at the moment, about to go back full time. I know he's tired. His job is physically and mentally stressing but he does love it and the company he's with. The house chores are something I don't know how to reason with him about. Dishes: Me. 100% of the time unless I ask. I asked him to unload the dishwasher yesterday while I was at work (he was off) so I could do the dishes when I got home. I just finished unloading the dishwasher because it was only partially done. Floors: Me. 100% of the time. He vacuumed the living room this wee...

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. He's generally been kind, patient, and understanding in many ways, and he goes to a lot of lengths to make me happy. There's just one thing that is driving me NUTS, and that is why he won't tell me the truth about his romantic past before me. Before he and I got together we had been FWBs for a year. The first time we slept together, he had cheated on his most recent ex, and he broke up with her the day after and we continued to sleep together. In my defense I tried to tell him I was not down for this kind of thing (i.e. encouraging cheating) but he coaxed me into it, and I, not knowing many details of his private life back then, eventually gave in after about 1 hour of saying no. We slept together for about a year. I got feelings for him. After a few months of holding them back, I confessed my feelings to him, and he openly told me he wished to just be friends. I said that ok, that hurt me very much, but that means I would...