I [28F] can't stop stalking my old coworker on social media [31M]

I used to have a really big crush on my coworker back when we worked together in 2016. Nothing really happened between us, but once he caught on to how I felt he started lashing out at me and treating me like crap. I did my best to respect his boundaries, but my manger kept pairing us together on projects. Sometimes he would be nice to me and other times he would lash out. He would always yell at me, talk down to me and embarrass me at work until eventually I couldn't handle it anymore and quit on the spot. It was a huge slap in the face because we worked at an insurance company and I quit during the busiest time of the year.

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I've been in a committed relationship for while now and I haven't spoken to my coworker since the day I left that job. For whatever reason, I feel compelled to check his instagram and twitter even though he deleted me on both (his pages are public). I don't know why I'm still "hung up" on this guy that treated me poorly.

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I don't know if it's low self esteem or just me looking for some sign that he is miserable and regrets the way he treated me. Either way, I thought I'd post on here and get some input.

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tl;dr I keep stalking my old coworker on social media even though he treated me poorly when we worked together- hot and cold, lashing out, etc. i'm seeing someone now and we're really happy together. as odd as it sounds, a part of me still hopes he's miserable and regrets the way he treated me.



Submitted April 05, 2019 at 06:50PM

I used to have a really big crush on my coworker back when we worked together in 2016. Nothing really happened between us, but once he caught on to how I felt he started lashing out at me and treating me like crap. I did my best to respect his boundaries, but my manger kept pairing us together on projects. Sometimes he would be nice to me and other times he would lash out. He would always yell at me, talk down to me and embarrass me at work until eventually I couldn't handle it anymore and quit on the spot. It was a huge slap in the face because we worked at an insurance company and I quit during the busiest time of the year.​I've been in a committed relationship for while now and I haven't spoken to my coworker since the day I left that job. For whatever reason, I feel compelled to check his instagram and twitter even though he deleted me on both (his pages are public). I don't know why I'm still "hung up" on this guy that treated me poorly.​I don't know if it's low self esteem or just me looking for some sign that he is miserable and regrets the way he treated me. Either way, I thought I'd post on here and get some input.​tl;dr I keep stalking my old coworker on social media even though he treated me poorly when we worked together- hot and cold, lashing out, etc. i'm seeing someone now and we're really happy together. as odd as it sounds, a part of me still hopes he's miserable and regrets the way he treated me.
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